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Work related anxiety

seamama525seamama525 member
in May 2015 Moms
My job is very stressful to begin with and lately it has become more difficult to deal with. Ever since i announced I was pregnant my boss has treated me differently. She comes down on me about every little thing and doesn't do the same to anyone else. She did do this to a coworker who had put in notice previously so I can only guess that it's because I will be on maternity leave soon.
Nevertheless it's been causing me so much anxiety that I had to leave work early yesterday and end up in tears often (not in front of anyone). Some of my coworkers have commented about how she treats me because it is obvious even to others.
Is anyone else going through this? Have any advice? I am wondering if I should bring it up with her. I have a doctors appointment today so I am going to discuss it with my doctor as well.
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Re: Work related anxiety

  • shoff2shoff2 member
    If other coworkers have noticed the change and if she's treating you badly I would speak with HR.
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  • morgansWed105148morgansWed105148 member
    edited March 2015
    Document every thing!! Just in case you will have to use it!
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  • rae430rae430 member
    Yep- the exact same thing happened to me. My boss was brutal to me for months after finding out... She typically picked a victim every week and harassed them in front of others, but when I told her that I was pregnant, I became the primary victim. She already had 8 complaints against her with HR when I complained and had been "reprimanded" by the CEO. Two others in my department had already quit because of her. I ended finding another job in December and quitting- she was furious.

    If I hadn't left when I did, my plan was to keep documenting, keep HR in the loop, and quit when the baby came if nothing happened with my boss. If you think you'd be able to find another job in your field, I'd get out. It's not good for your health to put up with that garbage.
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  • seamama525seamama525 member
    Thank you all for your helpful advice. Unfortunately it's a really small company and there is only one HR person who I know won't be helpful and I do not trust her(she gossips about things she hears). I think I will speak to my boss directly and I am working on the best way to approach it. I just don't want things to continue how they have been so I am willing to at least try that. I want the next couple of months to be about baby and not the stress of work. After I have the baby I will be keeping my options open and looking at other companies.
    @rae430 that sounds awful and I am happy for you that you got out!
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  • mamajama3mamajama3 member
    I would use certain veiled phrases when you talk to your boss that make it clear you're not starting trouble but you're keeping note as you've noticed a change in your work environment since your pregnancy announcement, and that you would be most at ease with the same treatment and expectations that you received from her before your announcement. She'll get the message loud and clear. I had to go to HR about my old boss doing that to me (she said before I was pregnant that she heard I was trying to get pregnant- which I hadn't told anyone and was none of her business- and that there was a person below me who wanted my job if I did get pregnant). It is SO ridiculous how some of us are treated in regards to pregnancy and our personal choices. I hope our daughters and granddaughters don't have to go through what we go through today.
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  • khaleesi123khaleesi123 member
    I think you should discuss it with her. The same thing happened to me but problem was I was a casual staff (which everyone else who works there is) once he found out I was pregnant he cut my hours down to ONE DAY A WEEK I was so angry. I ended up just quitting altogether and my boss called me trying to get me to stay there but there was no point he already burnt his bridges. There is a possibility that she could be jealous and has fertility problems you just never know what's going on with someone. Doesn't excuse the rudeness of course!
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  • MrsS728MrsS728 member
    CYA and document everything, especially if you have a union backing you. 
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  • fwhittakerfwhittaker member
    I would go to HR and put it in writing if it does not work out with your boss. Good luck!
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  • jasonsgirl94jasonsgirl94 member
    I know what your going through in a way. They had so many cut backs at my job in the last 8 years of my being there that now basically no one is available to truly be my backup. My pregnancy is putting stress on everyone but most of all me becuase I hate putting more work on anyone as we are all stretched way too thin. So while I am trying to concentrate on getting things ready for my leave my boss keeps putting more and more work on me. I find myself working 12 hour days and weekends because I am so afraid tje baby will come early and i wont be ready.
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