Anyone need to vent.. Come on in!

Nikolie93 · January 2015

Hey ladies :-h

I wanted to open this up to anyone that wants to vent about anything and everything.

This is a lot different than my "list of positive things" but I know that when I was going through my shitty shit I wish I had a place I could vent, even about the smallest things. So go!

xxkimmy8xx · January 2015

I haven't introed yet but probably will tomorrow. My levels only went from 26,000 to 27000 in 48 hours at 7+6 with only a yolk sac.

my husband's boss said he couldn't get off work for two hours to come to our follow up ultrasound tomorrow. So now I have to hear the news alone. So sad. :'( what kind of boss refuses two hours off for "a very important Dr. Appointment that my wife needs me at"??

Nikolie93 · January 2015

First I am so very sorry for your loss. Second, I can't believe his boss won't let him off to be with you. Do you have anyone else that can go with you?

I am so sorry *hug*

RoseTyler72 · January 2015

What kind of person does that?!?! I'm so sorry both for your loss and that your husband can't make it to your appt. Talk about kicking you when you're down. Lots of virtual hugs to you!

RoseTyler72 · January 2015

My vent today is pretty minor, but I had a serious rage fest explaining it to MH yesterday.

As soon as I had my M/C I changed my settings on TB from "pregnant" to "TTC". For the past 2 weeks TB has continued emailing me updates on the size of my baby. Thanks so much for reminding me that my baby would be the size of a blueberry IF IT WERE STILL ALIVE!!! After I finished raging, I found some email settings and changed them so hopefully it won't happen again next week (because if it does I might actually throw my computer out the window).

Nikolie93 · January 2015

@RoseTyler72, that is actually a known issue and some ladies have gotten the emails for quite some time after making the change. I am so sorry and that sucks so bad. I also don't think that is a minor vent at all!

Besides, this is a "vent no matter what it is" post

RoseTyler72 · January 2015

I'm so glad it's not just me. I was irrationally angry about it. I'm really feeling ok with everything and back to myself again but for some reason those emails make me fume about the injustice of it all.

xxkimmy8xx · January 2015

The email I got from The Bump today with the subject "Friends are getting pregnant and you're still trying?" Ranks among the worst.... :'(

Nikolie93 · January 2015

@xxkimmy8xx‌ totally unacceptable. There is a new place to go... A place where all the wonderful ladies that provided support here, now go. Let me know of you want to join us!

tcann320 · January 2015

Vent- It may be selfish, but it's painful to see my friends and other people posting that their expecting especially when it's around what would have been my due date. I can barrly go one any social media sites. I'm a pretty happy go lucky person, but it's extremely hard for me this time to celebrate with others when I'm hurting so badly.

fragglemom · January 2015

I also had a real hard time with seeing all the baby posts on facebook. I don't want to quit it altogether but I have unfollowed certain friends. That way I won't see their posts but remain their friend.

Nikolie93 · January 2015

@jessfragione I am so sorry that you're finding all these triggers

*hug*

BTW, the ladies that have been supporting this board have now moved on to somewhere new. If anyone is interested in knowing where the new place is so you can continue getting support, please let me know!

[Deleted User] · January 2015

https://****/board/12/pregnancy-loss

KimC2010 · January 2015

My mom posted on Facebook about my miscarriage and d&c yesterday. I saw it while i was in the recovery room with iv antibiotics still going. Luckily she didn't tag me and I saw it about 6 minutes after she posted, and when I asked her to take it down she did so promptly. My MIL asked about it and at least one person commented on it, so i know at least a few people saw it. But who does that? That's something extremely private. If I didn't post about she definitely shouldn't post about it.

Bel831 · January 2015

Hugs to everyone! We all need it. My rant-I should have been a little over 6 months this week...FB hadn't been too bad for a while, but it seems *all of a sudden* all of these women I know are sharing baby news, one friend just announced they're having a girl, another announced she's having twins, and then I even see posts that friends of friends made about giving birth because they 'liked' it. ahhhhhhh! It's so hard. I did ok for a while there, but now it seems its all crashing down again.

And I'm still only working part time, so hubby doesn't even want to try again. Does he not realize that my last job was probably the reason we lost the baby? (super stressed) I've been trying to take it easy, and get healthy, so I'm at my best for incubation. lol

rain0831boww · February 2015

Feeling like everyone here. Seeing all these people post their pregnancy news when not even trying- ugh! Even my closest friends all getting pregnant when not even wanting to and me... Two miscarriages and trying and nothing. Why?!? The news with stories about women killing their babies... Why?!? I hate being negative but its so hard to talk to anyone other than my husband about my sadness, frustration and jealousy. My family and friends look at me with sympathy and I feel like shit. I just want to know if I will ever be able to have a healthy baby one day.

kristieeq · February 2015

Hugs to everyone, I understand your feelings. Sometimes I find it easier to be pissed off rather than sad about my miscarriage.

Here's my vent: WHY?! I'm healthy, I'm 25, I followed ALL THE RULES, studied my pregnancy book PAGE TO PAGE, prayed every day and wanted the baby so badly. I see drugged out teenage morons get knocked up with children they don't even want! Smooth sailing pregnancies for them. It's not fair and nature is cruel.

^I try to hide those thoughts but it feels good to get them out. I hope no one judges me for saying that.

On another note, I've been helping plan a coworker's baby shower at work (prior to my miscarriage). After I miscarried, they asked me if I still felt comfortable planning it or even attending.. I can swallow my pain and push through it if it means supporting someone else and celebrating something good. I think I can do it.

lilp2015 · February 2015

I'm so ready to put February behind us!! First, my fiancée had to have his appendix out then we found out baby didn't make it. Should of been 9 weeks but baby only measured 7. A few days later fiancée was fired from his job because the surgeon wanted him off a week and 3 days not just 1 week. Now I'm waiting for the miscarry to begin, most the stories I've read they all start in a couple days, mines been over a week. I really wanted to do this naturally but looks like my body isn't going to "reconize" it. As much as I love this little peanut I'm just ready to move on from it and say good bye to February!!!!

rablissful · February 2015

I'm currently miscarrying (10 weeks) and I'm doing ok(ish), trying to stay distracted. As long as I don't think about it I'm not crying. The doorbell just rang and it's flowers from my SO's work. I just kind of fell on the floor sobbing. My SO is currently napping (he took today and tomorrow off for me, and he came home early yesterday when I got my hcg results back). Very nice of them but too soon.

NicoleJustin111711 · February 2015

lilp2015 said:
I'm so ready to put February behind us!! First, my fiancée had to have his appendix out then we found out baby didn't make it. Should of been 9 weeks but baby only measured 7. A few days later fiancée was fired from his job because the surgeon wanted him off a week and 3 days not just 1 week. Now I'm waiting for the miscarry to begin, most the stories I've read they all start in a couple days, mines been over a week. I really wanted to do this naturally but looks like my body isn't going to "reconize" it. As much as I love this little peanut I'm just ready to move on from it and say good bye to February!!!!

Does your fiance qualify for Family Medical Leave (FMLA)? Has he been there for more than a year? Worked more than 1250 hours in the past 12 months? Does the company have 50 (or more employees) in a 75 mile radius? If the answer is 'yes' to all of those questions, email me going2thebeach123@yahoo.com. I work for the agency that enforces FMLA.

ekrubanit · March 2015

This post kind of died, but I have some venting to get out. Since we found out Wednesday we lost our child, I took some days off work. I'm the manager, and my direct superior completely understood and gave me the time I needed. However, the problems lie with my employees. The two I told, assistant manager and another pregnant employee who went through a missed miscarriage, have been completely INSENSITIVE. First, the pregnant one told me she "called" my miscarriage because I had mentioned my nausea lessening...excuse me, that's normal in pregnancy. I still have plenty of symptoms right now, and my d&c is tomorrow. She had the gall to say she even told her mother she knew I was miscarrying before I told her! Second, assistant manager who just had a healthy baby in December, has been guilting me into coming back to work, saying, "I hope you're enjoying these days off with your husband. Gosh it's so busy here, I could sure use a hand." Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but it just sends me right off the edge even thinking about them. I'm happy you have happy healthy children. Maybe you don't believe I even had a child because I never got to hold her. But let me tell you, we waited patiently for two years for that BFP while the two of you were knocked up accidently by your boyfriends. I prayed for that moment, and we were parents the second it happened. I've lost my precious child, and she isn't coming back. Take a page out of Thumper's book and if you don't have something nice to say, then don't say it at all.

Sorry for the book ladies, had to get this off my chest so I could try and actually sleep tonight.

lilp2015 · March 2015

So sorry you are having to deal with people like that during this difficult time. Thoughts and prayers for you!

marylynn07 · March 2015

I haven't introduced myself here yet. I was eight weeks last Wednesday, the same day I'm fairly certain I had a miscarriage. I was alone in my hotel room in Tampa (I live in Delaware, but was in Florida for work). I spent the night in tears and pain and barely slept. I went to work on Thursday and produced a major event for my job. Because Delaware was dealing with 10 inches of snow, my doctor's office was closed. I wasn't certain I was experiencing "a true medical emergency" so I didn't leave a message for the on-call doc. I did reach the nurse Friday morning and they had me go to a nearby lab for blood work and repeat again today. Despite having miscarriage symptoms for 10 days now, I have no answers and no appointment scheduled for any kind of ultrasound or exam -- just the blood work.

I'm frustrated with my doctor's office. I feel like a trip to the emergency room or a visit to their office today would have provided more definitive answers. I also have all kinds of questions about what I can/can't do right now and feel like my miscarriage is being blown off by their office. I'm seriously considering changing doctors for my next pregnancy, but this is supposed to be the best practice in the area.

So, my vent is that I just want answers. I can't fully grieve or move past this because I don't definitively know (although my heart does) that I've lost the baby. And to make matters worse, my husband leave for a business trip tomorrow, so I'll be alone again when I get the results.

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1st BFP 08/08/14 EDD 04/21/15 confirmed MMC 09/17/14 waited for natural m/c no luck, D&C 10/06/14

2nd BFP 02/06/15 EDD 10/13/15

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