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frustrated

rsalatarsalata member
in June 2015 Moms
Sexually that is. It just seems my man isn't interested in me. He takes paxil which effects his labido though he denies that fact. I'm the kind of woman that needs love and attention, we all do but I am a little on the needy side. It hurts my feelings. I already feel huge cause I've gained a lot of weight since I've gotten pregnant. I've talked to him about it but nothing happens. It's like he just don't get it. I'm 25 and he is 39. I'm not sure if that is a contributing factor. I just don't want things to go stale. Sorry if there's already a thread for this topic I just can't seem to be able to search them and I've tried multiple times. :/ ugh the pregnancy emotions
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Re: frustrated

  • HayesRN13HayesRN13 member
    Is it just the actual physical side effect of him not able to be aroused? Does he cuddle and do other things to show his interest and love.... Or is he totally detached from you? Either way it must be tough, I find myself glued to DH and I don't know what I would do if he wasn't the same way back
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  • rsalatarsalata member
    He is affectionate I would be devastated if he wasn't. He's just not interested in sex. I feel crappy asking him because I have always been the initiator and I just want it to be the other way around. Sometimes the male mind is very confusing. Thank u for getting back to me.
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  • ksimo6ksimo6 member
    Have you talked to him about how you feel?  It may help.  

    I am usually way more interested than my husband but this pregnancy has left me so exhausted that sex is the last thing on my mind. I finally just had to telly my husband that I would not likely initiate (not because I don't want to but because I am too tired to even think about it) and that if he wanted it, he should act right after we put our daughter down...otherwise I will likley fall asleep.  He's been really good about it.  Very understanding. 
    • Married 6/1/2012
    • BFP #1 - 11/17/2012 -  MC 12/10/2012
    • BFP #2 - 2/12/2013 - EDD 10/17/2013 - DD Born 10/10/2013
    • BFP #3 - 1/29/2014 - Ectopic pregnancy discovered 1/31/2014
    • BFP #4 - 9/28/2014 - EDD 6/4/2015 - DS Born 5/31/2015


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  • rsalatarsalata member
    I've told him so many times. I just don't want to feel like I'm begging him. I've told him how I feel he's just really closed off emotionally. I know he loves me and he holds me at night and we even cuddle while watching TV. I guess I just got to wait for him to come around. We're going through some pretty stressful stuff. So that could be a part of it. I hope it passes and things go back to normal. Thank u
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  • taboullio84taboullio84 member
    I personally didn't like to be "forced" into having sex with my guy. He might feel the same way. The more you push or " nag" about it there less he will want to do it. He is giving you attention.. So it's not that he not loving you or attracted to you.. When I was on medication sex kind of dropped off. You don't need to keep having that talk with him. Set him down state your case and give him time.
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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    Some of my friends husbands had a hard time being intimate when their wives were pregnant. Like they were going to hurt the baby. Could this be the case for him?
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  • rsalatarsalata member
    Yeah I definitely don't wantto be a nagger. I hate that cause I'm really easy going. I just got a higher sex drive than he does. And as long as I get cuddles I'll be fine.
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