I'm am going thoroughly nuts waiting (Previous late loss mentioned)

Wilde83 · February 2015

I am walking the walls waiting for my anatomy scan, and turning into a crazy person for real!

We chose to terminat our last pregnancy at 20 weeks after the anatomy scan showed our baby had potters syndrome (no kidneys/lungs/bladder) and the heartbreak and devistation utterly changed my life still to this day in ways I can't even begin to describe.

I am now19 days an 17 hours from this little one's scan and the anticipation is killing me in slow, 60 second increments. How can I make time feel like it's actually moving? Anyone have advice on passing time? I'm becoming worthless at work because I can't stop worrying! Help!

mrswiebe09 · February 2015

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Maybe this is a good time to get caught up on TV! If you have Netflix, in 19 days you could finish at least 2 series :-)
Keeping you in my prayers!

JemHolo2015 · February 2015

Wilde83 said:
I am walking the walls waiting for my anatomy scan, and turning into a crazy person for real!

We chose to terminat our last pregnancy at 20 weeks after the anatomy scan showed our baby had potters syndrome (no kidneys/lungs/bladder) and the heartbreak and devistation utterly changed my life still to this day in ways I can't even begin to describe.

I am now19 days an 17 hours from this little one's scan and the anticipation is killing me in slow, 60 second increments. How can I make time feel like it's actually moving? Anyone have advice on passing time? I'm becoming worthless at work because I can't stop worrying! Help!

I'm sorry you're going through this! I don't have advice, except to say that I think everyone who experiences a loss holds their breath in a subsequent pregnancy until they get past the point where the first loss occurred. I had an early loss at 8 weeks in my last pregnancy, and in this one I was terrified until I passed the 8 week mark. My mom lost triplets at 23 weeks due to an incompetent cervix, and said that when she got pregnant again she felt the same until she passed that mark. The chances of the same thing happening again are tiny, as I'm sure you know, but I understand your apprehension!! Wishing you an easy 19 days and hoping you see a happy healthy baby when the scam happens.

strauber · February 2015

My husband and I terminated our pregnancy at 20 weeks last year after the anatomy scan showed severe hydrocephalus. It felt like a very easy decision at the time. I am a doctor who spent a lot of my training working with neonates and knew what needed to be done. But the long lasting effects, I had no idea. It weighed on us and our marriage heavily and when I found out I was pregnant this time we had actually decided to take a break from trying to get pregnant and work on our marriage then .... Surprise.

We are doing great communicating through this and are very excited for the possibility of bringing our baby girl into this world but I am with you, 10 days and counting and I am getting antsier with each step. I walk by ultrasound rooms everyday and for the past year I have not been able to look inside one. I don't know how I am going to step into that room.

I don't have answers, just support. One foot in front of the other. Wake up each morning knowing you are one day closer. I gave up long ago not getting attached to the dear child growing inside me. If we have to abort again I can't imagine how I/we will recover, but I know we will because we did it before.

I will be thinking about you

jenandbrett · February 2015

I am so sorry. My son passed away from potters syndome last year as well. The wait for that 20 week ultrasound is torture for sure. Mine is still 4 weeks away, so I've got quite a wait. Obviously we can't speed up time, but i made the choice very early on this time to cherish every day that I have this baby. No matter how long that is. This is my baby and today she is mine so I'm trying to remember that and not rush past anything. I truly am sorry and wish us both really good news soon!!

bashfulbird · February 2015

I am very sorry for your loss and am keeping FXFY for tomorrow. Sorry no advice, except what pp said, try to lose yourself in TV.

Wilde83 · February 2015

I really appreciate the kind words and your willingness to share your stories! Sometimes it feels like no one else knows what this feels like. My friends are all blessed to have complication free pregnancy histories, my husband doesn't like talking about the scarier points of pregnancy, and I work with a lot of dudes at construction sites who would rather ignore the whole pregnancy thing...so I kind of feel like I'm on an island and I don't get to talk about it much. Best of luck to you all as well.

Kath1083 · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. Hopefully the time passes quickly!

srmarchesi · February 2015

My husband and I terminated at 20 weeks three because an Anatomy scan revealed anacephely ... I feel you! I know how much it can change your life... I know for me I am still dealing with grief and guilt and anger and so many other emotions. I'm lucky enough to have a doctor who does US every two weeks... I have already seen my high risk doctor once and have a ton of blood work done... I honestly don't think about it. I know that if anything were to happen again I would do it all differently so I don't think about it. I know it's easier said than done but once it about of my mind I don't put it there. I'm finding that I am actually really calm and family is actually pretty cautious! Try and bury yourself in work for a week. Or start reorganizing your closets at home. Time will pass quickly! Don't count the hours! They will seem endless! I hope this helps and I'm praying you get a great result!

srmarchesi · February 2015

Hope you can read that! I typed it on my phone and then saw all the errors!

klk518 · March 2015

I am so sorry for your loss! My husband and I lost our son on December 31st due to no amniotic fluid and they were unable to find a bladder and kidneys. We are still waiting an autopsy results but I have researched potters syndrome and have a feeling that the autopsy will confirm.

Good luck with your scan and please let me know how it goes. Your story hits so close to home and I would love to hear a success story from someone who went through what we did too.. Everything will be okay!

s0504250 · March 2015

I just found out through the 20 wk ultrasound that ours has borderline hydrocephalus. The ventricle measures 10-11mm and apparently 10mm is upper range.

Now we have to see a specialist who will diagnose further. I am a mess.

How do you possibly decide whether to carry to term or not with borderline??

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