There are a lot of lists you can google online. I took a lot from the bump, Pinterest etc. toiletries and your own pillow, towel, granny panties, nighties/comfy clothes, camera with batteries. A bag for baby with essentials like the outfit to come home in, care items like nail clippers (because their nails are sharp after they dry out), but leave room in the baby bag as the hospital has a lot of goodies for new moms to take home. And a bag for DH, including snacks and extras. I'm going to assemble the bags over the next few weeks and get them tucked in the car around week 35 so I can be done and be ready!
Re: hospital bag