Ugh.. help!

backwoodsbarbie2k15 · March 2015

Ugh, get ready for my drama..!
My mother is throwing me a surprise baby shower and asked me for a list of friends that i would like to come and there adresses.. On that list i included an old friend that my fiance doesn't exactly have the greatest opinions about... I told him today she may come and he absolutely freaked out and said if she comes hes telling her to leave.... Problem is the invitations have already been sent out and idk if shes even going or not! I cant just tell her not to come): or can i?! Ugh! I don't need this unessecary drama.

nicolemummyof2 · March 2015

Why does he not like her? He should respect your choice in friends.

But if there is a.good reason why he dose not like her maybe u should tell her not to come.

kandrya · March 2015

Tell her not to come in a friendly way before he does in a very mean way.

cpage2211 · March 2015

It's time for him to put his feelings aside and just play nice for a couple of hours. You can't uninvite her. That will cause more drama between the two of you.

marthaudani · March 2015

He doesn't really need to be there if he doesn't want to. Ask him to find something else to do during that time so that his time is occupied and he's having fun rather than just being upset that you invited this person that he doesn't like.

If you feel like you have to have him there then I don't know what to tell you. He may just have to suck it up and play nice for a few hours if she shows up.

The important thing to remember is that it's not about him or his feelings. It's about the baby. He may as well build a bridge and get over it.

beaseg · March 2015

ooooh. that's awkward. i lean toward do what your fiance says, but I don't have all the information.

Brieb33 · March 2015

It's a free gift.

saric83 · March 2015

Unless she has done something grievous against him, he needs to simmer down. If my husband tried to tell me who I should invite to a party being thrown for me, we would be having one hell of a chat about how he needs to respect my choices.

And beyond that, if he truly thinks it's acceptable to create a scene at a party your mom is throwing for you by asking her to leave, he needs to put his big boy underoos on and grow up.

blankenbakerh · March 2015

I agree with saric83!

MaddsM · March 2015

I agree that he should be supportive and understanding of your friend choices, especially at this time.

But if he does have a good reason I think your best bet would be to call your friend and explain the situation and that he doesn't feel comfortable having her around, but that maybe you and her could go do something some time?

Hopefully she's understanding of that.

Other than that have fun at the shower!

jwm29 · March 2015

Just a small question...did you say it's a surprise shower? Why do you know about it then? The nice thing about a surprise shower is you don't have to help!!

Shanfrey82 · March 2015

I also agree with sacric83

backwoodsbarbie2k15 · March 2015

jwm29 said:
Just a small question...did you say it's a surprise shower? Why do you know about it then? The nice thing about a surprise shower is you don't have to help!!

I know im,having a shower, i just dont know when it is or anything about it. And thanks ladies... Since the shower is a jack and jill shower my fiance will be attending. I ended up calling her and asking her if she was able to attend, she will actually be out of town. Crisis avoided! Still im bothered by the big deal my fiance was going to make about it.. But oh well.

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