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Wish I could help

cherylmheddencherylmhedden member
in March 2015 Moms
I feel so bad when my husband is doing certain chores and I cannot help him. It stinks when we need to do things like shovel snow after work, and all I want to do is get out there and do it, but then I remember I am 38 weeks pregnant and can't. I just need to vent as my poor hubby is out in 20 degree weather tonight shoveling our driveway. I am feeling so bad.
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  • xomegabee1218oxxomegabee1218ox member
    I am in the exact same boat! Couldn't agree more...feels awful to watch him come home from work and have to do chores that I simply can't anymore and I'm over here relaxing on maternity leave.
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  • babystarinbabystarin member
    I feel the same way too... My husband has been working with maybe two days off in a month from work and then needs to split wood and carry around tons of pellets. I've tried not to ask much help with house work but still need him for some of that too like carrying laundry downstairs for me. We are almost done... Never thought I would say I'm excited to do laundry!! Lol.
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  • Christina80xoxoChristina80xoxo member
    edited March 2015
    I know it's hard. Appreciate it though. I'm alone with a 12 year old and having a baby in a week. Grocery shopping, cleaning , putting crib together. I know you want to do more... But be glad you don't have too :) it sucks !
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  • KD32412KD32412 member
    Know how you feel. Hubby has been catering to me since this pregnancy is high risk. He takes care of the house, our 24 month old, our heart diseased dog, works full time, and NEVER complains. Sadly I needed an emergency c-section and now he has another thing to worry about, including our 37 week newborn. I cannot wait till I can get back on my feet and contribute, it's driving me bananas.
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  • AshleyAllen87AshleyAllen87 member
    I'm sure it's difficult not being able to help, but consider yourself lucky you have such a willing partner. While I do love my hubby, there are certain chores that if I didn't do even at this point, wouldn't get done. I really think that a lot of it has to do with that many of his friends have kids and all of those mommies are extremely tough and independent woman. So he sees how they handled their pregnancies and is like why can't you do this or that? Lol maybe not always realising that EVERY woman is different with their pain threshold and emotional needs. My hubby is not a lazy person at all, he just doesn't get it sometimes lol

    I think he can tell when I'm just being a bit whiney vs ok I'm going to snap soon, but like I said consider yourselves lucky bc their are many woman with useless guys and many woman who are doing this completely alone.
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  • LynnBrown4LynnBrown4 member
    You've carried a baby for 9 months. I wouldn't worry too much about your husband shoveling the driveway... I think you're even ;)
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  • mermaid1113mermaid1113 member
    Don't feel bad, feel good that you have a wonderful husband! That's what a relationship is all about! It's a give and take without keeping score. You will have the opportunity to do something for him one day and won't expect him to feel bad about it.
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