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neludeluneludelu member
in August 2015 Moms
So I am easily annoyed by my inlaws, who isn't, right? Anyway.

Today my father inlaw posted a pic from my husbands first wedding as his FB profile pic. The pic included my hubby, his mom, brother and dad. note: he posted the pic 2 hours before he came over to our house.

I am not mad or jealous because of the thought of the other woman. I am not a jealous person. I am mad/fuming because I feel that it is rude and inconsiderate. He has a very similar much more recent picture from our wedding that I know for a fact sits on the mantle next to the one he posted.

I am not sure if this is something that other people would be pissed at or am I letting my general dislike for him and his shenanagins get under my skin.


Side note: his dad is notorious for being inconsiderate and rude for the sake of doing so. He plays his actions off like he was innocent with no ill intentions. This is just one of a long list of stupid things he has done.

All of this being said. How would you react? Am I just being pissy?

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  • sschwegesschwege member
    The only way it would bother me is if the X-wife was in the picture.  Doesn't seem like a big deal to me.  Perhaps he thinks the photo itself is a more favorable one than the one from your wedding (he looks better in it), maybe he didn't even notice it was from the wrong wedding?  IDK, doesn't seem worth getting upset over. 
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  • lras0317lras0317 member
    Oh the in-laws... Lol kill hi, with kindness! I bet u he did it bc he wants a reaction and to cause issues. If u don't react at all, it will probably piss him off more.
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  • J&D2007J&D2007 member
    Sounds like he likes to elicit a reaction. I'd try to make some sort of lighthearted joke about it to show him it doesn't bother you or ignore it all together.
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    What if he happens to think the picture he posted is a better photo of him then the one at your wedding? What if he didn't do this intentionally?

    I don't know. Sounds a bit extreme to be so upset over something so minor. The other woman isn't in the photo so I don't get it. I wouldn't borrow trouble.
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  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    I would ignore that behavior honestly. If he does it just to get a reaction then he wins if you react. Sounds more like "brother behavior" than what a father or FIL should do. You know, like how brothers like to antagonize their siblings for a reaction.
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  • sjra1028sjra1028 member
    I would be extremely mad! But then again, I haven't been too happy with my in-laws lately!
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  • missmarissa711missmarissa711 member
    gotta love the in-laws. They're just the best! :dramatic eye roll:
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  • ginger8484ginger8484 member
    edited March 2015
    I know what you mean. My mil is driving me crazy and too inconsiderate . Honestly, I would try to blow it off or speak with your hubby. Sometimes speaking with hubby can shed light on his dads behavior. I know why my mil acts the way she does but still baffles me when words come out of her mouth. Just say to yourself, I have unconditional love for my inlaws. Then go punch a pillow or hubby. Hubby will find it funny then laughter will follow suit and all is well!
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  • mommaKCSmommaKCS member
    I can understand and empathize with where you are coming from - my hormones have made me unreasonable with certain things, especially when I see pictures or even just think of DH with his son's mother. I'm not usually a jealous woman AT ALL. I try to keep my reactions to myself.

    Anyway, yes...I think you're over reacting a bit, especially since the photo doesn't include XW, only your DH's family. He likely just enjoys that picture! Try not to let your feelings get the best of you on this one!

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  • mrsb30mrsb30 member
    As pp have mentioned it's probably just a family picture that he likes. Was it several years ago? Maybe they are younger looking. I know that growing up we had family pictures from my aunts first wedding that we loved. There was several years between pictures and the first picture displayed the grandchildren really young. There could be many reasons for him posting the picture, but honestly I don't see a problem with it since the xw isn't in it. Also remember this, your DH loves you and is married to you! I'm sorry it's upsetting you.
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  • JemHolo2015JemHolo2015 member
    I think you are overreacting. It's not like the bride is in the picture. Either he just likes the photo, in which case you're overreacting, or he's trying to get a rise out of you, I which case your best response is not to react at all. If you don't react it isn't fun for him and he stops.
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  • jessandandy09jessandandy09 member
    If it were my inlaws it would drive me nuts, but that is because my MIL is passive aggressive and pretends to be a child.  It annoys the living fuck out of me, so most of her behavior does too.  That being said I think it really would have to do with the relationship with your FIL rather than the content of the pic.
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  • Miz_LizMiz_Liz member
    I seriously thought this post was going to be about how much weight everyone has gained so far this pregnancy. I had been avoiding clicking on it because I don't want to think about how fat I am getting, but then boredom got the best of me and I clicked away - boy was I surprised! Anyway, without knowing your FIL, it is hard to say what his intentions are. Did he post anything with the picture or say anything? Was it on the anniversary of his last wedding or something like that - what caused the post? If he did it because of something like that (the anniversary of the first wedding), I would be pissed. I personally am annoyed with my in-laws because of something that happened before DS was born (he is now 2.5) and so I find almost anything and everything they do now pisses me off - sometimes I have to bounce things off my mom or my aunt for a reality check since they will both tell me when I am being silly and I know when they side with me, I have EVERY right to be pissed because they are the "see the good in everyone" type.
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    Miz_Liz said:

    I seriously thought this post was going to be about how much weight everyone has gained so far this pregnancy. I had been avoiding clicking on it because I don't want to think about how fat I am getting, but then boredom got the best of me and I clicked away - boy was I surprised! Anyway, without knowing your FIL, it is hard to say what his intentions are. Did he post anything with the picture or say anything? Was it on the anniversary of his last wedding or something like that - what caused the post? If he did it because of something like that (the anniversary of the first wedding), I would be pissed. I personally am annoyed with my in-laws because of something that happened before DS was born (he is now 2.5) and so I find almost anything and everything they do now pisses me off - sometimes I have to bounce things off my mom or my aunt for a reality check since they will both tell me when I am being silly and I know when they side with me, I have EVERY right to be pissed because they are the "see the good in everyone" type.

    I thought that too!!
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    JemHolo2015 said:

    Miz_Liz said:

    I seriously thought this post was going to be about how much weight everyone has gained so far this pregnancy. I had been avoiding clicking on it because I don't want to think about how fat I am getting, but then boredom got the best of me and I clicked away - boy was I surprised! Anyway, without knowing your FIL, it is hard to say what his intentions are. Did he post anything with the picture or say anything? Was it on the anniversary of his last wedding or something like that - what caused the post? If he did it because of something like that (the anniversary of the first wedding), I would be pissed. I personally am annoyed with my in-laws because of something that happened before DS was born (he is now 2.5) and so I find almost anything and everything they do now pisses me off - sometimes I have to bounce things off my mom or my aunt for a reality check since they will both tell me when I am being silly and I know when they side with me, I have EVERY right to be pissed because they are the "see the good in everyone" type.

    I thought that too!!
    I thought this too  ::runs off to make a weight post::
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