Baby Shower Etiquette

LolaMarley23 · March 2015

I am having a baby boy in June 2015, so the baby shower plans are starting to roll in! My mom, friends and in-law's are planning/hosting my shower for early May, but here is my dilemma. I am not technically hosting the shower, but we want to have the shower at my house. We are considering this for a few reasons...

1. I have the biggest house and backyard out of everyone and we want to have the party outside (weather permitting)

2. My house is the most central of all the guests invited

3. It would be convenient for me to just relax at my house and not have to pack and unpack all the gifts and travel across the state

Is this a big no-no? My MIL made a comment that it is tacky because it comes off as us only being in it for the gifts. However, I am not doing any of the planning, inviting, cooking, etc. We are just hosting it at my house.

Thoughts?

katyertl · March 2015

If you feel comfortable having it there then do it! Sounds convienent for guests and you. Plus then you won't have to pack up the gifts and unpack it at home lol it's already there
I'd just be concerned about being stuck with the clean up but I'm sure your family would be helping you with that too

finchfeeder80 · March 2015

We're having the shower at my house for your reasons 1&2 above. My aunts are hosting. I think it's mildly against etiquette, as in some people may side eye the idea, but it's not an egregious offense, especially if your hands are out of everything else. My hosts asked me if I minded, since I just had the best space for it, so it was really their idea anyway, in my case.

karaelaine1991 · March 2015

My cousin is doing this for her shower. It will be hosted by her mom and sisters, but it's going to be at her house because she recently moved in, loves throwing parties, and can't wait to show off her new space. The invitations all say "RSVP to [my aunt's name]," so it's pretty clear that my aunt is hosting it, even if it's in my cousin's home. My opinion is that it's not tacky.

LolaMarley23 · March 2015

Thank you for your help everyone! I have heard such mixed responses on this topic. For some reason it seems to be a hot topic issue for some of the older gals in my family!

I think I am going to give the OK for them to host the shower at my house!

HoosOnFirst · March 2015

I went to a shower at a friends house last year. They just made it clear on the invite that someone else was hosting. Go for it! I tried to convince my mom to host at my house for all your reasons

but got no traction.

RandAllie1823 · March 2015

I'm letting my house be used for my shower since my host lives in Santa Barbara and is driving down, and my mom is inviting coworkers who tend to get nosy and would want to poke about in her house. I have a better layout for the party and parking is much more available at my house too! I think that while some people might find it tacky- so long as you are clear that it's just AT your house, not being hosted by you I think you're fine!

Also- really- who wants to tell the pregnant woman that she's being tacky/doing it wrong at HER shower? That's the person who's tacky

rrcameron21 · March 2015

My cousin just had her shower at her own house! It was very clear that her mom and SIL were the hosts and she had nothing to do with it. The thought didn't even cross my mind that it was tacky! And at the end it was so nice to just be able to help her put everything in the nursery.

TeacherMama7 · March 2015

I have heard that it is tacky too. I don't think it's a huge offense either, but I probably wouldn't do it.

FloGirl82 · March 2015

My host is having the shower at my house because my house is more open and conducive to entertaining for occasions like these. I've had a few of my other friends's showers at my house and it worked out great. The hostess is taking care of everything-I'm just making sure it's clean and ready for her and then I'll be leaving for her to set up, as she had asked. I don't think it's too big of a deal-I'm not hosting my own shower, it's just my house worked best for the amount of people who are coming.

amydesh · March 2015

We are using my house for my shower as well. I think it is a fantastic idea

My best friend and sister are hosting. It was easier for us (me) this way and I didn't want anyone spending money on a function hall. etc. We just moved into our house in October and a lot of our family has not been able to see it yet so we are kind of killing two birds with one stone. Plus, I didn't want to have to pack up a car with all of the gifts just to bring it back home.

hilgspritch · March 2015

Five of my best friends are throwing me a shower at my house. It is spacious and has a backyard. The hostesses also don't all live in the same city. I'll be gone in the morning to let them set up. My husband and I have done a few renovations in addition to setting up the nursery. I'm excited to celebrate at my house

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