Anyone bring DH to the first OB appointment?

Lo9876 · February 2015

He wants to be there but we're not sure if it's better to wait until a later appointment when I'm sure to have an ultrasound...

Beccas387 · February 2015

I'm sure just the support could be nice! My hubby can't make it to the first appt (also ultrasound) due to his work schedule

devonsd315 · February 2015

My DH came but we knew we were going to have an ultrasound. Why don't you call and ask if there will be one or not? My husband is planning to be at most of them if his work schedule allows.

erob06 · February 2015

DH is coming to my first appt on 3/2. This is our first baby and i heard they go over a lot of information at your first appt. Thought it'd be a good idea for him to come. I told him not to plan on coming to every appointment and unless he wants to of course!

MirandaC1984 · February 2015

DH is going to come to as many as possible. He'll for sure be at the first one and any that we know ahead of time will include an US.

xcitdmomma · February 2015

My husband went to the first OB appointment as there were LOTS of questions. They also gave us lots of info, so it was nice to have someone else to remember what happened as I'm "foggy."

If his schedule allows, he comes. If it's not worth it (no test results/ultrasound), he doesn't as it would use an entire sick day.

I scheduled the next one in the evening, so we can both go after work.

oywiththepoodlesalready · February 2015

Mine is coming. He is the kind of person that needs to research and analyze every medical decision so he will be there to get the information straight from the doctor and ask questions. He will be coming to as many as his work schedule allows, we both work close to my OB office so hopefully he will be able to make most of them.

ajhellmuth · February 2015

Mine didn't because it was #4 and didn't think he needed to! Until I was told it was twins...then I was wishing he was there! lol It's always nice to have someone with for the first appointment I think.

Ree0123 · February 2015

My DH came it's my first and I wanted the support. I'll drag him to every one if I can lol

bntfroggie · February 2015

Mine will be there as well but I know we are having the U/S.

hildystar · February 2015

Mine came to every appt last time, and plans on it this time around as well. Dads have questions to ask, and he wants to do his part where ever possible.

If dad-to-be is able to attend appointments, I can certainly say I found it to be beneficial to have him there at each appointment.

Kristiehopki · February 2015

My DH never missed an appt for our last one born in 2014. He asked me to make them the week he is off so I did, it was great having him with me. This time around he may have to miss a bit since we have a one year old and they don't allow you to bring small kids to the office.

britthendricks · February 2015

My husband comes to every single one. He lives being involved. Plus I forget stuff and he remembers what the ob says for me.

brynagc · February 2015

My husband and I both want him to be at as many of the appointments that he can make!

Caselina8310 · February 2015

Mine is joining me as well! I just made sure to give him a heads up to the date/time so he could change his work schedule. I think it's important he's involved, especially since not much is changing for him right now like it is for us girls

furelise93 · February 2015

My DH wants to come to every single one. Unfortunately, he won't be able to make it to the first one, but you can bet he will be at every other one. He is just as excited as I am about the baby! I love it.

crbpjb · February 2015

I agree with PP, I would call the OB and ask what to expect. I am bringing my husband to the first one, but I had called and confirmed there was an ultrasound. Although I think I would have brought him either way. Our work schedules clash a lot though, so I may bring my mom or twin sister to future appointments if I feel I need someone.

Callory14 · February 2015

My DH wanted to come with me to every appointment so I had support. As does my mom and he knows she can be a little overbearing for me sometimes. He's my rock and my positive light. So I'm very glad he wants to be so involved.

VioletandRose · February 2015

My BF really wants to be there. The first appt isn't an real "ultrasound," but will have a bedside sonogram. Ordinarily I wouldn't want him to leave work, but I would like him there this first time, just in case, god forbid, something is wrong (or it is twins -- ahhhh!).

KMKaiser07 · February 2015

My DH only goes to appointments where we will be having ultrasounds.

CaitLewis15 · February 2015

I consider myself a strong and capable woman, but apparently I'm really dependent upon my family. My husband, mum, dad, and in-laws are all coming to my 7 week US this Thursday. I felt a little ridiculous and called my OB's office to warn them, and also promise that this won't be the usual (my parents just happen to be in town this week). They were very understanding, and honestly, I love the support

anorthro · February 2015

My husband is coming to them all, if his schedule permits. I love having him be a part of this, since he really is a huge part of it! And he asks the questions I forget to ask.

mrsdawnjoy · February 2015

DH is definitely coming. I do have a few questions for you ladies - is it a transvaginal ultrasound and if so, is it wierd for someone else to be in the room for that? Also, do they normally weigh you in front of your DH? He would never care what I weigh and I know it's incredibly silly but I feel like a cow already and I'd prefer to keep that magic number to myself!

beetsbees · February 2015

DH is totally going to the first appointment. OB has lots of medical history to go over with both of us and blood work for me. I hate needles. Unfortunately there won't be an US till week 11 which seems like a long time to wait, but none the less Mr. Man will be there for when I get poked. :-/

crbpjb · February 2015

It would probably be a transvaginal ultrasound. It is my understanding that they cannot see a lot otherwise. If my husband wasn't going to see a baby come out of there in 9 months I might find it weird...but it's only going to get weirder :-) Embrace the weird!

My husband is actually excited to see me grow. He was very adamant about getting pictures every week from the very beginning.

Chippercjm · February 2015

I thought the same thing but he still wanted to come and I'm glad he did because he was able to ask any questions and see how the routine will go in the office/meet the doctors and nurses/etc. I fed recommend it!

ChristyD6 · February 2015

DH came to all my major appointments: first, NT scan, a/s, GD test (I have needles and he kept me from passing out), and my non stress test at the end. He did not come to a lot of the "boring" middle ones where all my OB did was listen to the hb and check the height of my uterus.

I wouldn't want to go alone to the first just in case te pregnancy isn't viable and I needed support, ya know?

Lo9876 · February 2015

Thanks for all of the responses ladies! He will definitely be coming with me. Best of luck to everyone!

felicia&rene · February 2015

This is baby#5 so he already knows more or less what happens. Besides his work schedule won't let him. Maybe, he'll get the day off to find out what the gender of the baby is. So excited can't wait for that day!

casserole27 · February 2015

Mine is on Thursday but I am planning on bringing DH. In fact he will most likely be there for all if them. I am getting a new OB and am really nervous. He remembers everything for me and asks the questions I forget. I always like to have someone there and we haven't told anyone else yet.

deanna1313 · February 2015

My husband came to my first appt with my son and will be at this one, too. They also do a lot of family history stuff so he may want to help with that, but it's just nice to have him there, too.

xtineelaine · February 2015

I didn't invite my DH to my first app with our DS and without knowing hurt his feelings, so this time around I will be bringing him along.

mamasnowwhite · February 2015

My husband insisted. It was interesting lol, I've never had a Pap smear with an audience haha then he didn't listen to (well he "didn't remember") anything the doctor said so if he comes next time he's definitely going to have to put his listening ears on lmao

DMCBaby · February 2015

This is my first pregnancy, so Daddy to Be comes with me to all my appointments. We had a bit of a scare at the beginning with painful cramping, so he took off work for those blood tests and ultra sounds. I'm sure he'll have to miss a few, but we're trying to scheduling according to his work schedule!

rahrah82 · February 2015

This is our first baby so I definitely want my husband to be there for the first appointment just for the information and because they plan to do an ultrasound during that time. He probably won't make it to all of my appts. due to him working about 45mins away from where we live, but I want to make sure he is there for any ultrasound appts.

jenspeake · February 2015

Hubby wanted to come with for my first appointment which is in a three hours and I'm nervous and excited! I believe someone told me that they ask a lot of family history so it's good for him to be there. Not sure if I'll get any type of ultrasound or what to expect! I know I have to drink a lot of water before hand for a urine test! Trying to come up with and write down all the questions I want to ask.

alinic916 · February 2015

Dr's office told me they may or may not due an ultrasound so told him to come. They did the ultrasound so he's glad he got to be there for it. Don't expect him to go to all appts with me but at least ultrasound appts!

jenspeake · February 2015

It ended up being nice to have DH there. Especially for the first appointment. They did an US so hubby got to see it was for real! They didn't end up asking for any of his family history but the we went into the doctor's office and he answered any of my questions. Whether hubby had any or not he got to hear the answers to mine and the doctor gave us lots of information. I don't expect him to come to every appointment...just the ones where they are doing an us.

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