So I will be 37 weeks pregnant on Sunday. On both sides of our family this will be the first grandchild. A few months ago my parents booked a vacation to Florida for a week and they leave Wednesday. My mom keeps telling me "Don't have that baby while we're gone!" As if it's really up to me! She also said if it happens it happens and they'll just see the baby when they get home. This makes me feel unimportant and frustrated. I know they love us but I feel like it's risky for them to leave that close to our due date and I feel like she doesn't feel the need to be there for support. I know there are worse situations however I was just curious how others would feel if they were in this situation.
Re: AW-Would This Bother You??
If you do end up giving birth while they are away, you can use this time to bond with LO and husband (or SO, you didn't mention) alone because everyone will be all over that baby soon enough!
FTM & TEAM BLUE!!!
My parents did go to DC the other day for my nieces birthday. She said well if you have the baby today, we will just see you when we get home. Thankfully I did not go into labor then.
If I make it to my due date ( doubting I will due to my history of ptl) my in laws said they will not be there because they have planned a trip to Michigan. But I'm okay with that.
I would chalk your hurt feelings up to pregnancy hormones- if you have the baby and your mom isn't there it isn't the end of the world.
At this point all I can suggest is just let her know by saying "you know it's really important to me that your there but I want to make sure that you know I'm not really in control of when" and hopefully the guilt gets them:(
Good luck, I'll be thinking about you and in the same boat!
Many babies come a week or even 2 after their due dates so I can see why she might think it wasn't a big deal to go somewhere this early. Maybe this is her "baby moon" because she wants to be around all the time to support you after baby is born? At least it is a domestic trip and she can make it to you quickly if labor starts.
people can't and shouldn't have to put their lives on hold because of the status of your uterus. That being said - I would be upset if my mom acted so nonchalant about the birth.
FTM usually go late and your mom will be back by the time you are about 39w right?
this might not be an issue at all.
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I wouldn't even consider getting annoyed about it, this was the only time she could go and I hope she has a wonderful time.
With my first, I planned on having my mom there. She was scheduled to fly in 2 days before my due date. I ended to delivering 5 days early, so she missed it. It actually ended up a wonderful bonding experience for DH & I. My mom was able to make it later that afternoon.
Hugs to you.
My cousin is getting married two hours away two days before my due date and mum is not wanting to go incase the baby is born... All up they will be gone about 8-10 hours and she's not coming to the delivery or anything... We've told them it's just us and they can come in when we call and tell them they can Come in... I've also told her I won't let anyone else visit until she's met the baby... She still wasn't happy "but I don't want to be at the wedding and have you in hospital
With my first grandchild and be unable to visit!" So I got cranky with her and told her if I do have the baby when the wedding is I'm not going to tell her until it's finished (the wedding) because she's being silly not going!
Hey look... I had a rant.. Thanks and sorry!