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May 2015 Moms
katemcl84
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DH diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer
katemcl84
member
i feel like my world is caving in.
Just over a week ago we got the news that my DH (28) has cancer. The worst kind!! He had a huge 5cm tumour removed the previous week.
We're 30 weeks gone now and he'll be half way through his first 6 weeks of chemo and radio therapy around our due date, 21st may.
I'm scared he won't be well enough to be at the labour.
I'm scared our baby won't have the time they deserve with their father or remember him.
I'm trying to stay positive and optimistic but things just seem to be spiralling out of control and I keep keep my emotions in check, it's not helping either of us.
Not that I'm hoping anyone else is going through the same thing or anything similar but if there is anyone, how are you coping/surviving?
Just over a week ago we got the news that my DH (28) has cancer. The worst kind!! He had a huge 5cm tumour removed the previous week.
We're 30 weeks gone now and he'll be half way through his first 6 weeks of chemo and radio therapy around our due date, 21st may.
I'm scared he won't be well enough to be at the labour.
I'm scared our baby won't have the time they deserve with their father or remember him.
I'm trying to stay positive and optimistic but things just seem to be spiralling out of control and I keep keep my emotions in check, it's not helping either of us.
Not that I'm hoping anyone else is going through the same thing or anything similar but if there is anyone, how are you coping/surviving?
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Re: DH diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer
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So sorry to hear that you guys are going through this.
I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. Take things one day at a time. I also strongly suggest speaking with the hospital staff to see what resources are available to you guys. I'm a social worker in a hospital and know there is probably a ton of support available to you, but I don't know what since I don't know where you live. But please reach out and someone at your hospital should be able to help you in whatever was possible.
Franco Paul born 6/4/15 at 39 weeks. Mila Francesca born 10/19/13 at 37 weeks. Both born via C-Section after 6 years of fertility treatments, disappointments and losses. Love them!!
I'm really sorry, this is the hardest news to get especially at a time when I know you probably don't want to have to be the strong one! I would just believe that he'll be able to be there with you, talk to the place you'll give birth and see about getting a cot or a comfortable chair so he will be comfortable too while he's there- if you explain it all they should be understanding. If not find a place to give birth where they will be!!
My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 glioblastoma in 2005 and had 2 orange-sized tumors removed 6 mo apart... finally the 3rd or 4th treatment slowed their growth and she did really well. Unfortunately everyone told her she'd be dead in 6 months and it really got to her head- but 8 years later she is still alive and well!! So please don't let the negativity wreck both of your worlds... positive thinking and daily positive visualization really help, as well as affirmative mantras, etc.... there is real proof and so many stories to support the power of the mind to do what medicine can't! Everyone needs to cry and go crazy a bit but try to have all the happy times you can too! If they say laughter is the best pain medication for childbirth it must work for cancer too. I know it's not easy but just try to enjoy every day together and believe that recovery IS possible and happens to a lot of people who get bag diagnoses! (hers was "terminal with no remission"- and yet she's 6 years without new growth!) Fill your days with love and smiles and try to find ways to be strong for each other.... sending strength both of your way!