Annoying and rude comments

amby90 · March 2015

I just need to vent right now!! My partners family are so darn rude! All they have done to me through out this whole pregnancy is comment on my physical appearance and now being 27weeks I thought it would stop, they just keep at it! Unfortunately for me iv gained abit of weight throughout this pregnancy which I thought was normal but according to them it musten be? Commenting on how fat and how huge I'm getting. How fat my arms, legs and butt have gone. Like seriously? Do you expect me to lose weight being pregnant or something?! Argghh! So annoying! While one of their family members is pregnant right now and a month ahead, she hasn't gained abit so they compare to her to me! I know I shouldn't take it to heart but pregnancys not easy especially the physical and hormonal changes. I mean it's been 27weeks and they still at it. And to top it off I live with them which doesn't make it any easier. I'm just happy my baby girl is healthy. Though It'd be nice to hear one compliment atleast once from them. Anyone else been similar? Or had anyone constantly putting you down? Arghh I don't know how to take it anymore. I seriously can't wait to move out! Inlaws suck!

jlpcdt2015 · March 2015

I'm sorry they are treating you this way. I can relate to how your feeling. My boyfriends mom has never liked me and lately she has been real hateful towards me. I try to not let it get to me but not going to lie I've been crying lately. Hang in there and as hard as it may be try not to let it get you!

annatta79 · March 2015

Why is your partner not standing up for you? Tell him that the next time something is said you expect him to tell whoever has made the comment to shut it, he thinks you are beautiful and he doesn't want to hear another word on the matter. Figure out some consequences for the behavior (it may just be leaving the room, but finding your own place would be better) and implement them.

devyns2nd · March 2015

I would go off if someone said something about my appearance. You are creating life the only way your body knows how. Don't let them talk to you that way. Let your hormones flow and tell them how it is.

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

^ yeah. Tell em they look fat, too. At least you have a reason. Or, just let em have it. Raging bitch mode, engaged!

OnWayto3 · March 2015

I don't have any brilliant suggestions, but this reminds me of my ex husband's grandma. She had continually told me how big I was getting through pregnancy (though I was still on the track the doctor wanted). Then came the clincher. The day after delivery she came to the hospital. She looked at me, patted my stomach, and said, 'See, I told you it wasn't all baby.' LOVELY. Unfortunately, your in-laws probably won't change, but like the PP said, you get to make the choice o how you want to respond. Either way, know that you're SUPPOSED to be gaining weight. That's how we make healthy babies! It sounds like you have far more inner beauty than they'll ever experience.

rklinge0 · March 2015

I would tell them like it is. My dh's step dad made some comment to
My hubby about how he shouldn't worry that the weight will go away. I was smaller when I got pregnant than I had ever been so I gained what I was supposed to gain. I told his step dad that I still weighed less at 5 months than what I was supposed to for my height (not being pregnant). I put him in his place and no more comments were made that night.

taboullio84 · March 2015

When they start up.. Ask them if it makes them feel any better to put you down and be a bully. Then ask if that's all they have to talk about. I'd probably get ride right back with them. Stand up for yourself.

momtobeobrien · March 2015

I brought my 5 month old puppy Chihuahua to visit my grandparents. My puppy is attached to me, I cant do anything without him crying for attention. At my grandparents my puppy wanted nothing to do with me and fell asleep on my 90 year old grandpa's lap. Grandpa told me cheeto liked his lap better because there was more room

even though it was a comment on my size, I found it really cute (my puppy sleeps on my chest normally, and it could be because there is a lack of space on my lap)

kbbtah · March 2015

IMO: your partner needs to address this, not you. You have enough going on. He needs tommanage this.

Anto1992 · March 2015

You are beautiful, no matter what they say, words can't bring you down. You are beautiful in every single way. Your expecting a lo l bundle of joy, I'm not big, but I have had other negative comments about me. I'm on the small side since I know myself, but I do me! You do you! While pregnant, everyone has something to say, and they don't care about how we feel. Be happy, be excited, at least you know in the end you will be in the company of a totally new human who won't judge you, but will need you to be strong for their sake. You're blessed!

mvargas12 · March 2015

Chances are if they are critical of you now, they'll be critical of your parenting once your baby is born. Definitely speak up for yourself! You are at a time in your life where you should feel happy and encouraged. I hope things get better with them.

katester91 · March 2015

I had a similar situation with my MIL and after her saying something to me about my size several times it took a tole on me. I talked to my DH about it and he spoke to his mom. She hasn't said anything since then.

Zeuskay01 · March 2015

Ughh...I seriously hate people like that. I swear people think because we're pregnant they have a free pass to say what they please. Just today I ran into a coworker that I hadn't seen in quite some time and she goes to me "Oh wow...you've exploded!". I wanted to rip her eyeballs out of her face, I was LIVID! However, people are stupid and we really can't help stupid. So I feel your pain!

HomeLiveLove · March 2015

Ugh! I have been compared to my SIL who is a month ahead and it makes me furious! We have totally different body types and I think it's SO rude to comment on someone's body no matter what.

I've had 2 family members ask how much weight I've gained which is also SO rude. Who asks that?!

MJMum524 · March 2015

I hope you can literally knock some sense into them. NOBODY needs that crap when they are pregnant. Hope you can get out of that very dysfunctional situation after baby comes along. Sounds like they will continue with the comments forever and that is an unhealthy situation to grow up in. What if your baby is chubby? What if your baby is chubby into the school years? Not something anybody needs to constantly be reminded of.

HoosOnFirst · March 2015

My mom told me she's planning a game at my shower to guess my belly size. My response was "do I have To be at this shower?" Luckily I have thick skin so I'll be fine. This will be her first grandchild and she didn't get to throw my wedding shower so she's really really excited and so I'm just letting her do her thing.

Kbchavez23 · March 2015

A customer had walked into our dealership and my coworker was taking her cardigan off...this jerk was like "ooh are you stripping" and she said no and he goes "oh well she must strip, that's probably how she got that way!" Referring to me, the prego. HOW RUDE! Totally different situation but very much inappropriate all the same!

taboullio84 · March 2015

Kbchavez23 said:
A customer had walked into our dealership and my coworker was taking her cardigan off...this jerk was like "ooh are you stripping" and she said no and he goes "oh well she must strip, that's probably how she got that way!" Referring to me, the prego. HOW RUDE! Totally different situation but very much inappropriate all the same!

Sexual harassment... F*ck that !!

DolphinLover2002 · March 2015

I am pregnant with twins. I had a Co-worker ask me if I was still pregnant with twins. I told her that I still was, why wouldn't I be?! She told me she's heard of one twin vanishing. I told her at that point I was 20 weeks and if that happens, it happens very early with identical twins. Mine are fraternal. Anyways, she looks at me and says "how unfortunate that you still have them both". I told her I was thrilled to be having twins. Seriously, who would say that to someone?

Kbchavez23 · March 2015

taboullio84 said:

Kbchavez23 said:
A customer had walked into our dealership and my coworker was taking her cardigan off...this jerk was like "ooh are you stripping" and she said no and he goes "oh well she must strip, that's probably how she got that way!" Referring to me, the prego. HOW RUDE! Totally different situation but very much inappropriate all the same!
Sexual harassment... F*ck that !!

I was in such shock!!! If I could go back now of course I had much to say but at that moment I just couldn't believe it!

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

Kbchavez23 said:
A customer had walked into our dealership and my coworker was taking her cardigan off...this jerk was like "ooh are you stripping" and she said no and he goes "oh well she must strip, that's probably how she got that way!" Referring to me, the prego. HOW RUDE! Totally different situation but very much inappropriate all the same!

WHAT. AN. ASSHOLE.

TGemma · March 2015

Ugh, what a bunch of jerks.

As long as baby and you are fine, who gives a crap.

If your doctor has no comment, then they, who are not experts, should keep their mouths shut.

SammeMotley · March 2015

I would fly off the handle. I've had people making comments about my weight as well. I let them know real quick they wouldn't be tolerated. My weight is no ones business and if it's a problem they can stay the hell away from me.

Penwater1 · March 2015

Next time one of them comments on your weight pat them on the stomach and say I see you're gaining sympathy weight with me.

Westypet · March 2015

I hate it when everyone happily tells me that I "don't look pregnant!!!" Even my best friend says that she wants to be small when she's pregnant like me. I have had so much trouble keeping food down this whole time bc of HG.

I was a little overweight before I got pregnant, and now I look like a skinny, short pregnant person with a big bump due to weight loss.

Thanks for the compliment (?) I guess, but I'm FTFO over nutrition and hydration for the baby. NOT doing this to look cute. Each time you mention it, I want to cry inside.

elizab14 · March 2015

I think you've done a great job not cursing them out. I would've said some horrible things back to them by now. Kudos to you!

I'm dreading seeing my mother next week. She told me after I told her I was pregnant that "there's no reason to gain more than 15 pounds". Ugh. I set a boundary with her years ago never to comment on my weight (I'm 13 years a recovering bulimic) so her comments mess with my self worth. Luckily my two sisters who are also coming into town are super supportive and understanding and both have kids.

mymanicuredmama · March 2015

I totally understand how you feel!!! During my last pregnancy with my son I gained a lot weight. Some people in my family made some comments to me about needing to slow down. Even member of my church said to me, "You look like you are going to give birth tomorrow," and I was only 4.5months pregnant!!! I was horrified. I was hurt. I literally bursted into tears and asked what the hell do you expect me to do?!?!?!? I look back now and see that they weren't trying to be mean (I think...can you tell I'm an optimist?). They just didn't know how to gently tell me to stop eating ice cream on Fridays. I really found it hurtful at the time. Honestly, I would be hurt if someone made a comment about my appearance during this pregnancy too because pregnancy isn't the easiest thing to pull off for everyone. Sure, I made some mistakes last time but pointing it out in front of everyone isn't the way to speak to me about it. I'm sorry you even have to deal with that. Someone needs to write a book, "How to speak to a pregnant woman for Dummies."

Due June 2015, Son born August 2013

Follow my pregnancy journey: www.youtube.com/channel/UC2VF3OT-BuC4GEuXpaNWxnA

taboullio84 · March 2015

DolphinLover2002 said:
I am pregnant with twins. I had a Co-worker ask me if I was still pregnant with twins. I told her that I still was, why wouldn't I be?! She told me she's heard of one twin vanishing. I told her at that point I was 20 weeks and if that happens, it happens very early with identical twins. Mine are fraternal. Anyways, she looks at me and says "how unfortunate that you still have them both". I told her I was thrilled to be having twins. Seriously, who would say that to someone?

What the sh*t? Who raised that woman ? What a rude b*tch.

Frogger5 · March 2015

DolphinLover2002 said:
I am pregnant with twins. I had a Co-worker ask me if I was still pregnant with twins. I told her that I still was, why wouldn't I be?! She told me she's heard of one twin vanishing. I told her at that point I was 20 weeks and if that happens, it happens very early with identical twins. Mine are fraternal. Anyways, she looks at me and says "how unfortunate that you still have them both". I told her I was thrilled to be having twins. Seriously, who would say that to someone?

Yeah, I'm a little late on this, but wow. That coworker has to actually have some kind of personality disorder to say something like that. I'm sorry you have to deal with her!

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