Any new mommies in here NOT married?

rbaccala88 · February 2015

Anyone here not married while pregnant? I have been with my boyfriend for a year but I feel like being pregnant now without being married yet is a little unorthodox considering too many relationships statistically with children premaritally just don't end well. Even though we have strong families and we both as partners are strong, there's always that fear in the back of my mind I'm going to end up being a single mother like so many of my other friends who were pregnant while in a relationship. Anyone else feeling the same way or similar?

ktlany · February 2015

You're not alone! My pregnancy was a complete accident (while on the pill even) but after the initial shock my boyfriend and I have become really excited. We've been together a short time but he wants to get married. I'm not sure how I feel about it. Are you planning on getting married before the baby is born? I haven't decided if that's something I want to do just because I'm having a baby.

thinkrabbit · February 2015

I've been engaged for a year but no plans for a wedding yet. They are so expensive. I'm nervous to tell my parents, I'm afraid they'll freak out on me. It's easier to make a kid than to make wedding plans. I guess my little bean will just have to be in our wedding! Besides, I love my last name and thinks it's great it will be on the birth certificate!

BBrazzini0806 · February 2015

I'm not married. Been with my partner almost 9 years though and we have been engaged about a year now.

pinkiepie04 · February 2015

thinkrabbit said:

I've been engaged for a year but no plans for a wedding yet. They are so expensive. I'm nervous to tell my parents, I'm afraid they'll freak out on me. It's easier to make a kid than to make wedding plans. I guess my little bean will just have to be in our wedding! Besides, I love my last name and thinks it's great it will be on the birth certificate!

They don't have to be expensive! You can get an officiant for next to nothing, there are tons of ways to save. This may not be everyone's idea of the dream wedding, but it doesn't have to break the bank unless you let it.

Ecat504 · February 2015

My partner and I have been engaged for almost a year now. We'll have been together for 2 years in April.

roxytadpole · February 2015

my partner and i have been together 2 years and we are not married or engaged yet. although we will be so we can buy a house and better insurance. so romantic

denise89_ · February 2015

I feel absolutely the same so you're not alone. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year. This is my second little one and his first kiddo. I have a 7 year old from a previous relationship and that guy isn't in my daughter's life at all. So of course with my boyfriend and the situation we found ourselves in I've thought to myself well here we go again I'm probably going to be a single mom but my boyfriend and I are going strong as a couple. I think the thought of being single moms because we're not married is definitely going to always be there but you never know what the future holds. I think if we stay strong as a couple have good communication with our partners definitely will help us get further in life with them. And you never know, maybe marriage could happen in the future. Always have positive thoughts and ignore those statistics

xxjennybaby · February 2015

I'm not married. I definitely would have like to have been though. Especially because my boyfriend already has a 10 year old son. I hate the thought of just being someone's baby momma. And not that i think that will happen I want a family that will always be a family, especially seeing as how then that would leave him with 2 baby mama's. Lol

Me and my boyfriend have been together since 2009. And have been living together just about that long as well. He's 31 and I'm 24 so we have quite an age gap. We talk about marriage alot and we were looking to buy our first house before we got the lovely surprise that I was pregnant.

Anyways.... I totally understand wanting to be married. But at the same time I wouldn't rush into it because your pregnant. I would want someone to want to marry me for me, not just because I'm having their baby. Being a single mom maybe better than having a divorce especially on your child

mnturk · February 2015

I have only been with my boyfriend for a year, so we aren't married. I'm not worried about it though--everything happens in its own time. I don't want to feel like he wants to get married only because we are having a child--I want him to want to marry me because of me. So whenever we get married is great, because I know he loves me and I love him, and we will both love the baby. That's kind of all that matters

Knottie96391996 · February 2015

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, we had planned on getting married at somepoint before we found out about the baby. Now our plans are just a little different and we plan on getting married before the baby comes and have a big wedding down the road.

stephaniebusse · February 2015

Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years now, we have been engaged for almost 3 months now. We had already planned on having a short engagement because we want to get married in June but did not want to wait till next year. So us getting pregnant didn't affect our decision, but I would imagine that if we had gotten pregnant about a year ago that we wouldn't have made the decision to get married earlier just because we were having a baby, because just because your married doesn't mean that you are going to be together forever

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