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June 2015 Moms
natjohnson
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Feeling antisocial
natjohnson
member
Hi ladies. I am new to this forum and in posting in general - first web post ever.
Anyway, I am due at the end of June and am wondering if anyone else has seen a slow slide into feeling antisocial in their pregnancies. I don't know whether it's fatigue, not drinking and hence feeling out of place in group settings, having less non baby stuff going on in my life or a bit of all combined. I live and study in a busy part of town and so run into people often - I feel like running away and hiding. Honestly, if I was told that I must see only my husband, parents and siblings for the rest of my pregnancy I wouldn't mind.
Anyone else feel like this? It's making me feel a little anxious when I do go out. Thanks ladies.
Anyway, I am due at the end of June and am wondering if anyone else has seen a slow slide into feeling antisocial in their pregnancies. I don't know whether it's fatigue, not drinking and hence feeling out of place in group settings, having less non baby stuff going on in my life or a bit of all combined. I live and study in a busy part of town and so run into people often - I feel like running away and hiding. Honestly, if I was told that I must see only my husband, parents and siblings for the rest of my pregnancy I wouldn't mind.
Anyone else feel like this? It's making me feel a little anxious when I do go out. Thanks ladies.
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Re: Feeling antisocial
People are driving me crazy with their non sense advices .
Anyway, just wanted to voice that sometimes what feels happy or satisfying (for ME - not projecting on any of you) is not actually a good situation for me. Whether it's depression, SAD, or even pregnancy hormones, sometimes I don't realize my urge to stay home isn't actually coming from a good place in my life. It takes getting out for me to realize that.
I was a big drinker before and feared social drinking situations, being pregnant. I have been pleasantly surprised by the fulfilling social aspects of going to a bar with friends but leaving early. It has been a nice way to get me out of my own head and focused on something not pregnancy related.
Not preaching or advising, just sharing my own experience of realizing I'm happier with a *balance* of staying home and also getting out and about. But that is just me, and I'm not an introvert (or an extrovert - am whatever the mix is).
I'm the exact same way. I've always been a bit antisocial, I prefer to hang out with just a short list of close friends, but it's been worse since being pregnant. I know for some it may be depression, but for me it's not. I've been diagnosed with depression in the past and I remember what that felt like, and this is not it. I actually don't think I've ever been happier!
But for me, the issue is I'm still experiencing a crazy amount of fatigue from pregnancy, partially because it's hard to get comfortable with my belly and partially because my morning sickness never stopped and the side affect to my morning sickness medication is fatigue. I'm just too tired to go out.
The other part of why I'm less social is because none of my friends are in the same stage of life that I'm in, I have some friends who are in the serious relationship or marriage stage, but none are really ready for kids yet. And I'm finding the further into my pregnancy I get, I just want to talk about my pregnancy and my upcoming baby, but I don't want to be that person who talks about it all the time so I try to wait for someone else to bring up my pregnancy. It's hard, because I can't just talk about what's on my mind anymore because all that's on my mind nowadays is baby, and none of them want to hear about it incessantly because they're not there yet and can't contribute with their own experiences. So I end up talking about other stuff with them, but I don't end up getting what's on my mind off my chest.
I think that's the real reason I've become more antisocial, because my husband and siblings and family are just as excited about my pregnancy as I am, and they can understand what I'm going through (my SIL is also pregnant), and I can talk to them in a more open way that I can't do with my friends anymore. I don't have to filter my thoughts with family, or worry that I'm boring them with lregnancy stories. I don't see it as a bad thing though, I've always known that most friendships are fleeting, so I'm taking it as an opportunity to build up and grow my relationship with my family since family is forever.