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Picking Godparents

owlrightyowlrighty member
in September 2015 Moms
How are you all picking godparents?

We know for sure we are picking my husband's best friend and I am torn on who to make the godmother or if we should even have one. We both each have a really close female friend we are considering, but his doesn't share a majority of our beliefs religious/political and mine is newly married and can be a little flaky. Both would be there for our child even if they weren't godmother.

Clarification: We aren't looking for guardians incase of emergency, more spiritual and moral guidance as they grow up and need others to turn to, so no need for a couple.

So how are you making the choice and who are you choosing?
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  • eah325eah325 member
    We are really struggling with this. We don't have very many Catholic friends- the ones we do aren't in good standing due to divorce, so they aren't eligible. It's definitely going to be a challenge for us. Our legal guardian would be my brother-in-law, but he's not eligible as Godfather because he has never been baptized.
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  • sdheft619sdheft619 member
    I'm struggling as well with this. I'm religious and my family attends church. I'm picking for spiritual reasons as well. My sister is going to be my Godmother, she practices. My husband was wanting his brother, but I'm not wanting him because he doesn't even attend church...at all. What a struggle.

    Good luck!
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  • szarlotkaszarlotka member
    Also in a pickle... I identify as a liberal Catholic, but my husband wasn't raised Christian and is no longer religious at all.  We agreed a long time ago that we would baptize our kids in the Catholic church, but the godparent question is hard since most people we know aren't religious, let alone Catholic.  I have a few female cousins who are good godmother candidates.  While I do have male cousins, one is probably not in good standing, two just seem too young, and the others don't seem like a good fit either.  We think one of my husband's friends/coworkers is Catholic, but we're not 100% sure and he's not currently a super-close friend.
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  • owlrightyowlrighty member
    Wowzer! It seems all you ladies are having a problem due to church requirements :( good luck ladies!
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  • shaunnar053shaunnar053 member
    Me and DF aren't sold on choosing official godparents due to some of the same reasons as OP mentioned. It's so hard finding people you can truly relate to and trust having a part in being a moralistic and supportive role model for your child. Neither of us really practice organized region, so that isn't necessarily a deal breaker for us, but neither of us trust ANYONE to even watch the baby except my mom! And that will even be hard for me. I think it's just hard because these babies are our hearts and souls and we are trying to choose people we can trust to be a huge part of that. Baby will still have a village of family surrounding them with lots of love, and if anything were to happen to us (God forbid), baby will be taken care of by my parents or my brother, so maybe my brother and his girlfriend??? Ehhh idk it's so hard lol.
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  • ForeverEverAfterForeverEverAfter member
    We aren't catholic, and our church doesn't do infant baptism, so we didn't formally assign godparents for #1, though our best friends are in the role (my BFF married his BFF). None of our parents or siblings are in a position to take on our kids if something happened. These friends are called Aunt and Uncle, have kids similar ages to ours, he has very similar religious beliefs to mine, and she has identical parenting views. They will both provide guidance and serve as guardians if needed. For us it was an easy choice, most of our other close friends have widely different views in at least one area. These 2 are longtime friends and have always provided sound advice and a shoulder when in need.
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  • Elizabeth043086Elizabeth043086 member

    Sorry I thought that said grandparents rofl.  I thought, no honey you can't,  I wish you could...

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  • vmcarbonevmcarbone member
    Godfather for us is easy, it'll be DH's brother. Godmother is hard. Two of friends have always made comments about being Godmother. The one isn't Catholic, but lives around our town. The other is Catholic, but she lives in Europe (she plans to come in once the baby is born) and I like the idea of her being Godmother so she can feel connected with the baby even though she's far away. Sigh, life. I hate hurting people's feelings.

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  • Knottie00400192Knottie00400192 member
    I am having a hard time picking a Godmommy...not for religious reasons because I am more spiritual but because the one friend that I would pick is already a godparent and busy with school and her career and my other good girlfriend would be great, but she already has 2 god kids and my hubby isn't too fond of her. So idk either
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  • KERJFKERJF member
    I am happy we have no church requirements - must be hard to have those! My best friend does and it is the reason I cant be a godmother to any of her kids (Im Lutheran) :(

    Our girls share Godparents - my brother, DHs sister. And our second has a second Godmother - my best friend. DH had long winded super boring reasons why I couldnt just name my best (who i have known since 5th grade, shes basically my sister lol) so whatever. I caved again for him haha

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  • trj724trj724 member
    DS1 has my best friend as his godmother and his dads friend as his godfather which I totally regret as we no longer have contact with these individuals but I was young and stupid and didn't put much thought into it. DS2 has my brother and my sister-in-law. And this baby will have my cousin who is more like a sister to me and my husbands cousin as godfather. If possible I recommend keeping it in the family, solely based on my experience with having friends step up to the part, but like I said too I was young and stupid!
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  • MousemamaMousemama member
    As a thought, could you pick a godparent who's in good standing with the church and hope that they get married at some point? That's what my parents did when I was born - my mom's cousin wasn't married yet but they really wanted her to be my godmother, so they just hoped for the best. Once she did get married, I had a godfather. Good luck making your choice!
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  • nursekatie47nursekatie47 member
    We picked a couple that were very involved with our old church and we are very close to them (she is the youth minister and he is part of the Knights of Columbus) for our first and then his brother and sister for our second. I have no idea who we will pick this time and I sort of wish we had picked the first couple for our son too and again for this baby.
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