Teddy's Birth/ Word of advice — The Bump
Natural Birth

Teddy's Birth/ Word of advice

Hi! I'm posting this from the hospital, and I'm a TB lurker so this is my story as some helpful hints for those considering natural birth.
Yesterday 2-19 I was 40+1 and trying to go all natural. I had my birth plan and my goals were to be all meds and pitocin and intervention free. Well, I was having contractions and I went to a talk at my school and then the grocery store and then to my OB appointment at 1:45. My midwife saw me at around 2:30 and said she was pretty sure I was in labor and sent me for an NST at the hospital. I went for monitoring from 3-5:30 and was strapped up and made to walk the halls, all of which annoyed me greatly because I wanted my happy, hippie birth to be a freeing experience. At 5pm they said I was 3-4 and I was having contractions about 5 minutes apart but I insisted that I wanted to go home to labor because I "knew" it would take a long time. My midwife, being sympathetic and supportive of my birth plan, allowed me to drive myself home.
I went home, now severely in labor, in incredible pain, but still imagining that I had many more hours to go. I probably got home at around 6, and proceeded to take out all my trash and clean and generally make my labor much more intense from moving around so much. My mom (my birth partner) got to my house about 6:30 and sat around because I was too prideful to realize that I was literally dying of pain, and wouldn't admit to just how awful I was feeling. At 7:00 I wandered about the house, wondering how I got myself into this mess and felt my water break just as I sat down on my fancy new water proof pad on my bed (thanks sister-in-law) and saw meconium in the fluid. I freaked out and started moaning about how the baby was going to be sick and we called the hospital and got there at about 7:30.
I could not walk, my contractions were 2 minutes apart and the most severe, unimaginable pain ever. I got wheelchaired up to L&D and begged for any medication they could give me. The nurses initially brushed off my screams, and after checking me said I was dilated to a 6. My on-call midwife rolls in at 8:00 as they are finally calling the anesthesia and checks me and says I'm a 9 and no pain meds for me it's time to push. I'm screaming and crying and doubting every bit of information I ever heard or read about natural birth and wishing I had NEVER seen the movie "The Business of Bring Born!!!" I had the baby at 8:15, almost exactly 45 minutes after getting to the hospital.
His name is James Theodore, he was 7'10" and 21". He's in the NICU, because of meconium aspiration.
Very cute.
Needless to say, be careful. The midwife said my labor may have been traumatic, and could've led to the meconium in the water bag, because he wasn't really overdue.
Listen to your body!!! I should've never left the hospital, I should've listened to my body and not pushed myself to do all these crazy things because I thought I knew everything.
It was all too fast, I got terribly torn because the relief of pushing, after the intense pain, felt so great I pushed him out in two contractions and I needed God knows how many LAYERS of stitches. I'm ok, and the baby's about to get discharged from the NICU now, but don't let you natural childbirth dream sweep you away from reality.
Thanks!!!
morning6nessantotobonniecoutureOnWayto3

Re: Teddy's Birth/ Word of advice

  • Congrats on your new baby boy!
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    dsmedly
  • Yikes! Glad you are okay and I'm sure Teddy will be too. Thanks for sharing as it is always a helpful reminder to be practical when it calls for it. Congrats on the birth of your baby!
    dsmedly
  • Loading the player...
  • Congrats on your babe!  Try not to expend your emotions on regret.  You brought a baby into the world and that baby is going to be just fine!  Good job, mama - you did it!
    Me:29  DH:33
    Married: 3/1/14
    TTC #1: 4/16
    Dx PCOS (Non IR) 10/16
    5mg Femara + Ovidrel + IUI + Progesterone: 11/16 = BFN
    5mg Femara + 75 IU Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI + Progesterone: 12/16 = BFN
    5mg Femara + 150 IU Gonal-F + Ovidrel +IUI +Progesterone: 1/17 = BFN
    Preparing for IVF - Birth Control: 4/17 Stims: 5/17 
    IVF retrieval 6/17: 21 eggs retrieved, 20 mature.  17 fertilized with ICSI.
    7 blasts biopsied for PGS.  6 Healthy Embryos frozen for FET.
    FET of 1 embryo 7/12
    BFP on 7/17/17 Beta #1 10dpt = 524 Beta #2 12dpt = 1432 US at 5+5 shows healthy baby with heartbeat. Baby girl due 3/30/18 



    dsmedlyelizalegs
  • Congrats! Don't beat yourself up. While it is good to save your energy for labor, you never know what could have caused it. I had a natural labor with my first and meconium was present. The doctors just said that it is something that happens, and that it is pretty common. Have a speedy recovery!

    dsmedly
  • Best advice here is definitely "listen to your body" - this seriously can't be stressed enough! It benefits no one to get too into your own head during labor. Remember that this is a natural, normal process that your body was made for AND that medical assistance is something generations have worked to perfect to make sure both mom & baby come out of labor healthy and happy.
  • You are always going to remember how you felt after this, and your feelings are valid. That said, I really don't fault you for leaving the hospital - we've all heard the stories of women totally stalling out and ending up with a section after a lot of unnecessary discomfort. Tears are FAR preferable to episiotomies, because at least then the fibers of your muscles are not permanently weakened from an incision - they tend to rebuild stronger. Also there's really no way of knowing when the meconium was present. So try not to beat yourself up Mama. Your baby boy is beautiful!!!
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards