Bridesmaids with pregnant?

kaylansheets · March 2015

So I will be a bridesmaid in June and due at the end of September, the dress the bride is wanting me to get will be $350.00 plus alterations and I don't even know if it will fit right! Is this crazy or not?

ktbkitten · March 2015

This is a lot for a dress in general. My bridesmaids paid like $100 for theirs and only one girl had to get it altered, but I let them pick out their dresses, just in a specific color, material, and length.

lstiltz · March 2015

Ah I am suppose to be in a wedding Sept 12 and due Sept 24. I'm torn whether to be in it. I feel ya!

kaylansheets · March 2015

She picked one dress and one color! Not even a maternity style dress and I have to order now with Rush fee!!!!

kaylansheets · March 2015

I am due september 24 also

trj724 · March 2015

That's pretty expensive in my opinion. My bridesmaids paid $150 for their dresses, my maid of honor was actually pregnant and had to have her dress let out so she ended up having to pay quite a bit for alterations (she found out she was pregnant after we got the dresses). If you decide to go ahead and get the dress I would def get it in a bigger size. It's much cheaper to take a dress in then let it out...in my experience anyway.

etayislove · March 2015

I'm a bridesmaid in June and planned for the possibility of being pregnant. The seamstress told me to order it in at least two-three sizes up, that it wasn't a problem to make the dress smaller but impossible to make it bigger.

D+R · March 2015

I'm in a wedding in May. I just got my dress in a bigger size and will do last minute alterations.

estarz · March 2015

I am in a wedding August 8th and am worried about the dress too! The bride has picked one that's maternity friendly bodice-wise but it has spaghetti straps. Like hell my giant pregnant boobs are going in a strapless bra! Bring on the wrap...

bpv101283 · March 2015

I think that's a bit crazy, yeah. I bought my bridesmaids their dresses as a present. But they were under $200.

Petunia21 · March 2015

That's crazy. The bride really should have privately asked all bridesmaids what their budget was. I let my bridesmaids pick any dress in the color I chose, so they could spend whatever they wanted on the dress, and chose a stylethey felt comfortable in. Are all the other bridesmaids ok with spending $350?

eah325 · March 2015

lstiltz said:
Ah I am suppose to be in a wedding Sept 12 and due Sept 24. I'm torn whether to be in it. I feel ya!

I would be super nervous to commit to that wedding. I can't imagine you'll be up for being on your feet as much as a wedding entails. Will she be devastated if you decline?

thefuturemrsdaniel · March 2015

I'm in a wedding in July and due the end of September but will probably go early. She won't pick a dress!!! She wants everyone in the same dress but she has 10 bridesmaids all different sizes and me 7 months pregnant. I Told Her I would sit in the front so everyone would match and she could just put me in the program as a bridesmaid. You could ask her to do that.

krrandryan · March 2015

$350 plus the cost of alterations is absurd!!

lstiltz · March 2015

@eah325 she told me the decision was up to me. She would understand. I know the ceremony will be short and sweet so not much on my feet. Ah I just don't know.

jwebbbber45678 · March 2015

That's crazy to make people pay that much! That's how much my wedding dress cost and I told my bridesmaids to buy any black dress they wanted, even if it was 3$! I don't understand these overpriced weddings!

mathesq0 · March 2015

I'm in a wedding the first week of May and due sept 22nd. My friend is awesome though she would have allowed me to get a maternity style dress but her regular dress has a very loose bottom that is flowy....so as long as it doesn't get too short due to the bump it should be okay. She also stated I could wear flats...she's a sweetheart

. Her dress was super inexpensive so if something goes awry I feel I could order the dress in an even larger size and get it altered and still not spend the 135 or so she spent to be in my wedding....so I'm fine with doing whatever she needs or wants given she has been so flexible with me

best of luck...and 350 sounds a bit much to me....because you will likely need alterations as well

dmland17 · March 2015

The dresses for the last two weddings I served in ran about that much, not that any of us were really happy about it. One of the girls in the last one was about 7 months pregnant so she ordered hers much bigger than she needed and had her alterations done the week before. But, if you're not really feeling the bridesmaid thing right now, you have the perfect excuse to back out!

Drey329 · March 2015

I'm going to be a bridesmaid in July and the dresses chosen aren't very flowy so I'm worried about this too. Luckily they are just from Nordstrom so I figure I'll wait until June when I'm closer to the right size and order a bit larger. $350 + alterations is RUDE! How late can they do alterations and get it back in time?

GingerPop79 · March 2015

My sister is getting married in June but is not having a bridal party. I am so grateful for that right now. $350 is a lot to ask someone to pay for a dress in my opinion. When I got married to my ex I let my girls pick their own dresses out so they would be comfortable and could pay what worked for them.

serome3993 · March 2015

My best friend is getting married in Aug. The dress is only $175, but alterations are going to be crazy, I know. The Lord blessed me to begin with in the upper department, and they just keep growing.. Then she wants us to do a specific color Chuck Taylors. My fear with that is my feet swelling.. I'm really thinking about just not being in it. I feel awful, but I can't go spend $500 towards one day, when I'm a single mother and my child will be born the following month.

baker1jm2 · March 2015

I'm the moh in a wedding this summer and Ill be 33 weeks. I just told my sister if she didn't pick a bump friendly dress style i was just not going to order it. She decided to just let everyone pick their own style in the same color so it worked out fine. .i ordered 2 sizes up. There's no point in paying that kind of money for a dress that may not fit. .i mean have you brought up that possibility to her? What would you do then

klpie · March 2015

I think asking a friend to pay $350 for a dress they will probably never where again is ridiculous, especially since these same ladies are already spending money for bridal showers, bachelorette party, and wedding festivities. When I got married, I wanted all my bridesmaids in Lilly Pulitzer dresses (FL girl, beach wedding), but I felt guilty about the price tag on them since I knew that my bridesmaids were spending money to get to the keys for my wedding. I paid for their dresses because I wanted something particular and more costly than I knew their budgets could afford. One of my best friends was in a similar wedding and her friend did the same because of the cost of the specific bridesmaids dress she wanted her friends to wear, and she didn't want to burden them with the cost.
If I was prego, I would not be dishing out that money for a dress unless it was my sister...

BeachBabe22 · March 2015

I would talk to the bride about your dress concerns. I was in a wedding when I was six months pregnant with my daughter. The dresses were from J Crew's bridal line and were strapless and very short. I told the bride that the dress would look awful on me at six months pregnant because it would not fit over my stomach or fit anywhere else. She totally understood and I picked a different dress that was made of the same material and it was the same color. Hopefully she'll understand.

WheresTheGlow · March 2015

kaylansheets said:
So I will be a bridesmaid in June and due at the end of September, the dress the bride is wanting me to get will be $350.00 plus alterations and I don't even know if it will fit right! Is this crazy or not?

I just went for a bridesmaid fitting yesterday for my friends wedding in November, I'm due September 3rd.....the dress is $210 and the woman said she would do me a favor a put the cap on the alterations at $100....gee thanks lady. Meanwhile, she measured me at a 16 and had me order a 22, which i also have to pay an additional $30 for since it's one of the "bigger" sizes. And we have 5 weddings this year, I'm in one and my husband is in one. Sorry kid, no bouncy swing for you, I had to buy 5 toasters and a dress lol

melewen · March 2015

Whoa.. $350 + alterations is quite a lot! And for all the same style?! Will you post a picture? They better be the most gorgeous dresses I've ever seen!

lsny30 · March 2015

Both my sisters are getting married this year. One in May when I'll be five months - with TWINS. That sister just picked a jcrew dress in a very standard color that I'm dragging my feet on ordering. But my other sister is getting married in November - about 6 weeks after my due date - and the little witch made me order my dress this past weekend (she is worried the color is going away). I tried it on in December, I have no idea. I ordered four sizes bigger. It's about $300 as is, so I'm sure it will end up being close to $500. So f'ing annoying. Who wants to pay $500 for a dress they are going to look like crap in? I'll probably just barely be able to drive if I carry them to term and end up with a c-section. The last thing I want to do is pack my newborns up and travel to a wedding, let alone BE IN a wedding. I know it's my sister so I should be more forgiving, but it sucks.

tmlecomte · March 2015

Yah I'll be just over seven months when I'm in a wedding this summer. I had ordered my 300 dress in nov in a size 8. I went to the dress shop last week and tried a 14 and it fit but didn't leave much room (my boobs, no lie, have gone from a 30 c to a 36 e) so I had to reorder my dress in a size 16 and am hoping I can sell my original dress.

krmicmac · March 2015

When I was married three years ago I was lucky that one of my best friends was a pregnant bridesmaid. We joked that she was my fertility charm. .... guess it worked

. My dresses were up there, but we ended up with three different dress styles. The three skinnier girls wore one dress, my MOH chose a model that flattered get fuller figure, and we found a similar actual maternity dress for my fertile friend. My mom had a close friend alter all the dresses to cover that cost, and in the pictures you would have no idea that there were different dresses because our alteration lady was so good. Some cuts of dresses just don't flatter everyone. I hope that your bride would be more understanding if you found a maternity friendly dress that is similar to what the other girls are wearing to give you another option.

kjs08 · March 2015

Her options for you don't sound very accommodating: get the dress and pay for it to fit you now, which you'd have to have altered again later if you wanted to wear it post-baby, or don't be a part of the wedding. Would the bride make an exception to you wearing a maternity dress that's the same color/length/straps?

I paid over $400 for my bridesmaid dress for my SIL's wedding back in 2009 (it was Vera Wang), but I wasn't pregnant and I've worn it at least 5 times to different weddings so I've gotten my money's worth out of it. When I got married in July 2011, I told my girls the dress had to be black and floor length, but that they could choose whatever they wanted. This worked out great as my SIL had just given birth in May of that year so she would have been pregnant for the dress fittings, which would have been super tough as no one can predict what your body will be like post-baby.

katielovesmilo · March 2015

I'm in the same position. In a wedding in September and due in September. If you decide to go ahead, I would recommend looking at the actual difference in inches between the sizes. I ended up ordering 5 sizes bigger (which was a huge blow to the ego) but that only gave me an extra 7 inches in the waist. Not all dress sizes are created equal. Good luck with the decision.

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