Who is throwing your baby shower?

aakirtz · March 2015

I am curious who is hosting your baby showers? I haven't lived here long and don't have any super close friends who I would expect to throw my shower. My mom lives 6 hours away. I was expecting my MIL and SIL who live nearby to throw it but they haven't said anything yet ( I co-hosted my SIL's shower) today I got a text from SIL asking if any of my friends would be throwing a shower and if so would they be invited. I'm trying not to be offended but am really having a hard time not getting upset. I have been to several baby showers hosted by the MIL. I am a transplant to the south after being born and raised in the north. Maybe I don't understand the southern social conventions when it comes to showers?

alliebarry13 · March 2015

My mom and sister are throwing mine, with help from my MIL who lives in a different state. It's the same here in the south, close friends, moms, sisters, in laws, whoever are supposed to throw the shower. I'm sorry you feel that way. I would probably feel offended too. Maybe just ask them if they have anything planned so you can make a registry or so you don't have to do something? Or have hubby ask!

kyrenora · March 2015

I'm not really supposed to know that my mother and MIL are throwing my shower. My husband overheard them talking about it when they were both over here, and he can't keep a secret from me to save his life. Maybe your MIL is also keeping it hush-hush?

asherk · March 2015

My mom and MIL are hosting mine, since I don't have any sisters and my closest girl friends are 6 hours away (one of them offered, but I told her not to since it would be such a hassle for her). Maybe tell your SIL that you're not sure you're having a shower (since no one has offered), and see what happens from there? They really may just not have realized that there's no one else to throw one for you.

ETA that I'm from the south, so I don't think it's a southern thing.

Edited AGAIN to add that one of my coworkers has said that they're also throwing me a shower, but I haven't heard anything more about it than that.

iteachkids81 · March 2015

My best friend who lives 4.5 hrs away,is teaming up with our other friend who is local to me to throw it. We're having it at my house to help cut costs. (I have a big back yard! )

My sister and stepmom along with all aunts etc all live in Canada (I'm in NY). my MIL is recently deceased, but she was the one who threw my wedding shower.

kleinjm1 · March 2015

My moms (mine, husbands, and step mom) and sisters are throwing mine. Maybe they were checking to see if someone was throwing you one. If you tell them no one so far maybe that will be their cue to take it on?

oneblessedmess · March 2015

I'm having two- One is being thrown by my mom and sister in my hometown, where most of my family and some friends still live, and my SILs are throwing one in the city we live in now.

It's possible your SIL honestly thought you might have a friend who was throwing you a shower. Is it possible that the real reason why she asked is because she is trying to figure out if she should host one for you?

denita86 · March 2015

I am throwing my own. 2 actually one in Spain this coming Sunday and then one here at the end of May. I really don't care going against etiquette...I want to celebrate my pregnancy and this time with my friends and I won't be making any if my friends (we don't have family here) spend money on it

kacdanz · March 2015

My mother and sister will host one in my hometown and my co-workers will throw me one where I currently live.

leelee1112 · March 2015

So far just a couple of my best friends have offered.

Youngwithra · March 2015

We are throwing our own, but family is helping out. Couldn't ask for anything else

tmarrie87 · March 2015

My mother and sister are throwing mine. I wasn't supposed to be involved in any of the planning but I'm a little bit of a control freak so I've managed to sneak in here and there...lol...

It sounds like maybe your SIL was snooping maybe trying to figure out if someone else may have been throwing you a shower. They could be trying to surprise you. I would definitely talk to the hubby and have him do some snooping on your behalf...hope all works out!!!

mom3babies · March 2015

My best friend is since my sister and my mom are no longer interested in anything that has to do with me.

CANTW82BMOM · March 2015

PPs have already said it, but your SIL was probably trying to find out if anyone else is throwing it because she wants to.

A few years ago I threw one for one of my closest friends as a surprise because I knew that no one else was going to do it. Looking back, I wonder if she was sad leading up to it because she didn't think anyone was going to throw her one. It never crossed my mind at the time. Anyway, it turned out fantastic and she was thrilled.

Try not to stress and get DH to do some digging.

rw3190 · March 2015

My MIL and her sister (AIL)?

kieandtonya · March 2015

My sister, sorority sister and close friend are hosting my shower. I'm from the south and usually immediate family or close friends throw the shower. I hope all works out. Good luck!

Lulamae123 · March 2015

My first my mom and MIL had separate ones because there was tensions in the family. My second my sister and mom and my third my young cousin who really wanted to plan it. I always stay involved in my showers because I have so many sides of the family that need to be invited (divorced). I didn't want a shower this time but they insisted.

AziaNick · March 2015

I'm throwing my own, but I am having my mom, MIL and SIL help with the food, and I asked my cousins to help me throughout the shower with the gifts and making sure everything runs smoothly. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

and involve your man! Even though baby showers are for women, now a days, men are being involved too, it's about the baby and your new roles as parents. Don't stress and let your inlaws now that you would like there help, maybe not a bunch, but ask them to bring something or do something just so that you don't feel stressed and overwhelmed, I'm sure they wouldn't mind. Good luck!

blukats · March 2015

My mom, grandma and great grandma are throwing mine. They are letting me participate since I'm normally the party planner in the family and was feeling a little left out. Lol.

LibbyC730 · March 2015

My MIL and SIL are hosting mine. They talked to DH first to find out if anything else was planned before they offered.
Hopefully she asked to find out if they could host one for you!

sroberts888 · March 2015

My three sisters and my husbands two sister are all coming together to throw one big one. It should be a big shower but a good time I hope:)

TaraLinnet · March 2015

I have a big family but no one has mentioned a baby shower and neither have my friends. I don't plan on mentioning it because I would feel awkward, so my husband and I just plan on buying everything ourselves and hoping it's possible. It sucks, but I guess in my head it's the least of my worries, if I have one thrown for me awesome, if not I just keep moving forward! Best wishes!

crason · March 2015

MIL and husband's cousin's wife are co-hosting one, his work is hosting one, my sister, niece and best friend are hosting one for my family and my grade level team at work is hosting one.

jtenkorang · March 2015

I'm not having one since this is my second pregnancy. Even though I'm having twins this time and have a 1 year old.

dweekes · March 2015

My sister is throwing one for us...my family & friends plus my husband's family & friends. We didn't want separate showers. My mom is helping w/ costs & maybe my dad will help w/ some costs too. In-laws aren't helping but are being invited. My co-workers said they're going to have a shower for me at work too. This is our 1st baby & we're excited to share the experience of a shower together so our will be men & women.

akanini · March 2015

My mom and grandmother will be hosting mine. I don't know the details but my family is great at these things so I'm not worried.

KatrinaPR · March 2015

No one

My SIL casually mentioned something really early on in the pregnancy (way too soon for actual plans) and hasn't said anything since.

hting · March 2015

This is our 2nd and my mom and my MIL are doing it together. For the first one they both did separate showers in separate cities(which yielded awesome loot!) but I get doing one this go round so Im excited.

babymorgan72015 · March 2015

My mom is throwing mine, pretty typical in this area of the South to have your mom throw it.

thequiet2 · March 2015

This is my 2nd child so I didn't really except one (even though I didn't have one with my first.) But this is my bfs first and due to circumstances none of my family was involved during my first pregnancy.

My bfs dad and aunt have planned a small shower thats mainly just going to be a few family members getting together and then my sister and a mutual friend are planning one the other half of the family will be at along with our friends.

On top of that I just had mentioned to me this week that they are planning one at work for me and another girl who is also due in July. Both of our SOs work there too so it will be more of a celebration for all 4 of us.

I'm starting to feel like it's just too many events to have to go to.

mikromorof · March 2015

My sister is throwing one for me with my girlfriends where I grew up and with my family there. And then my cousins-in-law and some close friends are throwing me one here with my husband's family and close family friends. I'll probably also have a work one thrown by the "party committee" at the school I work at.

azariah88 · March 2015

I'm throwing my own along with my best friend who is the babies God mother. I gave it to her to do but I found myself unable to release it totally to her so kinda took it back. So now its turning into a huge shower for my little prince and I'm praying for great weather and enough food for 80 people

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