Baby names....and annoying mouthy relatives

MamaMandy2015 · March 2015

So my DH and I are starting to pick out some names and playing around, we thought of, for a girl, Charlotte, Everly, Willow but decided we like Ellie Josephine (or Ellie Jo for short, his moms name was Jo, she passed years ago) and for a boy he had wanted Raymond Douglas (my DH's first name and my dads name for the middle, my dad passed last year) So at first we were telling our parents, and my sister and so on the names we were thinking of and low and behold they didn't like any of them, saying that the names we like are weird, or don't sound right or are too much of what they don't like blah blah blah. For a boy I really love Flynn Douglas and a girl Ellie Josephine, our last name is See, so it would flow well I think. Well we sort of mentioned that and again we were told they weren't good, and that they didn't like them... :-@ WHATEVER! lol I'm just sick of it and we've decided not to reveal our final choices because of their comments, and now they are pushy and asking why we aren't telling them about more names we are thinking of...omg really? It would bother me at first, but now I'm like "well we're keeping it a surprise"

reyes01 · March 2015

I like all your choices! I like that you kept family names in there too!!

abbycjones · March 2015

Once that baby gets here they're not going to care what it's named. I'm sorry your family is doing that to you. It's always special to use family names.

We had chosen Ezra Simon as our boy name but found out yesterday we're having a girl. We're naming her Ruby Caroline. Ruby is my husband's grandmother's name and she's very special to both of us.

If your family can't get on board with your choices then absolutely keep them a secret. And I wouldn't be too worried about telling them the real reason why you're keeping it a secret either, but that's just me.

m0mmy2b0ys · March 2015

Once my husband and I agree on a name/names we keep it secret until the baby arrives. It drives everyone nuts but this will be our third time doing it. I don't do it to annoy the family but everyone has an opinion and I find it's discouraging to hear people say they don't like the names you picked.

SidraJedi · March 2015

Our name choices are pretty tame in Ireland but we live in America and here the name choices we have are left of center. Some of our family members are still trying to spell our DD's name properly. >>sigh<<

Discussing names with anyone but my DH's sister just ends in a polite "oh." As they turn their head so they can roll their eyes or furrow their brows in confusion. I don't let it get to me. As an artist I am used to rejection. I try to concentrate on what I believe my baby might want to be named and I just don't let it bother me. Also I don't discuss names with my grandparents or with others who obviously wouldn't get it. I love the baby name board here on the bump but I know well enough not to solicit advice on that forum unless I am ready to hear a lot of criticism.

Not everyone is going to like your name choices but not everyone is going to hate them either. Family in particular my be picky before baby comes bc they have some of their own hopes and dreams rolled up into their future relative, it's only natural. But others are right; as soon as they meet your new addition they will most likely accept the new name you picked too.

However, sometimes folk are stubborn. My great granny didn't like my little brother's name when he was born bc it was, in her eyes, "an old man's name" so she insisted (and forced her immediate family including our granddad) to call my bro by his MN. Now my great granny was a pill and sometimes you have a family like mine where disrespect like this happens but for the most part people will be accepting.

jessandandy09 · March 2015

My first son I named Isaiah, and my mom Hated it. She would go on and on. After Isaiah was born, she had no problem with it and he is the grand-kid that she is actually closest to. My current DH won't let us tell the names to anyone until the baby is born. At first I thought that was annoying but respected his opinion. I now understand why it is wise.

Also I once told someone to absolutely not name their kid something. Only once, other than that I always support the parents in choosing their babies name. During my first Marriage, my DH and I named our first daughter Magdaline (maggie for short) and our last name was Madsen (we thought this was pushing the envelope for names being too close sounding). My DH's brother was going to have a baby the year after and wanted to name their daughter Madison... Yes, her name would have been Madison Madsen we totally teased them about that until they changed it. In hindsight I think it is just fine and I feel like a jerk about it.

MamaMandy2015 · March 2015

Now I understand why so many keep the names secret, of course when I told my mom that if we have a boy his middle name would be my dads middle name she got teary eyed and that made me feel really good, keeping a piece of him alive. She is kind of the only one I might let on with the names, a couple names she outright said that's just silly, but never has she really been rude about it. I think keeping it a surprise would be fun too, we even toyed with the idea of keeping the gender a secret from family but I think that would just kill them lol.

stow2009 · March 2015

We are keeping this one a secret. Our first pregnancy, we told people our name choices. Big mistake. My mom went on about how she knew someone with that name who was terrible, etc. I told her with this one that she is the reason we aren't telling anyone about names. She completely understood!

Kwest1007 · March 2015

We are also not sharing the name! Too many opinions and can't please them all! I like the names u have picked!

bhargrave88 · March 2015

Name the baby whatever you want to Hun! After all, it s YOUR baby, not theirs.. I'm goin to start being a bitch to people when they say "Eww" or wrinkle their nose when I say I want to name my daughter Olivia. Unless you plan on giving birth, your opinion is useless.

ashbash1012 · March 2015

stow2009 said:
We are keeping this one a secret. Our first pregnancy, we told people our name choices. Big mistake. My mom went on about how she knew someone with that name who was terrible, etc. I told her with this one that she is the reason we aren't telling anyone about names. She completely understood!

Same here. I told her the name she threw a tantrum about how it wasn't girlie enough and literally didn't talk to me for a month because of it. With it being her first grandchild she's over the moon excited about her. Now this second pregnancy she's backed off completely. Just like I like it!

GirlOnTheBeach · March 2015

You can't please everyone. Unfortunately, your choices are to tell people and deal with the criticism, or not tell people and have them continue to ask. :-/

If we were having a girl, we weren't going to tell anyone her name until birth. It turns out we are having a boy though, and because we are naming him after my husband, we tell people his name. It's fun because they can't criticize the name without also insulting my husband, so everyone just accepts it ;-)

zagmomtobe · March 2015

That's why we aren't telling anyone. Including my mom who is my best friend. It's our decision and we want to love the name we choose- not have someone ruin it for us because they once knew someone who.... Blah blah. My advice would be to keep it secret from now on. It won't ruin any more names you love, because once the baby is here, others will only associate the name you chose with the perfect living being you created!

Kimk1616 · March 2015

I'm pretty set on a girl's name (named after both my grandmother's) and I've openly shared it with people, except my mom and dad because I want it to be special for them (they live 1000 miles away so this is easy for me to do!). But if we're having a boy, I think we will be keeping it a secret for this very reason. I don't really care if you knew a nasty person with that name or if you once had a dog with that name or if you just plain don't like that name. It's mine and my husband's baby and we are the only one's deciding on the name. All other opinions really don't matter and it's rude for people to think otherwise.

CaliforniaDream87 · March 2015

This is why we don't discuss our name choice with people. When the baby is born they will know.

mommaKCS · March 2015

We received a lot of negative comments about the name we chose for our daughter during our first pregnancy. It surprised me how much I didn't care! It was perfect to both me and DH... And it was a very easy and natural decision. I think that if you're confident about the name you've chosen, other opinions don't matter!

ammc07 · March 2015

With DD we didn't tell anyone until she was born. This one I've told my mom and a few close friends but that's it. Everyone else can wait. I hear MIL (who I can't stand and even DH can only handle her in increments) asked DH on the phone tonight if we picked names and he told her no and he doesn't plan on telling her because she has a stupid opinion on everything. She knows the middle name will be Jane after DHs grandma so she keeps pushing Mary for the first name because she thinks it's funny. Uhhh... I'm not naming my child Mary Jane.

Trefek1 · March 2015

We finally decided to find out the sex of the baby. So now we know. And we're not telling... Yet. My family keeps throwing out names and I don't like any of them, and frankly, I don't really want their input. It's annoying that they are pushing us to know the sex. It's even more annoying that they are pushing names at us. I kinda wish they'd stop it. I hope your family quits bugging you about your names (which by the way), are each very cute! I'd keep them a secret if they keep shooting down your choices. It is, after all, your choice, and you will ALL love baby regardless of if they are currently in love with baby's chosen name! Best wishes to you!

rashelburne · March 2015

I love your name choices, especially the girls name! You will NEVER please everyone, so please yourselves! They'll learn to love whatever you pick and won't be able to imagine your child being named anything else.

TeamIrvin2012 · March 2015

Ultimately, it is your child and your decision. If they don't like it, tough. My husband and I both told my mother in law that we didn't need help, we would name our son. And she shut it... Good luck...

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