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Sex during pregnancy?

littlemamablacklittlemamablack member
in October 2015 Moms
hey ladies! I am 7 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby and I am terrified to have sex with my husband!!! I finally gave in last night and we had very gentle sex in a position that didn't hurt on the inside (because some do) but now I am on higher alert for signs of miscarriage again... I don't want to spend my first trimester this way :( has anyone else had this problem?
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  • yoopermom824yoopermom824 member
    DH and I attempted last night but it felt kind of crampy/painful despite going slow so I had to stop. I just got too nervous about the baby and couldn't relax, so it wasn't worth it. I felt bad for DH but I just want to make sure the baby's okay!
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  • zizohzizoh member
    I wanted to ask this too! I read somewhere that in the first trimester, a strong orgasm cab cause problems. We were scared to learn that, don't want to harmharm the baby! Seven weeks probably so still a while to go for first trimester to be over. Anyone been advised to not have sex?
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  • HaddisMommyHaddisMommy member
    My husband and I went from having an incredibly active and adventurous sex life to being on bed rest and pelvic rest for the last 4 weeks, and it's been unbearable!  Our 4th child was stillborn at 18wks just a few months ago so I'm also terrified at the idea of sex, but we find other ways to be intimate.  I haven't heard of a man turning down oral sex, and anal sex is an option also as long as your smart about it.  We exchange massages and cuddle and still sleep naked with our arms wrapped around each other, and although it's not sex, it's still bonding.  When we make out and things start getting hot and heavy, I push him away and tell him I'm saving myself for marriage (we've been happily married for ages) or that we can't because my mom might hear (she lives in another town), and we start laughing and cuddle and then it's not awkward and he doesn't feel like I'm holding out on him.  It's more important to stay safe for baby, you can be intimate without penetration.
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  • demeekademeeka member
    What does your dr say
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  • 266psyche266psyche member
    I'm guilty of this and always pay with some brown spotting after, but my hubby is just so sexy with his new haircut I kinda can't help myself.
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  • orangeivyorangeivy member
    I was told that sex is totally fine.
    Me and my husband are still having a healthy sex life.
    Just keeping things gentle. He's aware that it's crampy/uncomfortable if it's too much pressure, so he's being gentle.
    Still keeping things sexy and intimate.

    Haven't heard anything about this being a problem before. Doc and doula says it's all good.
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  • littlemamablacklittlemamablack member
    I haven't talked to my dr yet, first appt is next Tuesday! I haven't had any spotting (fingers crossed) or pain in my abdomen so I think I'm in the clear at this point. I have suspicions that my last pregnancy may have ended in miscarriage due to some really rough sex we were having in the first trimester. My dr said it could have bumped something around. That's why I'm so anxious about it! We are going to wait to do it again until after we talk to our dr though :)
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  • amberrmariee20amberrmariee20 member
    I find everything is TWICE as sensitive as before, and some brown spotting can be normal afterwards, it's just because the cervix is engorged with blood during pregnancy and sex can irradiate it ! We have sex almost every night, each time ending with orgasm for me. And I haven't had any problems yet ! But if the Dr says no then I'd follow those rules ! Dr knows best (; !
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  • cnbrown1893cnbrown1893 member
    Unless the doctor advises otherwise, I was told it was fine. But I'm also one of those whose since I've gotten pregnant (I'm 9 weeks) sex has become even MORE amazing than normal. I've done some research and haven't found definitive evidence that sex can cause problems in a healthy low risk pregnancy. From what I understand any uterine contractions that re. Caused by orgasm aren't strong enough to affect the baby. The main thing is that you personally shouldn't do anything that you aren't comfortable with.
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  • lofinlofin member
    Is cramping after sex normal? Goes away within 10 minutes- I would say it was more than mild cramping but not severe - if that makes sense. Makes me nervous!
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    My doc said as long as you aren't have crazy monkey sex it is fine and even healthy as it helps with labor when you do it regularly in your third trimester.  The baby is tucked away into your uterus protected by the amniotic sac and your husband will not be able to reach there even if he is ...well endowed...lol.

    I am just the opposite I've been so crazily sexual since all this.  I enjoy the on top position..I get the control! lol
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  • bauerkjbauerkj member
    My girlfriend had a perfect way of putting it (sorry if too direct): he's just going inside the garage, not the house.

    Kathy B.
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  • yoopermom824yoopermom824 member
    bauerkj said:

    My girlfriend had a perfect way of putting it (sorry if too direct): he's just going inside the garage, not the house.

    You  made my day! Haha!!  =))
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  • KayleeandryanKayleeandryan member
    Slight "cramping" after sex is normal especially if you had an orgasm your uterus will contract. My first pregnancy the doc told me unless your having other complications or have recently had a miscarriage healthy sex is fine. I personally don't let hubby go deep because my cervix is super sensitive right now and it hurts if he hits that and because iv been so constipated I haven't really felt up to it but when I am we have normal healthy sex and I'm 9 weeks.
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