paranoia-20 weeks now , all the time thinking about mc

sshhh · March 2015

Hey ladies , I'm 20 weeks and all seems normal still I think about mc , preterm and all negative things which happen in preg, not a single time I stay happy n feel blessed but searching on Google for misscarriage preterm nuchal fold snags and bloody everything on earth related to negative pregnancy , what can I do friends , it's killing me and my pressure rises headache kills me thinking thinking thinking . slight cramps and I feel m gone now and nothing seems pleasant friends , please advise

Ckorines · March 2015

I suffered a miscarriage at 9 weeks and 3 days. Worrying or not worrying would not have changed the outcome of what had happened. Having said that, you are past the 12 week mark and furthermore, you are past the 20 week mark. Even though, I'm sure there's never a 0% chance that things can happen, I'm pretty sure you can rest easy. I hope you find some peace because I understand the fears you are living with, but know that this is no healthy way to live! Good luck. You can always PM me if you need to talk.

ClovesA · March 2015

Talk to your doc. Sounds like you're going through some pretty strong pregnancy anxiety. They may have something to suggest that could help you. Hang in there and good luck.

asherk · March 2015

talk to your doctor about your fears. get a pregnancy book and read through to learn some of the normal aches and pains you can expect to feel. stay away from google!! don't stress, mama. stay hydrated and take care of yourself; that's really the most you can do!

sshhh · March 2015

So kind of u dear I'm feeling much better

Lulamae123 · March 2015

I was like that with my second baby. Every time I turned around I heard a horror story! This pregnancy I have taken control. Nothing bothers me. Sit and breath. You are in control put your hand on you belly and tell it you love it. That's what your baby needs right now. Not the stress your causing yourself. Enjoy your baby's kicks and the pregnancy! It goes by quick!

TeamHendricks · March 2015

When worry and fear attempts to take over my thoughts, I pray. Take rest.

mers90 · March 2015

I know how you're feeling, I had a MC 1 month before this pregnancy, I still wake up at the middle of the night and can't go back to sleep until I feel her moving and go check 3 times if there's no blood! I try to be positive but I'm so afraid that something will go wrong! I had a SCH around week 7 so this is scary! Hang in there, we're already half way there.

lmskgi · March 2015

Aww I know the feeling, it's the worst! I had a miscarrige at 10 weeks. I'm now 21 weeks and terrified. I always check there's no blood and every pain I freak out. There seems to be horror story's popping up everywhere and I can't do anything to reassure myself. Xx

Cocoasushi · March 2015

I have gotten like that off and on during this pregnancy because we lost a son at 19 weeks a year ago, but it wasn't just a random miscarriage. He was really, really sick. Instead of googling things that could happen I've decided to connect with other moms that are at about that same point in pregnancy that I am. One of them had her daughter at 22w5d last week and even though she's in the nicu she is alive and doing well. I still freak out at every little cramp or pain even though I've carried a pregnancy to 37 weeks before and I know what feels Normal and what isn't normal. If you can't find a way to cope or enjoy your pregnancy I definitely recommend talking to your doctor about the anxiety you're dealing with.

Koalaknuckles · March 2015

I've found that the further I get along in my pregnancy, the more I have to stop myself from thinking about all the things that could go wrong.

My best advice (which I'm also trying to follow) is to stop seeking out the negative information. I think that we can be educated about all the negative things that can happen without going looking for it.

A lot of times I won't read certain threads on here because I don't really want to imagine all of the things that can go wrong happening to myself or my baby.

Not saying I'm not realistic (I'm actually too much of a realist and a glass half empty sort of person by nature) about what could happen, I just don't want to place undue stress on myself.

sshhh · March 2015

Ladies thanku for replying

Savanna111911 · March 2015

I think some this is natural, especially if you happen to be a FTM. That being said, it sounds like you may be having more than just normal pregnancy jitters. It may be worth talking to your doctor to see if he or she has any recommendations for how to calm your anxiety.

Thera888 · March 2015

We lost twins in August 2014 in week 18.. So we where super (un)lucky to get two conditions together identical twins and missed abortion (their hearts stopped beating in week 13..) and I had no clue what's going on. With all this I'm saying trust your doctor if he is saying ultrasound and tests are good you should trust and believe that your baby is just perfect and there is nothing more you can do. In my case there was no pain or bleeding what so ever.. Not even morning sickness.. Don't read Internet trash that will only make you imagine all possible bad scenarios... And you will spend all this beautiful time worrying about everything what can go wrong instead of enjoying it. Your baby is perfect and that's what you should be thinking about

Thera888 · March 2015

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Thera888 · March 2015

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AlexandraMarcotte · March 2015

That's got to be such a weight, wanting to experience and trust all the joys of being pregnant, but just being unable to avoid those creeping thoughts of "what if".

I would definitely mention it to your OB, or better yet, maybe see if you can get in contact with a counselor who might be able to help you work through some of those deep seated concerns. You're definitely not alone in struggling with this - and you certainly do not have to face it alone.

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