Sex?

bj1987 · March 2015

So my sex drive is out the roof but my dear boyfriend is not even in the mood like hardly ever. Anyone else?? Kinda giving me a body complex. 18 weeks along visibly prego but feel fat and must say the acne I never had before isn't helping me either think I'll cry myself to sleep again.

AEFCAPP · March 2015

Wow we are definitely on the same page! My sex drive is amazing but not when my other half doesn't want any part of it! What is wrong with him, or me?! And yes the acne! I have always had some issues with acne on my face but ever since getting pregnant I have some bumps on my neck and back, this has never happened before! I'm not okay with it. These issues are making me wonder if he has lost his sex drive all together or just towards me because my body has changed. Very sad thought!

diwersen · March 2015

Have you talked to your boyfriend? Some guys just aren't aware and fear they will harm the baby or harm you or that the baby will be aware of it.

chavemann10 · March 2015

I'm so jealous! I wish I had a sex drive. I'm almost 16wks and the thought of sex makes me queasy! I think it's because it hurts so bad, but then again...who the heck knows! I'm sorry your boyfriend isn't on board. I agree that sometimes, guys don't know any better and assume they are hurting the baby...maybe try talking to him.

jessandandy09 · March 2015

My sex drive finally came back about 2 weeks ago. DH has not been interested. I think its because I was uninterested for so long and now we are both just tired at night and busy all day. What I found works for me is if I wake him up for sex with some foreplay in the middle of the night. We are both more rested and the lights are off so I don't have to see my fatty body etc...

jrod5 · March 2015

Talk about opposite situations. I wish I had that sex drive. Poor husband of mine is working out extra hard to blow his steam off.

bj1987 · March 2015

I talked to him when it became an issue and thought all was ok but now he's just engrossed in his phone literally 24/7 and ya amongst other issues its just making me feel like there's someone else, again. Thought we got past all that but who knows.... I could be right but than again my hormones could have me acting psycho lol ugh I just don't know what to do anymore it feels as there is no connection there anymore and I am bout to loose my mind. He even goes as far as placing our 4 yr old between us so we "can't" do anything ridiculous I tell you

gmd88 · March 2015

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/photo-gallery/10-things-dads-to-be-need-to-know-about-sex-during-pregnancy.aspx?pos=1&xid=nl_YourDailyNewsletterfromWhattoExpect_20150310#/slide-1

Maybe this article could help?

archetypeblonde · March 2015

I can kind of relate, my sex drive is crazy right now but my boyfriend is always too exhausted for sex lately. Have a conversation about it, try new things to get him in the mood, but don't assume your body isn't beautiful!

bj1987 · March 2015

Thank you I sure hope so if not I may have to resort to other things lol

bj1987 · March 2015

If he can't appreciate it on his own and the fact that I'm producing another human in my body well sad news for him someone else will appreciate me as my momma says he's not the only fish in the sea Lol

kelseyrayay · March 2015

I can't stand the thought of sex ugh not my thing at the moment

kimberlydawnnn · March 2015

I'm in the same boat

Havent done anything in 6 weeks besides one time when he finally had it in him because he was drunk. He says he's too stressed. Seriously about to go buy a lil battery operated friend if he's gonna pass this drive of mine up.

dionne2004 · March 2015

I've been servicing myself a lot lately....I have dreams about sex. We've been fighting so much lately we just take time apart, I stay at my parents and we rarely get intimate due to fighting

I miss the old us....super frustrating and makes me feel like I'm the crazy one....meh

bj1987 · March 2015

Omg last two replies I am on board with yall hahha ❤️

kimberlydawnnn · March 2015

Sorry you're going through this. Don't blame yourself though. I know it's hard but I finally realized it's his loss not mine and I shouldn't blame myself because I know deep down he loves me for me. Hopefully out "men" come to their senses sooner than later

Mamazibz · March 2015

Am 19 weeks and my drive is soo high bt daddy is always tired. He even struggles waking up next morning after sex

gumbi4u · March 2015

Hey ladies. My wife is all about the sex right now. She's always asking for it. But for some reason, I just can't do it. Its all mental. She's gorgeous and still get aroused by her but I just can't do the act. It most definitely is a pregnancy thing. Don't think your man doesn't find you attractive anymore. It's not you. I know we can't harm the baby. Doesn't matter how hung we are. Something just doesn't feel right about sex. Maybe it has to be a spurt of the moment kind of thing?

kngrimsley · March 2015

You are not alone! I've always been an active person but now that I'm in my second trimester and feeling much better than the first, that's all I want to do and unfortunately my hubs isn't having it. He says he's worried about hurting the baby. I have tried reading him articles and explaining to him that there's no way that he could hurt the baby but it just hasn't helped. I feel like I've tried everything. I wish I had some foolproof advice for you but it seems a lot of us are in this together! Wishing you and yours the best of luck!

JauniceS · March 2015

There has been a total light switch change with my husband's drive during pregnancy- then we found out its a girl and he feels wrong having sex with HER there. I know it's not the way he views my body because he gushes how beautiful my pregnant body is becoming. I think it is just something truly psychological about having their child in their at the same time. The more they see them on ultrasound, know their gender, have their visual, the harder it gets I think. I try not to take it personal but I am rather enjoying the fact that I am always in the mood and it will be a long 5 months if this new fear sticks around. I am in the same boat with the rest of you with wondering if there is a solution. I am a FTM- any moms out there who already went through this? Did it get better eventually??

leighalou91 · March 2015

Gosh! I am 19 weeks and my sex drive is still not up! My husband would do it every day if it were up to him.

macmama09 · March 2015

I have realized the way to get my husband in the mood is foreplay. Kissing, cuddling, you know. I think we forget that sometimes they need to be put in the mood too.

Good luck!

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