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Should hubby go to 8 week appointment ?

nehoneho member
in October 2015 Moms
I hate for him to go if he doesn't have to , it's 2 hours !
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Re: Should hubby go to 8 week appointment ?

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    ohjaimeohjaime member
    My husband didn't go unless I knew we were getting an u/s. Unless you think you'll be getting some information you want him to hear, I don't think he needs to be there.
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    KPollard20KPollard20 member
    Mine is. Simply because there are tons of genetic questions he will need to answer also. And we haven't had an ultrasound or anything yet and will. I'd hate to hear bad news without his support
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    taysha1128taysha1128 member
    my hubby went... he really wanted to and we both got to see/hear the heartbeat. The rest he sat in the waiting room but then my Dr brought him to go over the do's, don't's and various testing options, really informative and great to have a second ear and I was glazing over.
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    casserole27casserole27 member
    edited March 2015
    I take mine to all of them and he wants to be there. It's comforting to not be there alone and he sometimes has questions too. Plus with my preggo brain he remembers everything for me.
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    plumpousplumpous member
    He's gone with me to the first one at 9 weeks. We had the US which was very exciting. The next one is going to be about going over results from blood work and he wants to come in to that so he can be informed. I can't be trusted to relay everything accurately. It's too much information that is confusing to me.
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    erisrequiemerisrequiem member
    We didn't have our first appointment till 9 weeks. I made him go, because I didn't want to be alone if they told me it wasn't a viable pregnancy.  There were some "What runs in your family?" sort of questions that we had to answer and he came up with some of his own questions to ask the doc. But I think what made it all worth while for him was seeing the baby wiggle and the hearing the heartbeat.  I just don't think you can put into words what that is like.
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    nehoneho member
    Thanks everyone ! I think I'll call and confirm if they will do US and let that be the deciding factor :)
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    KMKaiser07KMKaiser07 member
    My DH went to almost all the appointments with our first but this time around is only going when we have ultrasounds.
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    kaitlynn80kaitlynn80 member
    Mines going with me tomorrow. We are getting our first ultrasound and I can't remember anything so he is going to jot down some questions and answers. :) It's our first so... we want to make sure everything is good. :) can't wait!!
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    JaqiDec04JaqiDec04 member
    DH went to our very first one with our first pregnancy. And then the one at 18 weeks for the gender determination. And he took me to my last two months of appointments because I had high blood pressure and was in bed rest.

    I'm going to guess this time around he will only come to the big one half way through and probably the last one.

    Someone's gotta watch DD while I'm at the doctor.
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    jenspeakejenspeake member
    Mine went and it was nice for him to hear the answers to my questions, it let him ask his questions and the doctor gave him some advice as well.  I would have wanted him whether they did an US or not.  Going forward he is only going to go if there is an issue or if they are going to do an us.
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    lanaloulittlelanaloulittle member
    Mine is coming and our first appt is an hour with no US... we won't even meet the OB until a week later for the US. They are going to ask a lot of questions about family history, and well we don't even know who his father is so he gets to try and figure those ones out. And we can ask any questions we want.
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    mrsjstradermrsjstrader member
    Mine went...we were there 3 hours but we had an u/s and saw heartbeat and everything. He just took the whole day off work and we had a date day. I wanted him to experience it too since he doesn't carry baby or anything. We don't hear the heartbeat until March 20, but he wants to be there for that too.
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    LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    With DD, my DH came to every appointment except for the final one where I had an unplanned appointment before we headed to the hospital. It was nice because it was our first time through it all, and it was important for him to hear what was going on with pregnancy from someone other than me. He trusts me and even though I can adequately and concisely explain what is going on at each stage, there is just something about him hearing it from someone else. It was also great to have the support. He and I are quite a pair, and we do most of our big life experiences with one another by our sides. I think it's totally up to what you two prefer!
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    dchiapelladchiapella member
    I've gone to my first two alone but this week is the 8 week and I'm hoping to hear the heart beat for the first time. I asked hubby if he could come with me since it would only mean being 1 hour late to work and instead he took the whole day off because he couldn't remember what time it was at or how long it would be. I say give him the option-- my husband was TERRIFIED and very upset when he found out I was pregnant since we're both young and I was supposed to be going back to school this year, but now that he understands how real this all is he WANTS to be there. The fathers will surprise you. Remember that we really aren't the only ones who are pregnant, in a lot of ways, they are too. There's no harm in just telling him what the appointment will entail and just putting it out there. And if it DOES mean a lot to you for him to be there, TELL HIM, because subtle hinting just. doesn't. work. with men, even expecting fathers.
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    adoyen89adoyen89 member
    They normally do a ultrasound at 8 weeks, but every doctor is different. I would take him...it's harder for the man to feel that connection right away be cause they are not carrying the baby, I think them seeing and hearing the heartbeat helps them bond with the baby. The appointments also give your husband a better understanding of what your body is going through.
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    bntfroggiebntfroggie member
    Mine is coming along, but he really wants to be there no matter how long it takes.  He said his main concern is that I'm healthy and the baby is healthy :-)
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    OrwellianTruthOrwellianTruth member
    My husband will be home watching DD if it is an ultra sound then we will get a baby sitter
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    christinelo5314christinelo5314 member
    He should absolutely come if he is able! My fiancé was unable to come to my 8 week appointment because he works in the ICU at another hospital so he couldn't get off work. But he made plans to come to the 12 week
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    nwt5nwt5 member
    My husband only goes to the ultrasound appointments with me. That will be our 10 week appointment :)
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    MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    My DH went to almost all my appointments with me when we had our first, but this time, he'll be staying home with DS except for the circa 20 week anatomy scan. I actually think it might be cool for DS to get to see the baby I keep talking about so I think we'll all go to that appointment.


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    beccacocobeccacoco member
    My husband refuses to go after out last check when we had to do a pap. He was uneasy about the doctor being down there. Now I'm worried what he is going to do during delivery
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    Lizzy10384Lizzy10384 member
    Mine has gone with me since we discovered I had PCOS last July to give support. We are now 9 weeks pregnant, went in at 6 weeks to check if viable, and go back next week for 10 week check up. We are excited to see and hopefully hear baby :)
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    MelMel92MelMel92 member
    Mine goes to all my appointments with me. Im not sure he'd take it well if I told him no either!! He seems to really want to be involved in it all :) Even if its just an informational appointment hes happy to come with me to make sure we get all out questions answered.
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