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edited March 2015 in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Well, like every mama, I hoped I would never have to post here. We found out we were expecting last month and were thrilled as it took us a while to conceive. A week after finding out, I had some bleeding but no cramping. Had my betas done which showed I was where my dates said I was. Had them drawn four days later (due to a weekend) and while they went up and were in the range again for where I thought I was, they weren't doubling. The doctor scheduled me for an ultrasound a few days later to make sure it wasn't ectopic. At the ultrasound, we saw a gestational and yolk sac but it measured a week behind my dates. That wasn't possible because I was temping and using opks and it wouldn't have been possible with when I got my BFP. Of course, everyone tried giving me hope but deep down, something didn't feel right. They scheduled me for another ultrasound 11 days later (this week Monday) which showed the same thing and the sac only grew a week. Was scheduled for another ultrasound next Monday to see if there was growth or if we needed to make a plan. Tuesday I woke up to brown discharge which turned pink as the day when on. I also had a back ache. By bedtime, I started bleeding. Yesterday morning the bleeding continued and by the afternoon I was cramping. Today, I still haven't passed the sac but continue to have bleeding and cramps. I pray this process will soon be over so I don't also have a constant physical reminder that we won't ever have this baby. I am so heartbroken at the loss of all my dreams for our family. I feel pretty alone because DH and I are processing it in very different ways and I've just been left at home to go through it while he goes to work. Maybe I'm just being emotional and irrational but I had hoped he would take a day off to be with me through this. Please tell me it gets easier emotionally. I never knew your heart could hurt this bad and it's hard to imagine a day where I will feel happy again. Also, is it normal for cramping and passing clots to come and go? Can this process go on for days?
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Re: Intro *LONG*

  • mrsgillham14mrsgillham14 member
    I miscarried last Wednesday. I have dark brown spotting on Tuesday and tried to ignore it. Wednesday morning I had full on red blood and clots. Thursday still a lot of clots but less blood. Over the weekend the blood lightened up and there were almost no clots. Today (day 8) I have very dark brown blood and clots again. My doctor told me it can go in waves. She said the worst of it is probably over but the bleeding could pick up again.
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    mrsgillham14 said:

    I miscarried last Wednesday. I have dark brown spotting on Tuesday and tried to ignore it. Wednesday morning I had full on red blood and clots. Thursday still a lot of clots but less blood. Over the weekend the blood lightened up and there were almost no clots. Today (day 8) I have very dark brown blood and clots again. My doctor told me it can go in waves. She said the worst of it is probably over but the bleeding could pick up again.

    I was under the impression I should expect the gestational sac to come out whole. Is it possible for it to just come out bit by bit in the form of many small clots?
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  • MrsGargoyleMrsGargoyle
    I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

    It is possible to have either scenario happen and there isn't a way to predict it, short of good luck on an ultrasound (seeing large separated clots, versus a more uniform appearing sac). Even good imaging can't always tell. If you are bleeding and filling a pad an hour, or if the pain is getting very bad, get to the ER. With the bleeding, it's because of complication risk, and with the pain, it's because no one deserves to go through the passing of an intact sac without proper pain control. But, it does vary greatly from individual to individual and miscarriage to miscarriage, so use your own judgment and instinct.

    All advice given based on lengthy personal experience.

    I am not a doctor, I just have a working medical vocabulary.

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  • 4N6s4N6s member
    I'm sorry for your loss. :(
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  • KMKaiser07KMKaiser07 member
    MrsGargoyle said:

    I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

    It is possible to have either scenario happen and there isn't a way to predict it, short of good luck on an ultrasound (seeing large separated clots, versus a more uniform appearing sac). Even good imaging can't always tell. If you are bleeding and filling a pad an hour, or if the pain is getting very bad, get to the ER. With the bleeding, it's because of complication risk, and with the pain, it's because no one deserves to go through the passing of an intact sac without proper pain control. But, it does vary greatly from individual to individual and miscarriage to miscarriage, so use your own judgment and instinct.

    When you say to go to the er if I'm filling a pad an hour (this is going to sound so naive) does that mean the pad is soaked and couldn't hold more or it's covered and I'm changing it for sanitary purposes? This is so new to me and while the doctor gave good info over the phone, I didn't fully process everything in that call to think of every possible question I may have. I feel like this is all taking a good amount of time and I'm not entirely sure it's normal. I feel like if I passed what I needed to the aches and pains (not pleasant but manageable without meds) should be gone. I also feel like I should have passed more clots than what I have in the 48+ hours since everything started. Guess it's time to put a call in tomorrow to double check everything sounds normal.
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