Selfish?

Knottie01495548 · March 2015

My coworker called me selfish today because my fiancé and I are waiting untill birth to find out the sex. I told her you have the right to handle your kids and your pregancy anyway that you want to and so do I. I'm my head I was like THIS ISNT ABOUT YOU. Am I wrong?

abs99 · March 2015

I don't understand--- why would it be selfish? So no... I don't think you are wrong...

Izzies · March 2015

Your coworker sounds a little crazy! It's YOUR baby, do what YOU want. Once you have a child (or become pregnant) everyone tries to tell how you should do everything. Ignor them !

jessababyphoto · March 2015

She sounds like a whacko. Ignore her. You do you girl.

bonniecouture · March 2015

This made me laugh; not at your expense at all--at the fact that other people feel as though their opinion needs to validated! Like PP said, it's YOUR pregnancy, and when she chooses to have kids (or maybe already does?) then she can decide every little detail about them. Till then, later hater! B-)

nickc2cute · March 2015

I don't think I understand. What is selfish about that?

snikai · March 2015

I agree with both PPs!! How is that selfish??? Ive thought about waiting and am undecided, but I really think either way is respectable and a personal choice!

mrscate88 · March 2015

Did you ask her why she thinks it's selfish? My only guess is that possibly other family and friends want to know the gender and she feels like it's selfish not to share that excitement. Regardless, it's your body and your baby so you get to decide. Ask her to keep her negative opinions to herself if she wants to share in any of your baby joy. Congrats!!

lilmissmama468 · March 2015

I agree with everyone else, forget about random people's opinions! It won't be long before complete strangers are approaching us all to rub our bellies like we're Buddha statues and give us some unsolicited advice, or worse, criticize something we've done! It's your body and your baby, I think it's great you 2 want to be surprised!

Knottie01495548 · March 2015

Lol thanks everyone! Apparently I am selfish to not find out because then they have to wait with me and can't buy cute things and it's not fare. Lol she even had the nerve to suggest my fiancé find out and then tell her. We are not even near that level of closeness. Also!!!!! It's not like him and i are finding out and just not telling people. We won't know either. We Want to be suprised and have the amazing moment of him telling me. When she said that I was floored. Lol in my head "I didn't say a word about your mountain due a day durring your pregancy"!!!!

Knottie01495548 · March 2015

Lol I know it sounds like she's was kidding. But she wasn't. She was pissed

bpv101283 · March 2015

That coworker sounds like a peach! Well it's actually no ones business what you want to do with your pregnancy.

excited2bmommy09 · March 2015

I think it's selfish when people pressure others to find out the gender! I almost don't want to find out based on principle that everyone keeps telling me I HAVE to. I appreciate that people want to buy cute gender specific presents, but it's a pretty big decision to put so much pressure on couples who are expecting. Everyone has the right to make that call however they decide to

lolad5 · March 2015

How rude!!! I'm with you on not finding out. I think it's such a special time for you and your Fiancé. That lady is just trying to stir the pot.

GingerPop79 · March 2015

You are in no way selfish.

MrsLisaT · March 2015

Sorry but she is the selfish one thinking that her curiosity outweighs the baby's mother's decision.

shaunnar053 · March 2015

That's really odd. She sounds like a weirdo lol. I love how people feel the need to push their opinions on others. I wouldn't look too much into it.. Also, there's nothing wrong with her having a Mountain Dew a day with her pregnancy. Just sayin

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MarSamWhitney · March 2015

People are giving me a hard time again as well, but being called selfish is rediculous!

Cupcakequeen1000 · March 2015

no thats most definitely not selfish! It's great you guys want to wait and find out. I have more friends of mine that have waited to find out until delivery day and they say it's wonderful! It's a personal decision and in no way selfish, people can definitely buy yall cute gender neutral things

TeacherMom210 · March 2015

Totally not selfish. With DD, DH and I knew she was a girl but didn't tell anyone. He told people we knew but were keeping it a secret and they got so mad, but in the end, as others have said, it's your baby and your choice. No one else is entitled to any information you neither want yourself nor want to share with others.

WDDCH · March 2015

Um who is selfish? Sounds like she's being unreasonable and selfish here. You're not close to each other in a personal level and its YOUR business. Ewwww that would just tick me off so bad!

Well my selfish husband and I are not finding out either so we can be selfish together Knottie, lol!

katythelady22 · March 2015

I really don't get where's your coworker is coming from.... But I guess I'm selfish too as we are not finding out either! We can be selfish together

kjs08 · March 2015

Nope! Not selfish in the slightest. My cousin and her husband aren't finding out till their baby is born and that's their choice. My husband and I will be finding out in April and that's our choice. Everyone's different.

sugarmagn0lia · March 2015

Add me and my boyfriend to the selfish list, because we're not finding out either! And truthfully, your coworker sounds a little bit like a nutter. If someone suggested my man find out so that he could tell her...ooh, I'd be mad.

joannerows · March 2015

That isn't selfish and ur coworker is probably just frustrated bc they want to know.

bhaley44 · March 2015

I think being pregnant attracts stupid advice and weird people. that's your choice whether or not you find out

meg11287 · March 2015

Wow that's crazy, we are not finding out either and I would never even think the word selfish is a way to describe it! She sounds pleasant. Nicely handled though.

19gem87 · March 2015

She sounds crazy! To think she has a right to know what you're having before you do just blows my mind. Goodness! She needs to back way off. And you are not selfish for waiting. I give you credit there. I'm too impatient!

bracybabies · March 2015

I've had people react the same way! Mostly my oldest SIL who, last time someone had a baby, got in a three-week fight with the grandma to be because she wanted to throw the shower and hated all of grandmas ideas. (She's a wacko.)

She tells me it's so selfish because everyone wants to know and buy clothes and BLAH blah blah. But I want them to focus on things a baby needs. Not clothes. I plan on dressing the little one rather androgynous for a while anyway... That's weird to some people, I know. But I know that family, and I will be flooded with outfits I absolutely hate if I spill the gender. And the focus will be all on that, and I don't want that to happen.

You're not selfish. She is. Nosey Rosie needs to cool her jets.

jheni · March 2015

I agree with everyone else here! You're totally not being selfish, she's actually being rude and way out of line (a bit cuckoo really); it's none of her business anyway! Stick to your guns and don't let her bother you. Do it your way and enjoy that special moment of surprise the way you want to! :-)

mrscate88 · March 2015

bhaley44 said:
I think being pregnant attracts stupid advice and weird people. that's your choice whether or not you find out

Haha, I love it. 'Stupid advice from weird people' :-)

Elizabeth043086 · March 2015

I had this old lady that came to my baby shower with my first (she went to my mom's church) (we chose not to find out his gender until he was born) and she handed me my present and made this snarly awful face and said I couldn't really get you anything because you didn't find out what you were having. Um... diapers would have been GREAT! lol That's what I wanted to say, but I didn't. She ended up getting me an outfit for a girl. I just couldn't believe that. Really I mean, baby wipes, shampoo, lotion, diapers, blankets, towels... You would think older folks would be understanding about not finding out the gender of babies since they didn't have that option. OH well.

And NO you are not being selfish. If she wants someone to find out the gender, she can get pregnant and do so. lol

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