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baby bumps popping up EVERYWHERE!

mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
edited March 2015 in October 2015 Moms
My husband and I had been trying for over a year to get pregnant and when we finally do (I am 8wks pregnant now) I find out 3 other women in my family are also pregnant & today I found out my twin sister is roughly 5wks making it a total of 5 pregnancies including me. & i cant help but like "my moment" is being washed away :/
Am i a horrible person for feeling this way?! Well at least we'll all have each other for support :)
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Re: baby bumps popping up EVERYWHERE!

  • mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
    edited March 2015
    Please dont judge me! I really am happy for all of us. Just needed to get this out.
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  • MrsN092714MrsN092714 member
    I get where your coming from, just think, your kids will all be so close in age and that really will be awesome! It won't make anyone less excited for you!
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  • mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
    Thank you so much! Just needed to know Im not crazy lol. & very true! This is STILL and will continue to be the most amazing thing to happen to my DH and I & thats all i need :)
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  • crbpjbcrbpjb member
    I have a twin and I always felt I did not want to be pregnant with her because I wanted to have my own moment.  I totally get where you're coming from.  But in the long run the pregnancy is only 9 months and I came to the realization that I'd really like our kids to be close together.  I think she plans to start trying this summer, but I get that when you are 3 weeks close that takes a lot away from it.
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  • KMKaiser07KMKaiser07 member
    I totally get it. My DS has a cousin 3 months older and one 5 days older and I still find moments where I feel like "our moment" isn't as big. Since he was the last of the bunch of babies we didn't have many people visit us in the hospital, I felt like (I'm sure I was totally overreacting) his birth wasn't as big of a deal as the others and felt that way for his first birthday. I worked hard to remind myself that every baby is a blessing and everyone is excited for it. I think it's so easy for our emotions to cloud reality.
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  • akorpessakorpess member
    That's happening to me too! It's awesome though because you get to share things with people who understand! Even if you are friends with parents... Everything changes so fast! I was just in the maternity ward with my new nephew and talking about my symptoms i realized quickly that my sister in law completely had forgotten what she was going through just 30 weeks ago. Consider it a blessing!
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  • mishala12mishala12 member
    Dont feel bad. I had a friend (who i haven't told about my pregnancy yet) tell me this weekend that she was late, i was surprised at how angry i felt at first. Luckly it was over text. I reacted normal and it ended up just beeing stress making her late. But i can definitely see where you are coming from. I thunk your feelings are normal and valid. Im sure they will change over time. Good luck!
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  • mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
    edited March 2015
    I feel a lot better knowing this feeling is normal. And I love my sister and the rest of my family members who are also expecting. But its just hard. I grew up sharing everything with my sister(birthdays, graduation etc) I just always thought that when my time would come to be a mother, it would be a lot more different and I would get to have this experience on my own. At the end of the day, things happen for a reason and NO ONE can take this away from my DH & I. This is our moment and were so excited :)
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  • MerVerMerVer member
    I know how you feel, my hubby and I have been trying over a year too and I am also 8 weeks (almost 9!!!). Our close friends told us they were pregnant a couple weeks before we found out we were, but they were not happy about it because they were not trying. I sometimes feel like it's not fair that she is a month ahead of me and didn't want to be pregnant. I'm just sharing to tell you you're not alone in having these types of thoughts. Actually last year when we started trying, it seemed like everyone one of my close friends and my husband's friends' wives all got pregnant within a few months of each other. Six of the women I was constantly around and close to were pregnant. So look at it this way, you get to join them!!!! Instead of sitting on the side lines wondering when it will be your turn. It would be so much harder if you were still trying while all of this was going on around you. You are the only one who gets to experience birthing your own child and no one else will! You alone are their mother and they are entering this world through your body, no one else! And you will get to have your own baby shower where everyone will get to shower you with love and support. I'm so happy for you!! Congrats!!!
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  • mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
    edited March 2015
    We were the same way when we were first trying last year. It felt as if everyone around us were getting pregnant & that was not a good feeling :/ So when we found out we were expecting we were extremely excited it was finally our turn! And just reading all the positive things left on your post literally made my cry(happy tears) you are so right! This is my baby, and I will be its mother and that alone is beyond special :) thank you so much! & i wish you the best in your pregnancy :)
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  • last14reallast14real member
    @mirygmz07 sharing the pregnancy can be kinda a bummer at times but doing everything together with your babies as they grow is amazing! My sister, SIL, and I all had babies within 9 months of each other. My SIL had my nephew than 3 months later I had my son and 6 months later my sis had my niece. 3 years later it happened again but with my little brothers gf, my SIL than me and that was 3 babies in 7 months:) all of the kids go through phases at similar times and it's nice to have someone to commiserate with. We always have friends their age to have play dates with, I LOVE it!!! I'm honestly kind of sad no one else in my family is pregnant now, they are all done. The upside my new baby will only be 2 yrs behind the last crew:) oh and random thought if someone tries to get you do do a double shower do t do it, you deserve your own. I would coordinate with your sis to do them like a month apart, just my thoughts.
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  • mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
    Thank you for you advise! You bring such valids points! I grew up with a lot of cousins & we were all close in age so its going to be nice for my baby to have plenty of little cousins/friends to play and grow up with as well. :) & as far as baby showers theres noooo way we will be sharing that...we both deserve our own :)
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  • klhansen21klhansen21 member
    My mom told me she'd been trying for 4 years and then her 2 sister in laws announced their pregnancies 6 months before she found out she was pregnant with me and then her sister announced one month after she announced with me. She felt like you do now- that she didn't get her moment. But I had the best relationship with my 3 cousins growing up and we're all still really good friends. They were like siblings to me growing up. Your child will love it!
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  • mirygmz07mirygmz07 member
    You're completely right! In the long run this will be the best thing for my baby. He/she will not grow up alone :) thank you so much!
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