Just need to vent. ..

shelles423 · March 2015

My brother is quite a bit younger than me. Last year, he got married and became a dad before his now wife even graduated high school. He has always been very smart and wants to be an engineer and is in his second year of college. Their baby is currently six months old and i just found out today that his wife is pregnant with their second baby ?!? I never really liked his wife from the beginning. .. she is the exact opposite of him , has never had a job, no plans of going to school and overall just lazy and always moody. My brother acts like everything is going to be just fine and says "we've been doing good so far" (you survived a whole six months. .. congrats! ) ... and i can't help be the voice of reason while everyone else seems to want to "blow rainbows up his ass" . I am finding it very hard to be happy for him especially how naive he is being ..or as he would say "optimistic"... am I wrong for not being more happy and supportive ? It takes all my will power to not smack him and say "You're being really stupid !" But anything i say i know all he thinks is that I'm being negative and it's just causing a bigger rift between us. I want to focus on my own pregnancy and not let this news stress me out but I'm just so furious with him. How can i let it go and not let my emotions get involved ??

lola2bee · March 2015

You're a good sister but he needs to find his own way in life and he will. Just be there when times get rough and help him celebrate his successes when times are good. As far as his wife is concerned I know its not easy but that is the woman he chose and the woman he is sharing his life with. They will figure things out somehow. You can only wish them the best. Hang in there!!

nicolemummyof2 · March 2015

First of all I love the part where you said "blow rainbows up his ass".

I would just try to be supportive. If they act happy about it then let it be. And she's already pregnant ... not much you can do about it now. Lol. Just wait til the 6 month old turns 2. That lady will have hell.

MissRissx3 · March 2015

Be happy for them. In all honesty, that's his wife and you two have a total different relationship than them two. When DH sister "didn't like me" at first.. I really didn't care. Because our love is genuine. It's not fair for you to hold this grudge all because you "don't like her." Get to know her a little better. and if he is happy, that's all that should matter to you.

cpage2211 · March 2015

I have three sister-in-laws. Three. Not a single one of them seem to "like" me much. They don't reach out to me and tend to think they know better and are better than everyone. Frankly, it's exhausting. Give the girl a chance. Some woman were just made to be stay at home moms and some men are okay with that. That seems to be the case here. Try not to worry about their relationship. If he's happy....you should be happy. If she isn't being a bitch to him, using him, abusing him or cheating on him then there's no need to fret over anything.

shelles423 · March 2015

Every time she is around she is very condescending to my brother and everything he says she makes a smart ass remark to him so she's definitely being a bitch to him in public so I'm sure it's not much better when they are at home. As far as using him I think she is since he works so hard to get through school and gets jobs during the summer and she won't even cook or clean because it "stresses her out"... if that stuff stresses her out I can only imagine what two kids will do. I just don't see this scenario playing out well. I've made myself talk to her more and be more civil for my brother's sake but I'm just mad about the whole situation and how irresponsible and clueless they are .i had gotten used to the idea of them having one kid and so far seemed to be doing ok.. but two ???. I guess i just need to remind myself i was their age once and made a lot of stupid decisions but i didn't bring two kids into it. I just hope for the babies sakes that they grow up fast and do what's right.

jraffa · March 2015

I would tell him how you feel and express all your concerns, but only do it once. After that he knows how you feel and your not holding it all in. But after that conversation do your best to be positive and let them find their own way, after all she is the mother of your nieces/nephews:)

mrswynn2014 · March 2015

I would try to be positive, and it's a good thing for his children's sake that he is being positive to. She is already pregnant so the fact that they are gonna have two kids isn't going to change even if you talk to him. At least he is being a hard working dad and supporting his family.

saric83 · March 2015

Just try focus on what is within your control (being a great sister and aunt) because everything else is out of your control and not your decisions to make, so no matter how upset you are about them, it can't change anything.

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