Shortest fuse...only with my husband

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rrcameron21 · March 2015

You're lucky it's just with your husband!! I have a short fuse with just about anyone. I just left WalMart and everyone there is lucky I didn't kill them. Like why do people have to sit and stare at things for SO long?! Just grab what you want and go! I loitered around the medicine aisle waiting for this family to move along and I'm not kidding it took them 15 minutes to pick out cough syrup. I had to leave the store without getting everything off my list before I took my anger out on someone. I hate WalMart in the first place but I had to pick up prenatal vitamins... I think I need to choose a new pharmacy.

rrcameron21 · March 2015

And if my fiancé asks me what's wrong one more time he's going to have to permanently sleep on the couch. Like , nothing is wrong! I'm just not always sunshine and rainbows!

Excuse my vent fest. But, I feel your pain.

megtyrrell · March 2015

I've been really short with my fiancé lately. I blow up on him for every little thing and then I feel so awful about it. I hate the way I sound when I speak to him in a certain tone of voice sometimes. I don't know what's causing this but I'm going to try to be more mindful of my tone and how I treat him.

MrsWiggleWaggle · March 2015

Just guessing here...but I have trouble personally "feeling all the feelings" and I tend to suppress serious inner fears and turmoils. Saturday I thew a fit because 10am rolled around and my husband had not made breakfast so I angrily and dramatically did so. It ended with me sobbing "but you are the one who make breakfast on Saturdays! Why would you wait till 10 am to feed me! At which point he just hugged me and fed me."

I have had the blues all week and it has been hard to figure out what's really going on internally. I think I have a lot of pent up anxiety and fear about this huge transition we are making which includes me not working, spending a ton of cash and moving countries again.

TL;DR VERSION: maybe take an inventory of your internal life right now and figure out if you need to be more gentle with yourself aka feel all the feels if you need to. Being annoyed at your husband's petty obnoxiousness could just be a side effect. Could be hormones amplifying other real stuff you are dealing with.

klkonwi · March 2015

I am short with everyone. I do not have a propensity for bullshit anymore. I've gotten in several arguments with older nurses that I work with because I can no longer hold back my disdain! Love pregnancy........ ! Hang in there with the husband..... It will get better.... When the baby is out.... Maybe lol