So sorry for your loss. I unfortunately know what you are going through as well. I know it can seem that it took forever the first time, so it might take forever again, but remember that your body needs to take the time to physically heal and you need to mentally heal before you can move on. We tried for a long time to before I got pregnant the first time and I thought it would be the same this time. We got pregnant only three months after my d&c. We were lucky. Maybe the same will happen to you
I am so incredibly sorry. I felt those exact same feelings when our son passed away in April. No, it's not wrong of you at all. It's totally normal. I just wanted my baby. Since I had carried a full sized baby, I wasn't allowed to try again for 6 months to allow my body (and heart) to heal. Some of the waiting was torture, but it also did my heart a lot of good to be able to separate the two babies. My son had died and I needed to fully grieve that before I was ready for another baby. That said, I would just listen to your doctor. If they say it's ok to try again quickly, then go for it.
You will make it through this pain. Just take it one moment at a time right now. It's ok to cry. Your baby deserves those tears. It's ok to not be yourself, your world has changed. You will be ok again, though. If you need to talk, I'm here.
Trigger Warning (LC and loss) --
Married May 2008
Beautiful daughter Alyssa born April 23, 2011
Precious son Isaac born at 34 weeks in April 27, 2014 with Potters Syndrome Type 4 and Down Syndrome - trusted into the arms of Jesus after 3 hours.
Pregnant again! Due August 8, 2015 please be healthy, little one!
(results on 2/4/15 showed no Down's and it's a girl!)
I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried in August, so I know what you are going through. My OB urged me to wait 2 cycles before we started trying again. It was the longest two months ever. As much as I wanted another baby again, I'm glad we waited the two months for my body to heal and to mentally and emotionally heal as much as possible. Take time for your body heal and take care of yourself. My T & P are with you!
I'm so sorry for your loss! I know how you feel. I was there last year. You're not wrong to want to be pregnant again. I felt the same way, and months later after my loss we were blessed with a healthy pregnancy. Take time to cope and heal from your loss, and then by all means try again. You'll be stressed at first and worry about everything, but try to stay positive. It's easier said than done, but try to relax and stay positive. That's helped me so far. Know that you're not alone.
I'm sorry for your loss, I also lost my baby and found out when I was 10weeks. I felt horrible not being able to hear the heartbeat and finding out it was because I had a missed miscarriage at 7weeks. It was depressing and I know what you are going through. But now I'm pregnant again after just 2months of the d&c and the baby is just fine. Just give it some time to grieve and you'll be blessed with another baby soon. God bless u.
I know your now tired of hearing the I'm sorrys and want an answer! And unless they did a test on the fetus you won't know. I lost my first pregnancy around 5 weeks and had a D&C, we tried for a year and was finally able to get pregnant then all hell broke loose and had our son at 27 weeks 1lb 10oz 3 months in the NICU and he came home and was amazing!!! (Don't read to far into the next bit cause it's all sad) at 14month we lost him and don't really know why, I then found out (a week to the day after loosing him) my dad had cancer and it wasn't "treatable" all we could do was make him happy. Then I found out I was pregnant AGAIN you couldn't Imagine how happy we were but I then I lost her at 5 weeks but didn't find out till I was 8 weeks ... I hated 5 weeks!!! Then I lost my dad 10months to the day of loosing my son, then found out I was pregnant again .. The next day was another sad day. Now I am 11 weeks pregnant and get to go see a specialist every other week to make sure it goes as planned... "Planned" is full term!
Keep in mind it will not get better! BUT. It will get different! Learn from people around you but take it all with a grain of salt!
I hated hearing "I'm so sore for your loss, but you're young you can have more"
And the saying "God will only give you what you can handle" is a bunch of horse $#*t! He will and has but you learn and grow! Listen to what he says, he'll speak so that you can hear him, all you have to do is be still and willing to hear him, it took me a long time to hear him again but he did tell me as soon as my husbands friend had her twins (I was so mad and jealous, I always wanted twins) that it would be my turn again and that all would be okay!
So grow from the loss when you can pick yourself up! And take not each day but each moment a minute at a time, if you need a break, go take you a break! Gods love be with you sweetie and DONT forget about dad, he's hurting too! He just my not be showing it. So love on him, love on each other and cling to each other, let your love grow together and it will bloom!
Re: I lost my baby :(
Baby #2 due August 2015
Keep in mind it will not get better! BUT. It will get different! Learn from people around you but take it all with a grain of salt!
I hated hearing "I'm so sore for your loss, but you're young you can have more"
And the saying "God will only give you what you can handle" is a bunch of horse $#*t! He will and has but you learn and grow! Listen to what he says, he'll speak so that you can hear him, all you have to do is be still and willing to hear him, it took me a long time to hear him again but he did tell me as soon as my husbands friend had her twins (I was so mad and jealous, I always wanted twins) that it would be my turn again and that all would be okay!
So grow from the loss when you can pick yourself up! And take not each day but each moment a minute at a time, if you need a break, go take you a break! Gods love be with you sweetie and DONT forget about dad, he's hurting too! He just my not be showing it. So love on him, love on each other and cling to each other, let your love grow together and it will bloom!