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need to vent

lilahsmommy13lilahsmommy13 member
in October 2015 Moms
I'm so irritated over my husband he deletes his history from the internet on his phone turns out hes always on porn and hiding it from me it hurts and I get extremly angry bc he lies to me about it I mean what else is he hiding from me? We've been together 6 years married 3 and have a beautiful 2 year old daughter and our second on the way I'm hurt and angry and don't know what to think
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  • abkenyonabkenyon member
    It may just be that he knows you don't like it so he doesn't want you to see it when you are looking at his phone. No harm there. I would suggest talking to someone together to figure out what's going on. Maybe it's nothing, mine it's more. No point going overboard (I do it as well) if it's just something small like he likes to look at it and deletes it from his phone so you don't have to see it while you are checking his phone.
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  • JaqiDec04JaqiDec04 member
    Stop snooping through his phone.

    Then sit down like grown ups, and discuss the porn. And decide where each of your hard limits are, and wether its worth fighting about, and destroying your marriage over.

    I personally, prefer the don't ask don't tell policy.
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  • anorthroanorthro member
    I just figured all guys look at porn.  I know my husband does.  He doesn't tell me about it, and he also hides it from his history, but it doesn't really bother me.  As long as he's not having an affair with another woman, I don't care what he does in his private sex life. Maybe your husband feels it would be embarrassing if you were to see what porn he is looking at - that's why my husband hides his history.  It's always kind of shocking when you learn something about your SO that you didn't know before, but keeping porn a secret doesn't seem too weird to me.  
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    I think men will always look at sex naked women etc.  it's like, in their DNA.  It's nearly impossible to stop as well.  Maybe you should find some porn that suits your tastes.  I bet he would be shocked!  As long as he isn't having live sex chats with women I wouldn't worry about it too much.  
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    My husband deletes his internet search history too, though I know it's about 60% YouTube and 30% Facebook. I think he's "hiding" the porn sites he visits, though he's open with me about the fact that he watches porn.

    It bugs me because I don't hide anything from him, not even my internet search history.

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  • lilahsmommy13lilahsmommy13 member
    I guess it just really bothers me I blew up last night about it and even chucked his phone at him and cryed I think my hormones are crazy lol bc I really don't know why I did it and nowI juat got this thing where I cant help to wonder is hiding more from me I'm sure he ain't but a small part of me is like what if?
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  • naka92naka92 member
    I get why youre upsetting at the fact that hes hiding it, but lets be honest, most men look at porn and so does a large percentage of women. Personally, I'd be very upset if I had to find out that way, because its the lie about not watching it that stings. I get why he deletes it though, not only would he not want it found, he'd also not want the cookies. Those would get pornographic ads on all kinds of pages, even the PG ones.
    I know my husband watches porn, I even told him to just use incognito mode so he doesnt have to bother with deleting history afterwards. Still dont get why people dont always use that, its a lot easier, lol.

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  • earthtomomearthtomom member
    I completely agree with the other women. It's just porn. It's one of those things that is private and I don't see anything wrong with deleting the history. We all need some privacy, even from our SO. And I wouldn't think he is hiding other things because porn is an extremely common and legit thing to keep to yourself. I don't think it shows there is more he is hiding. It's normal. Relax momma...There are a lot worse things that could be going on :)
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  • gabrielafrnqyepezgabrielafrnqyepez member
    Well ladies my man n I have discussed this and like others have said I too prefer the don't ask don't tell thing lol... Men will look at porn even if they don't need to ,at this point I understand its a man thing I don't think there is a need to over analize anything based on the porn but if you feel there might be something else you should discuss it with him ...let's first remember are we feeling like this because of our hormones or because there is smtn there, I constantly have to stop my self and ask this question because I totally work on hormones alone! So to be fair to my man I relax and think about it... And a lot of women aren't conftable with porn in general, I think it allows us to explore in a healthy way, with certain boundaries!





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  • moonseeds92moonseeds92 member
    I watch porn occasionally but my husband doesn't. He knows I do and he doesn't care. We don't look through each other's stuff either. If you're confident he's not cheating there's no reason to snoop. Snooping without a reason is just being nosy. Hell, I'm nosy but when my husband gets a text I ask him who it is. Just be open about it and set boundaries. If porn really bothers you that much then you need to tell him that.
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