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Going crazy :(

Symone51Symone51 member
in May 2015 Moms
Hi all, due May 4th with our 3rd baby (first boy!) I should be super happy, but I am struggling with depression! The main thing is my lack of self-esteem. Hubby is, like both other pregnancies, touching me less and less (and I'm not just talking about sex) but I NEED CUDDLES!! He says I put off too much heat, and normally he's not super cuddly anyway, but even with me dropping lots of hints and straight out asking for it, the best I get is a quick hug and peck (kiss) as we are leaving for work in the morning or going to bed. Then it's he on the opposite edge of our King size bed - a million miles away. Our relationship is really good otherwise, so I feel kind of silly that this bothers me SO much, but I am dying over here, and it just feels like he finds me repulsive. I have stopped asking, because I am sick of feeling rejected. What is the deal?
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Re: Going crazy :(

  • beasegbeaseg member
    UGH. I don't know, but I'm sorry. I'm in a similar boat and I have NO CLUE how to change it. Sorry :/
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  • tots325tots325 member
    I'm the opposite, for me it's bc I already feel uncomfortable and hot and don't want to be bothered with. Then there are days where I just need a hug and simply grab him and hug him, maybe that's what you should do, just grab and hug. It makes us both smile but for the most part I'm not an affectionate person and I feel bad about it. I have a big fan in the bedroom so it's on at night, maybe put one in your bedroom so he won't feel so hot, I know hubs also complains too that I emit a lot of heat, this seems to be working for the most part. Good luck.
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  • Symone51Symone51 member
    Thanks for responding guys :) we do sleep with a ceiling fan on (because I am usually the one that's hot) once in a while we hold hands while going to sleep, so that's nice. I just want him to WANT to hold me, and it hurts my feelings that he doesn't want to. I am pretty sure he doesn't really find me disgusting, but sometimes it sure is hard to think otherwise. I'm just not sure how to not take it personally, when I feel I need more reassurance now than ever! Men just don't understand this part of feeling gross! Lol...
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  • BeccaE27BeccaE27 member
    I know EXACTLY how you feel. Mine just tells me he's tired and that's why we haven't fooled around. I feel like he is lying and just doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying he isn't attracted to my in my huge state. I would rather him say he isn't attracted to me right now then say he is tired. I think we are all just going to have wait it out. :-( Hopefully things will change a few months after our LO's arrive.
    Me: Becca 31
    DH: Mike 33
    TTC for 3yrs before our BFP in August. 
    Pregnant with #1


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  • nicolemummyof2nicolemummyof2 member
    I know what you mean. My hubby occasionally won't hold me and I cry til I fall asleep. But I figure its just my hormones. And I think I'm pregnant I should get everything I want! Especially if it involves food lol
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  • Symone51Symone51 member
    Glad to know I am not alone, at least. I have 8 weeks to go, guess I will have to adapt, as much as I want to just throw a fit about it... I don't want "Sympathy cuddles" either though... *sigh*... In 8 weeks I will have a newborn attached to me, so probably won't need to cuddle as much anyway...
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  • CateOfChicagoCateOfChicago member
    I'm the opposite as well. I get super claustrophobic during pregnancy and need my space, poor DH.
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    Franco Paul born 6/4/15 at 39 weeks.  Mila Francesca born 10/19/13 at 37 weeks.  Both born via C-Section after 6 years of fertility treatments, disappointments and losses. Love them!!

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