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TTC after 35
Guennie
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Reintro (long, child mentioned)
Guennie
member
in TTC after 35
Hello ladies. I am rejoining this board for a short period of time as I feel it will help me get through the next few months. The wonderful members of this board helped me get through a really bad period when I was TTC in 2012/2013. I had a beautiful baby girl on Thanksgiving of 2013. I now want very badly to give her a sibling.
I've suffered a total of 6 losses. One was a twin pregnancy so I have 7 angel babies. I was not planning on trying again because we went through so much both TTC and with the pregnancy and birth of my daughter. But I got a surprise literally on Christmas Day and after getting over the initial shock I realized I was very happy and wanted this baby. I had an incomplete miscarriage at almost 7 weeks and had to have a D&C, my third D&C.
I would have thought I would say I was done, but I really would like to try one more time. My h doesn't feel the same.
I'm here because I am scheduled to see a neurologist in April to determine if a pressure I get in my head is a migraine. I'm holding off going back on birth control until that appointment so we know what to put me on. I will have my annual exam with my OB/GYN the end of May and we will decide at that time what to do. So until then I could possibly get pregnant since we don't use any other form of birth control. I was honest with my h about how I feel and told him I wouldn't be on birth control for a few months so he can be careful if he truly doesn't want to risk it. He said he was a thousand percent sure. But the last two times he slipped and the timing seems to be perfect, so now I'm pretty sure I'm starting the TWW and I can't help feeling hopeful.
I'm not sure what my h is thinking or feeling or why he slipped. I don't know if it means a part of him actually is open to the possibility or if he just doesn't think it's much of a risk right now. Or maybe he just isn't thinking. I don't want to try to talk about it because it might ruin my chances. My h is not a good communicator. So I'm just going with it and I guess we'll see what happens.
Anyway, I'm sorry for everyone else who has suffered losses and sorry you find yourself on this board. I think there are still some familiar names here, which just breaks my heart. But hello to those of you I recognize.
I tried to tell myself I wouldn't pay too much attention to my cycle or get crazy about it, but here I am temping and charting. I just have to know.
Thanks for making it through this very long intro. Best wishes to all.
I've suffered a total of 6 losses. One was a twin pregnancy so I have 7 angel babies. I was not planning on trying again because we went through so much both TTC and with the pregnancy and birth of my daughter. But I got a surprise literally on Christmas Day and after getting over the initial shock I realized I was very happy and wanted this baby. I had an incomplete miscarriage at almost 7 weeks and had to have a D&C, my third D&C.
I would have thought I would say I was done, but I really would like to try one more time. My h doesn't feel the same.
I'm here because I am scheduled to see a neurologist in April to determine if a pressure I get in my head is a migraine. I'm holding off going back on birth control until that appointment so we know what to put me on. I will have my annual exam with my OB/GYN the end of May and we will decide at that time what to do. So until then I could possibly get pregnant since we don't use any other form of birth control. I was honest with my h about how I feel and told him I wouldn't be on birth control for a few months so he can be careful if he truly doesn't want to risk it. He said he was a thousand percent sure. But the last two times he slipped and the timing seems to be perfect, so now I'm pretty sure I'm starting the TWW and I can't help feeling hopeful.
I'm not sure what my h is thinking or feeling or why he slipped. I don't know if it means a part of him actually is open to the possibility or if he just doesn't think it's much of a risk right now. Or maybe he just isn't thinking. I don't want to try to talk about it because it might ruin my chances. My h is not a good communicator. So I'm just going with it and I guess we'll see what happens.
Anyway, I'm sorry for everyone else who has suffered losses and sorry you find yourself on this board. I think there are still some familiar names here, which just breaks my heart. But hello to those of you I recognize.
I tried to tell myself I wouldn't pay too much attention to my cycle or get crazy about it, but here I am temping and charting. I just have to know.
Thanks for making it through this very long intro. Best wishes to all.
Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
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Re: Reintro (long, child mentioned)
TTC #1 for 21 Months
Husband: 41
Me: 36
3 failed IUIs
changed REs
1 failed IVF (chemical pregnancy)
1 FET (single transfer) 2/28/15 ???
12 5-day frozen embryos
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
EDD: 8/10/16
8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
BFP- 10-16-14 EDD 6/13/15: MC 12-1-14
I'm so sorry for all your losses.
My husband wanted to try for only a few months after our first loss. Well that was over a year and a half ago and he has not brought it up.
He knows I'm not going to go on birth control and he is never careful. My kids are big (18 and 10) so I think he is anxious about starting over. Deep down I know he wants another.
I'm glad you get to hang out with us. Hopefully you get to graduate again.
Me:39, DH:40
DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04
TTC#3
NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13
Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks
CP 2/14
All welcome
@KirstenAlecia I really don't know how I'm finding the strength to want to give it one more try. While pregnant I thought if it didn't work out that would be it for me. I thought I would make darn sure I would never get pregnant again. But something changed. I think it changed when I saw the heartbeat. Now instead of wanting to do all I can to prevent, I want to hope for one more miracle. I know how difficult it could be, I know it could end with yet another loss, and yet I still want to try. Maybe that's messed up.
My h said that he doesn't want to go through any more painful experiences and he is a thousand percent happy with our life. He thinks our luck lies with our daughter and we just need to focus on her. But it's for her I want to produce a sibling. As older parents I think it's important to make sure she will be ok. I worry about her going through everything alone as we are aging. I want her to always have someone.
Anyway, I know the odds are against me so mostly I hope this board can help me get through the rollercoaster I know I'll be on for the next few months. Thank you for the support.
I have a sister a year older. We were best of friends growing up. My h has a half sister a lot older. He loves her but I don't think it's quite the same. I don't think he realizes how lonely it could be.
I know I can't make him feel the same way I do, I just have to accept that I have this small window and if it doesn't happen it isn't meant to be. I hope I can feel better about it in a few months if nothing happens.