Feeling down about myself :(

MrsPinkPeony · March 2015

I'm recently feeling like my self esteem is shot. I am having a hard time looking at myself in the mirror and getting myself dressed in anything other than yoga pants and drapey clothes. I understand why my body is changing and I am so so happy about this little life growing inside me, but I can't shake this feeling of self loathe. I can't remember feeling this was when I was pregnant with DD.

I feel like everything is changing for he worst (hair, skin, boobs, arms, legs), it's not just my belly growing. I have all these cute ideas for outfits and everything just looks horrible right now. I need a lift. I'm still working out a few days a week and trying to get back some healthy eating habits after an atrociously unhealthy 1st tri, but it doesn't seem to be making an difference. I know it's seems superficial, but it's something I feel I can't control right now and hats really difficult for me. I feel depressed about it everyday and it's affecting everything I do. I'm hoping when my bump is more defined, ill feel a little bit happier with my appearance. I am an extremely blessed person and feel like such an idiot for feeling this way, but my emotions are out of check and I feel like nobody close to me would understand how I'm feeling so I'm venting here. Thanks for letting me share! Whew, that was a mouthful!

BeachBabe22 · March 2015

I feel the same exact way! I have always been in shape and a pretty healthy person but this pregnancy is dragging me down. We eat mostly paleo and i've been so sick and carbs are the only thing that helps with the nausea and vomiting. I snack on crackers and pretzels all day long and sometimes in the middle of the night. I have not worked out once since I found out I was pregnant. It's a struggle just to do work around the house and chase after my 2.5 year old. I've gained nine pounds so far and i'm retaining so much water. My face is so puffy all of the time that I feel like I don't even look like myself. I'm hoping to start feeling better soon so I can get my eating and working out back on track.

cuppylove · March 2015

I get in this rut even when I'm not pregnant... But especially now. I've found what helps is spending a little TLC & $ on myself. Indulging in a massage & facial. Having my hair cut &/or blown out. Buying a new outfit... Superficial I know, but they seem to perk me up.
I feel your pain, you are not alone. Between my dry scalp & skin, acne, and weight gain... Oh yes and utter exhaustion making working out and cleaning impossible, I feel down in the dumps sometimes. I don't think this weather is helping either.
Chin up though! Pamper yourself a bit & keep looking at those US pictures... Bound to put at least a temporary smile on your face.

Knottie00400192 · March 2015

Omg I feel the same way at times love! I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I would suggest that you take some time and treat yourself to some new work clothes and outfits. I bought some beautiful new work dresses, new bathing suits and pants, and plan on buying more! And if you're going to stick with leggings, buy some beautiful tops, do your makeup and hair and get confident! As shitty as I feel in the morning lol I feel so much better when I spruce up!

irenejean · March 2015

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I definitely have days like that too! I second the pp who mentioned pampering yourself and getting a massage, pre-natal massages are awesome! Spa day, new haircut, etc, definitely worth indulging in if it helps with the blahs.

trinijenib · March 2015

Well ladies! We all have our days and sometimes I do to! Sometimes I just makeup n dress up in whatever fits n take bumpies! Best pick me up!

joannerows · March 2015

I almost cried when I bought maternity jeans at 11 weeks but I've loved wearing them. I'm still not out yet at 16 weeks and I feel huge! I got a facial deal on groupon to help me with my acne. Retail therapy definitely helped too! I hope things look up for u! Happy mommy and happy baby!

missliz53 · March 2015

I know exactly how you are feeling. When I look in the mirror and see my belly expanding, I don't feel very pretty either. I know some women just look adorable when they are pregnant, but I am not one of them. You just have to keep reminding yourself that you are supposed to look this way right now. It also helps me to put makeup on and put on my cute maternity stuff as opposed to my yoga pants and DH's t-shirts. I feel better if I look more put together. I bought a couple pairs of cute new earrings to wear and a new pair of shoes. It's hard because you see all these pictures of pregnant celebrities who look flawless and only the occasional pregnant woman in real life.

hlb8179 · March 2015

Totally feeling the same way. Here are a couple things that are helping me a little that might also help you.
1. Reading "does this pregnancy make me look fat?"
2. Watching this week's episode of the money project.
Hope it helps! Good luck!

kvilla4 · March 2015

This is how I feel I got up at 11 pm last night to try to work out

and drank a lot of water my arms is we're all my baby weight seems to be going and Iam not liking it I hate!!! It I wish I can rip off my armpit !!

AndieTessie · March 2015

Hang in there! I know how you feel, I tell my husband it's like going through puberty all over again, EVERYTHING on my body is changing. I even have some burst blood vessels on my right breast, it looks so so bad. I miss having my "skinny" days, I always feel chubby now even though I lost a few pounds. Maybe go get your hair done if you're up to it, or buy a new cute pair of sandals for the spring (my feet are still skinny lol) I think it will get better once we're out of the "is she pregnant or just have a big lunch?" stage. And don't be too hard on yourself, hormones are crazy and even if you felt different with your first, every pregnancy is so different. We are all doing something so beautiful right now, even if it doesn't always feel that way!

PreggersinParis · March 2015

You're working out a few days a week! That's a huge accomplishment! You really should be proud of yourself. I am.

But I hear you, oh do I hear you. Up until a few days ago, it was 3 months of feeling like fresh poo. All the time. And I'm still not 100%. My face is puffy, the only pants that are nice to me are gym sweats or my maternity sweats that are currently cradling my food baby not my bump, and I have a few zits cropping up. I look awesome. For a while I couldn't even look at Facebook to see people living life because I couldn't get myself out of bed and be productive and it was bringing me way down.

I'm now starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel with bursts of energy that allows me to exercise and submit work (I'm a writer.)

Hang in there! It'll get better! In the meantime, treat yourself like the other ladies are suggesting. I find watching the Friends pregnancy episodes (both Phoebe and Rachel) to be a great comic relief while sipping on a mocktail in bed. Do it. You deserve it!

Mousemama · March 2015

I know how you feel! I've got an awful metabolism, so pre-pregnancy I had to skip a lot of meals to keep my weight even close to normal. Now that I'm pregnant, I know I can't do that and be healthy, but I've gained around 20 pounds already! It's really hard to feel pretty when nothing fits and you feel lumpy and awkward, but hang in there! Once my belly popped a few weeks ago (I showed early with my son, too), I felt so much better about myself - I bet you will, too. Yoga pants are comfy as heck, but get yourself some pretty maternity clothes, especially a nice pair of jeans to show off all your awesome new curves! You're growing a person and that makes every woman look extra pretty.

monicaP · March 2015

Mousemama said:
I know how you feel! I've got an awful metabolism, so pre-pregnancy I had to skip a lot of meals to keep my weight even close to normal. Now that I'm pregnant, I know I can't do that and be healthy, but I've gained around 20 pounds already! It's really hard to feel pretty when nothing fits and you feel lumpy and awkward, but hang in there! Once my belly popped a few weeks ago (I showed early with my son, too), I felt so much better about myself - I bet you will, too. Yoga pants are comfy as heck, but get yourself some pretty maternity clothes, especially a nice pair of jeans to show off all your awesome new curves! You're growing a person and that makes every woman look extra pretty.

Totally agree. Grab a good friend and go shopping for clothes that feel good and stylish. You are awesome and sometimes a little pampering can go a long way.

MrsPinkPeony · March 2015

You girls are awesome. I really appreciate your kind words and advice (and company, hehe). I just bought a new top for a bridal shower Sunday, ordered some maternity jeans online, and splurged on some St. Tropez tanning mousse (doc said its ok). Planning to update my makeup this weekend! It's so hard to find time to shop or do anything for myself, but I now realize how important it is to "make" time. Thanks again, ladies!

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