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First timer breast feeding question!

vandalaRosevandalaRose member
in July 2015 Moms
so I'm 22 weeks And as of now I do not want to breast feed, i feel like they are for my man and get lots of attention while being intimate, so if I do not breast feed what do I do? Get a pump or just give my baby formula when he/she arrives ? Sorry if this is a silly question.
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Re: First timer breast feeding question!

  • sarahsairsairsarahsairsair member
    I did a lot of research on bf before I had my first as I was feeling awkward about the idea.
    I decided to give it a go after reading about health benefits for me and baby.

    I didn't feel natural to me, I can't say I'm one who enjoyed it... But I'm glad I was able to do it for my son and I plan on trying again this time. My DH was very supportive about it also.

    After I weaned, DH had no problem taking them back lol- he said he just loaned them to the baby for a bit
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  • sarahsairsairsarahsairsair member
    Oh and if you pump, they will still leak and will start with the milk if given attention by your man
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  • ewdeanewdean member
    They can give you something after you deliver that will dry up your milk supply and just give me your baby formula from the start.
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  • vandalaRosevandalaRose member
    Thank you ewdean that's very helpful also Sarah I'm not trying to be selfish and not give my baby the nutrients it needs but my breasts are something that turns me on when messed with so I feel like having a baby sucking on them would just be inappropriate and unbelievablely uncomfortable. That's why I asked if i could just strictly pump so baby still gets those nutrients without actually breast feeding
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  • cls2015cls2015 member
    Many people only pump and still only give their baby breast milk. Biggest problem is that it's twice the work. You have to pump several times a day and feed the baby separately.
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  • Lulamae123Lulamae123 member
    Id much rather pump than bf I do not like to bf. I will do it with this baby for a bit then I will strictly pump. It's twice the work and doesn't cost a cent. My boobs are sooooo sensitive that my tshirt annoys them!
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  • leelee1112leelee1112 member
    I feel awkward about it too. It seems so sexual. I've talked to a lactation nurse and she says I can exclusively pump if I use a hospital grade pump (I plan to rent one). I hear bf (or pumping) will make your uterus go back to normal size quicker & burn lots of calories, so you lose baby weight faster.
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  • kacdanzkacdanz member
    Try watching breast milk a documentary on Netflix about breast feeding. It touched on this subject.
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  • ToAoSheshaToAoShesha member
    I think that you should at least try... Breasts can be used for nursing and not have a sexual meaning.  I breastfed just fine and now get very turned on and stimulated when my man plays with them.

    I am team feed your baby and do what is best for you.  But I think that the reason not to breast feed is because it is too sexual or that they are for other uses is dumb.  You haven't tried to know what it is like and that is what they are made for.
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  • sarahsairsairsarahsairsair member
    edited March 2015
    jesicabrennan said:

    While I can understand that some women do not enjoy breastfeeding and choose to pump or go the formula route, I do not understand not even giving it a try. I also am very turned on with my breasts but I also breastfed for 2.5 years...there's no connection between the two. There is nothing sexual about your kid nursing and there IS something sexual about your husband sucking on your nipples. They are different, they feel different and your body reacts to them differently. If you're pumping you will still have milk come out when your husband plays with your boobs and IT IS WAY WEIRDER a to watch a pump pull milk out of your boobs then to have your infant nurse. Give it a try and if you hate it then pump or formula feed but don't write it off just because you think your boobs are for your husband!

    All of this

    And I didn't call you selfish- I don't judge, bf or ff - do what works for you and baby. Just giving advice and sharing my experience- isn't that what you are asking for when u post a question??
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  • farahminafarahmina member
    I want to breast feed this time with baby no 4 as I didn't with my first three kids, I feel like I have big boobs when I'm pregnant but straight away they shrivel up if I formula feed -so this is my way of keeping them big longer !!! baby fed and hubby happy !
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  • CkorinesCkorines member
    Breastfed for two years and have a husband who loves my boobies. We were able to separate the nourishment of our daughter, and play toys for daddy. There was no grey area. You can't say this will be an issue until baby gets here, and if you don't like it then-there's no shame in formula feeding. Pumping is a lot of work, but it's possible as well. I say, keep an open mind going forward and let things play out by ear. Good luck. 
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  • vandalaRosevandalaRose member
    Thanks everyone for your feedback, those of you who think it's "dumb" of me and those of you being rude can take your comments else where I simply asked if I chose not to breast feed what are my options I did not ask your opinion on breast feeding. I just do not like the idea of a baby sucking off of me which is why I said I will pump and deal with extra work so baby still gets nutrients I get pumping is weird as well but would make me feel less weird then having a child suck off them . Just wanted info from moms who didn't bf and the positive and negative affects it had on them.
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