Depression and scared

Re: Depression and scared

• beaseg member

  March 2015

  Wow!!! How crappy! I'm so sorry you're going through this. Have you struggled with depression in the past?

  
  

  I was depressed in my first pregnancy. Counselling helped, but not amazingly. But I also was never to the point of not wanting to get out of bed.

  
  

  I would see your OB and explain and maybe he/she can prescribe some stuff. Vitamin D for starters. I once read a pregnant girl put sunscreen on and a light layer of clothing and went tanning every other week. Now, tanning is the devil and just a cancer bed so I'm NOT recommending that- but I used to go twice or so a year and it really did make my emotions better. But skin cancers no joke. So I would just ask your doctor and see if they can suggest vitamins/supplements/etc.

  
  

  Good luck. 

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• xxyourstrulyxo member

  March 2015 edited March 2015

  I second talking to your doctor. Whether you've had depression before or if you feel it just came along with the pregnancy, it should definitely be acknowledged and taken care of. Just because you're pregnant it doesn't mean you have to suffer. There are different things to help. If it helps any, I know what you mean about about never leaving the house. I rarely get out much these days, I have no friends and shopping seems to be the only thing I have to do anymore but even it grows old.
  
  You're always welcome to send me a message and talk if you like

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• FeroceFamily member

  March 2015

  I suffer from depression, not wanting to get out bed and face the world was my favorite place to be for months on end.  Oddly enough getting pregnant helped me fight it.  BUT I am not doing it alone.  I have a therapist I see weekly, I am on mediations (that are low enough doses that everyone says they wont impact the baby) Lexapro and abilify.  My OB helps me, my physicist helps me, my therapist helps me, my hubby helps me, my boss at work also helps me.  I let everyone know what I am feeling and ask for help.  This is a huge behavior shift for me bc I used to hold it all and try to do it on my own but that wasn't working for me.  I know in my head that asking for help and getting it is the only way to protect my baby and myself.  But my in my heart sometimes its easier to not fight.  I totally get what you are saying.  The best thing I can tell you is don't be afraid to ask for help, if not from family and loved ones, try professionals.  Google and boards on here can help!  You did the right thing by reaching out, now you just need to find what works for you.  You can do anything for that sweet baby girl on her way!!  Just don't give up!! 

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• Claudiaba member

  March 2015

  Thank you all for your advice:) so nice to know I'm not alone.
  I was depressed a long time ago, but that felt totally different. Now I just want everyone to leave the baby and me alone. But I also miss my family and my bf so bad sometimes (even when they are sitting in the room right next to me). Its so weird..
  I'm just scared that my little girl will be born early because of all the stress Ive been experiencing my whole pregnancy. And that she will have emotional problems because of how I am doing now..
  
  Yesterday I told my mom and my bf how I was really feeling, it helps a lot knowing that they are there for me and I can just let go of the "I'm ok!" act. I do feel quilty about bothering them with my feelings and that they are worried now. But I think I will be happy that I told them, in the end. In 1 week I'm going to see my OB and I'm planning on telling her

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• ldmw member

  March 2015

  Talk to your doctor, but also be proactive about some natural ways you can feel better. I've been depressed before and as hard as it was for me, I made myself get out of bed and get outside to sit in the sun or walk. Even if it was just 10 minutes. I felt so much better, even if I dreaded it. I also tried to eat healthy, even though I just wanted junk because I knew eating nutritiously also helped me feel better. Find a few things that work for you, and make sure you try them. What's important at this point is that your open and honest with your doctor and probably someone else in your family/significant other. And, that you do something every day that makes you feel better, even if it's just temporally better.

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• FeroceFamily member

  March 2015

  So glad to hear you are starting the process of getting help. The I'm okay act can be exhausting so opening up can take some of the stress away which is good for you and baby! Good luck to you! You are stronger than you know!

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