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People and their opinions on baby names

Brookebu313Brookebu313 member
in August 2015 Moms
How do you not take negative comments or unforgiving looks about baby names to heart when trying to name your child. Our 2 names are not weird or exotic but we have had such mixed reactions I am second guessing myself. One family member even conducted her own poll and felt the need to tell me the results not understanding how hurtful that is. We are definitely keeping our final choice to ourselves to avoid any further comments. Our names are Sawyer and Beckham and people are acting like we are naming our kid the most exotic name they have ever heard. Ugh
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  • Lalala2326Lalala2326 member
    This is part of the reason why we are keeping our names a secret. We did with my daughter too. We also didn't find out the sex last time though and we aren't finding out again this time, so we just say we aren't deciding anything for sure until we see the baby. I really don't care what other people think of my baby names, so why in the world would I want to open myself up to their unsolicited opinions? Trust me though, this is only the first of many, many things you will get unsolicited parenting advice on, so you need to learn to either not put it out there for discussion and/or to let it go and do your own thing when you get some you dislike.
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    You keep your names to yourselves.

    Like PP said, you will be getting all kinds of unsolicited advice and judgments on your parenting decisions. This is only the beginning.
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  • AshleyM0125AshleyM0125 member
    Different people will always have differing opinions. Just make sure the people know that these comments and things are hurtful. I had to tell my MIL that this was my child and not hers when I was pregnant with DD. It sucks that people are so mean but you just need to remember that this is your decision.

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  • love4yourlockslove4yourlocks member
    Love both those names!
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  • ChristyM87ChristyM87 member
    I love Sawyer, very cute. I am sorry your family isn't being understanding just tell them next time that they got to name their kids already and now it is your turn and the decision is final
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  • chavemann10chavemann10 member
    I have learned, people all have opinions and they are all different.  If we have a girl, we are using really old family names that are now considered "misspelled", but 100-200+yrs ago, this is how they have spelled for years and years.  I get so much crap from strangers about it, but my family heritage means more to me than the opinion of strangers.  Do as you wish, it is your child, and they will love their name!



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  • RavenhillRavenhill member
    I LOVE Sawyer and Beckham!! You just have to take what people say with a grain of salt(everyone feels like you need to know what they think). YOU love those names and that is all that matters. 
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  • kjanderickakjandericka member
    I've always been one of those "screw what other people say" type people so, when I finally told our family the name we chose, I added, "and if you don't like it, you can keep your opinion to yourself because we don't care." I know that not everyone has the same attitude as I do, and I'm not saying that my approach is/was the right way to go about it, but it really isn't their decision. Pick a name that you and your SO love and stick with it. There will always be people who don't like your name, whether you pick something traditional like Jack or John or something completely off the wall.

    As far as your names go, I love them (not that my opinion or anyone else's should sway your decision). They were actually both on our list.

    Good luck deciding!
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  • schup156schup156 member
    We shared our name choices when I was pregnant with our daughter and always got mixed reactions.  My little brother told me that both were way too weird.  He eventually said he was getting used to our boy name, but still hated our girl name choice.  Well of course we had a girl....and now everyone in the family loves the name and couldn't imagine calling her anything else.  We still get the occasional side-eye from strangers when we tell them her name (Juniper) but I really don't care.

    We haven't shared our name choices this time around, mainly because we don't have our final choices yet.  But I will share with the understanding that not everyone will like it and will openly share their opinions.....once baby is here none of that will matter!
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  • xcitdmommaxcitdmomma member
    I agree with picking names you like, but do try to pick something that won't look weird on a job application. I hire people and, I'm not going to lie, that stuff does cross my mind when reading resumes.

    Just a suggestion!
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  • pabeybabypabeybaby member
    @schup156 I think Juniper is adorable!
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  • Suzanne237Suzanne237 member
    Yep with baby number one we never really answered. We tossed out a bunch of names that were on our list but to get a feel and also to let people think we were sharing. But we didn't let them know the decided name till after he was born. And if you start getting negative comments on the real name, then we just changed the subject to another name.
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