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Knottie89867454Knottie89867454 member
in November 2015 Moms
my fiancé and I have been together for a long time.
My family doesn't care for him but his family loves me.
We're hoping to have a baby on the way due in nov.
The stress my family is putting on us is causing a lot in our relationship. I just don't know what to do.
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  • RNmommy13RNmommy13 member
    I am sorry, must be hard. Try to stay strong
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  • Knottie89867454Knottie89867454 member
    Thank you.
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  • adcc43adcc43 member
    They may not be overly excited at first that you are having a baby but down the road when the baby is here and they see how great your soon to be hubby is with your child, they may change their outlook on him.

     

     

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  • Knottie89867454Knottie89867454 member
    Thank you so much. I never thought about that.
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  • krazyspaaskrazyspaas member
    Well.. I'm not saying this is your relationship, but speaking from the disliking family perspective... My sister's soon to be ex-husband is an ass in the truest form of the sense. Unless your family is just being picky about things, evaluate your own relationship. Is there something there that should be disliked about him? They may be trying to protect you from current and future hurt. On the other side of that sometimes its the family, my sister hated my now husband for years because she just didn't like him. He was too girly being her biggest complaint (in comparison I'm sorta, for lack of a better word, manly but it works).. after he got a well paying job and we were living together my mom told her to shut up because at least I like my man and he has a job and keeps it unlike her hubby so she didn't want to hear it. Now my sis goes out of her way to give him hugs and she is very supportive of him...even told him she loved him, in a strict family sense.
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  • jessnjuan07jessnjuan07 member
    Do you know what it is about him that they don't like?
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  • Knottie89867454Knottie89867454 member
    His tattoos (the silliest thing)
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  • jessnjuan07jessnjuan07 member
    Oh, tattoos don't mean anything. I know pastors with tattoos; lots of them.
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  • buckwheatpancakesbuckwheatpancakes member
    I'm in a similar boat, and it's tough, I understand.

    My family really likes my soon-to-be hubby, but they are very religious and we are not at all. We are planning to delay announcing the pregnancy to them until I am much further along, but I know my parents will not be happy about an out-of-wedlock pregnancy.

    On his side, everyone is super happy, excited, and supportive of us.
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  • makayla&marelymakayla&marely member
    I am pregnant with my very first child and I have no help from the father. But I'm happy I have help from my mother or I couldn't get through this. I wish some would step up to their responsibilities.
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  • buckwheatpancakesbuckwheatpancakes member
    I'm sorry to hear. I hope he comes around.
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  • prfecprfec member
    makayla&marely said:

    I am pregnant with my very first child and I have no help from the father. But I'm happy I have help from my mother or I couldn't get through this. I wish some would step up to their responsibilities.

    My husband explained it perfectly after having a chat with another father. When women are pregnant they automatically have a bond with the baby. The men do not create that bond until they meet the baby.
    Even though I do not know if this applies to your situation or not, just a little insight.

    I know that doesn't help when it comes to physically helping out. It's just hard for them to understand the changes we are making in our lives.
    I hope everyone here gets the help and support they need, just remember you always have your fellow bumpies here supporting you emotionally!
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