Too Much Baby Brain!

SyK13 · February 2015

My husband and I recently celebrated our 6 years together, and 1 year as husband and wife. I will also be turning 25 this year, while hubby will be 32. I always imagined having a baby by the time I was 25, but my DH has firmly said we are not going to even start TTC until September of this year (which by the time the baby is born I will be 26).

I agreed to wait until September, but it worries me that it will take us awhile to actually get pregnant, and I want a baby now! It's all I think about! It also doesn't help that my friends and family members close to my age are having kids of their own, while I'm the only one of these who is actually married, owns a house, has a stable job, and is more than ready to have a baby.

What are some ways to get babies off my mind until hubby is ready to TTC? I am driving myself crazy, and recently have been becoming depressed thinking that September is so far away.

Thanks in advance for any advice!

paigeed · February 2015

It's been a year now that I've had BOTB. I have focused on working out to keep my mind busy. I have 1 week left in the insanity program. That has been a fun challenge to keep me motivated and focused on a different kind of goal. I figured, if DH isn't ready yet, I could keep myself busy and get healthy before we decide to get pregnant.

jnnfrrose6 · February 2015

It would probably help to stay off baby related websites...

red727 · March 2015

I just made myself extraordinarily busy, I started grad school and did things that I knew I wouldn't be able to do when I have a little one! Get projects done around the house or pick up a new hobby (I choose to cooking more!)

It was driving me crazy to the point I was thinking about it all. the. time. I find that when I am super busy I wasn't thinking about it!

Sugarplum0217 · March 2015

Get a hobby. Get off baby websites. Go enjoy doing everything you can just the two of you. Get your finances in order and get a nice place to live. Seriously get out of the house, go to a bar, go to brunch, go to the movies, go visit friends, enjoy being in a bikini in the summer! September will be here before you know it.

angelicscars · March 2015

I had been asking for a baby for like 4 years and we are finally TTC. I basically stayed away from everything baby related (seemed like everyone on Facebook was having babies) and I poured myself into work, my fur babies, reading, video games, anime (Hulu has been amazing to get my mind off of babies), and spending time with DH when our schedules allowed...date night or whatever we wanted.

But of course....now well I'm having babies on the brain even more now that we are trying and there have been some fertility issues. It's been a long 2 weeks for my original appointment and they called to change it for another 2 weeks away.

penelope4612 · March 2015

We are going to start trying in September too! I am starting prenatals now, and then I am going to go off BCP in the beginning of June and start charting. So I actually think it's not that much time (although we have a vacation planned in the end of May that I'm really looking forward to and that's kind of a distraction).

mrsj89 · March 2015

I think you're my identical twin...in terms of situation anyhow : ) I have wanted to ttc for years but financially timing was not right. Watched countless ppl have an accident andrely on welfare or family hand outs. I feel it's important to put yourself in the right circumstances to give your child the best you can. Other people dont. Ive cried many tears. I don't have any real advice aside from empathising with you. Even keeping busy is not working for me. Most of those activities require money and when you feel like money you spend makes baby further away...it's upsetting spending that too. To make things worse I work in child care...I literally have to walk past eight 0-2yr olds to get to the bathroom!! Take my mind off it...unlikely lol.

surferP528 · March 2015

I think you should plan a fun vacation for the two of you. Something to celebrate being a young, free couple. Perhaps an adults only resort where you can sip fruity cocktails and enjoy each other. Sometimes the planning of a trip like that can be just as much fun as taking it -researching destinations and hotels and just dreaming of the warm days in the sun.

But I agree, if you're trying not to think about it, maybe move over to the nest rather than the bump

skiingstark · March 2015

I will not be trying till Summer, to help pass the time we have a trip planned for New Orleans, to get my drinking on before I cannot do it for 9 months. So go plan a vacation somewhere fun, that you would not take your future kid with and have plenty of drinks

tiff16 · March 2015

Plan a trip or party.

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