Politely decline hand me downs ?

Re: Politely decline hand me downs ?

• CateOfChicago member

  March 2015

  Just tell her exactly what you said above. It sounds reasonable to me. Why not say your mom or mil is buying it for you and you don't want to hurt her feelings.
  
  In general, think hard about turning down hand me downs. I did bc I wanted all new, designer, etc. I found myself going back to everyone later begging. It is so nice having duplicates of certain things for different levels of your house, grandmas house, etc. in particular, I recommend doubles for pnp, bouncy seat, swing, toys.

  
  

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• beaseg member

  March 2015

  Yeah I would just say "Oh, we're all set in that area, we already have one on the way! It was a gift, but thank you!" Then maybe suggest she sell it and make some $$ and go get a pedicure or something. 

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• djhudson9107 member

  March 2015

  I just had to do this and I feel like a snob. The women trying to give me stuff has very um well dirty kids. Their clothes are very stained and torn. Now don't get me wrong I am on baby 3 and I know kids get dirty but theses clothes were too far gone. I told her my sister and another friend are already giving me bags of clothes and I that I am set..I still feel snobby though

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• khaleesi123 member

  March 2015

  Yeah I want desperately to turn down clothes even brand new ones because people just keep buying me so much damn clothes and I know I should be grateful but the fun thing about girls are buying their clothes and the fun was taken away wahh there's no point cause I have too many. And when you try to hint you have too much clothes everyone says "you can never have too much clothes trust me they will wear them" but I really do have too much now :-/ and non of it is to my style

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• khaleesi123 member

  March 2015

  Why is it everytime I post I can't help but write a whole novel

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• BrooksManor member

  March 2015

  That's how I feel about hand me downs. I feel like I'm stuck with someone else's style, it takes the fun out of things, and I feel like a snobby ungrateful brat if I don't accept somethings. (Least my husband makes me feel that way when I don't like something)....I got a cute but not my thing smallish diaper bag at my shower...he's like keep it it's free...I'm side eying him....I have to carry it around I want to like it lol same with the clothes but that's a can of worms.

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• ashybashy808102014 member

  March 2015

  just say no thank you?? I don't understand how that's hard to say,

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• ditzy007 member

  March 2015

  It's so hard to say no! I have a friend who offered onesie that "weren't in great condition"... Onesies are so cheap, especially I lucked out and bought a ton 10 for $10 at a second hand shop, that I don't really need dirty ones.

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• BrooksManor member

  March 2015

  We have a one upon a child....good condition onesies were a dollar each. Yes.

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• rosannewild member

  March 2015

  I'm lucky because the clothes my SIL is passing down to me are many of the clothes I bought for my niece (She is also very choosy and weeded out any stained or damaged items) They are in great condition still. In fact, many were worn maybe once or not at all. I will also get her bassinet that is dreamy and still pristine. I've had to decline items that don't go with our ideas for the baby room. I say that we've already got an xyz. What drives me absolutely nuts is my mom buying decor without calling me first to ask me if I want it. 

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• mrswynn2014 member

  March 2015

  My sister gave me a box of clothes and when I went through it almost all were stained. My niece threw up a lot when she was a baby. I don't think my sister even realized they were in that bad of condition. I don't think I'm gonna say anything to her. I'm just now going to put my baby in them.

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• khaleesi123 member

  March 2015

  ashybashy808102014 said:

  just say no thank you?? I don't understand how that's hard to say,

  When I say no thank you to clothes and explain I have a lot they just keep buying me more saying trust me they will wear them you can't have too many clothes but I really do have too much and you can't really not take clothes people spent their money on.
  

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