Please help me-Should I call the cops?

babygroves · January 2009

My Mom called me and said to have my Dad call my little sister b/c she is losing her mind. My mom said she can't talk about what is going on because she is at work. I called my Dad and he is working the front desk at the Court House and he can't call her right now. I called my older sister and asked if she knew what was going on and she said she knows that on my little sisters 5 year anniversary with her bf she found out he has been cheating (they also have 2 children together). I live about 45 minutes away from my sister and the baby is sick and I'm not about to load him up and drive down there. She is not answering her phone calls or text messages. What should I do??? Should I have the cops make a check on the house?

Brand_E · January 2009

If I understand what you are typing is that she is home alone? You are worried about her hurting herself...

If so,

I say YES. Maybe it will seem like you are overreacting, but in my opinion...better safe than sorry.

jamie5315 · January 2009

Does he have a history of violence or something? I wouldn't call the cops based on what you posted. They are most likely arguing I would think.

mrs_harper · January 2009

I'm not sure what to do in this situation, but I hope your sister and her children are ok and everything works out for the best. ((((hugs))))

Hayden'sMommy · January 2009

45 minutes is not too far to drive if your sister needs you.

JustMarried2005 · January 2009

I wouldn't call the cops based on what you said. However, I would definitely go see her if I was in your shoes, sick child or not.

sweetmelissa0901 · January 2009

No, I wouldn't without her consent. If they stay together it'll just cause drama later. I'd drive to check on her, even with a sick baby, but that's just me.

Soter1 · January 2009

you can make the trip....but I can see wanting to make sure she was home.

babygroves · January 2009

I *don't* think he is violent, but she can be. I am most worried for her kids, she loses her temper easily with them and I'm afraid she is going to hurt them. I have told her that if she hurts her kids I would call CPS. I was thinking I could call the cops anonymously?

babygroves · January 2009

I just tried to call her again and she turned off her phone.

nbptbride · January 2009

I'd take a trip up to her house.

jamie5315 · January 2009

Maybe you can get the kids so she can have time alone to process things? Or go over there to offer support??

PieDB · January 2009

Go with your gut...police officers will do wellness checks on people. Don't feel like you can't ask them to do this.

vanillacourage · January 2009

Hayden'sMommy:
45 minutes is not too far to drive if your sister needs you.

Um, ditto this. You'd really call the cops before driving 45 minutes to help your sister?!

And what are you going to tell the cops? "My sister won't answer her phone!!!"? If you don't have any concrete reason to worry they won't get involved.

MommaBrown · January 2009

honestly i wouldn't call the police. its a waste of time. Unless you are afraid she will hurt herself they probably will not go check on her. On the off-chance that they do go out and check on her, thats all they can do unless she has obviously committed some offense.?

We had to call the police on my brother once from across the country. He was calling us and making worrisome comments?(he has mental & drug issues). We asked for the police to check on him. They said they wouldn't go out and look unless we had not heard from him for a certain period of time. I think it was like two days.

if you are really that worried go see her. ?

babygroves · January 2009

My Dad is in Law Enforcement (he retired and went back when needed). I called him again and said he would call her at noon and then possibly have them to a welfare check on my sister. She does have a history (especially a few years ago) and I know that a neighbor has called on her before.

CoastieWife08 · January 2009

vanillacourage:
Hayden'sMommy:
45 minutes is not too far to drive if your sister needs you.

Um, ditto this. You'd really call the cops before driving 45 minutes to help your sister?!

And what are you going to tell the cops? "My sister won't answer her phone!!!"? If you don't have any concrete reason to worry they won't get involved.

Ditto this, too.

If you are that worried, get in a car and GO!

Hayden'sMommy · January 2009

You could have been halfway there by now.

lizzyjames · January 2009

How sick is your baby? I'd load the kid up and head over there if baby only has a cold or something not too bad. I'd be there in a heartbeat.

babygroves · January 2009

I'm talking to her now......

7/04Bride · January 2009

I'm glad you got in touch with her. Maybe you should go see her.

babygroves · January 2009

It has to do with her bf cheating on her.He didn't touch her but did punch holes in the wall at the house. The kids were home and she is on her way to take them to school. Then she is going to my moms house and doing laundry. I told her not to go back there since he is off of work today and it will just be a screaming match. She said she was going to stay away from the house as long as she can and maybe go stay with a friends aunt who lives close by the kids school. I suggested she should go to our gma's house a few hours away and hang out there for a few days and relax, but she isn't sure she wants to do that. I would let them come here and hang out, but both me and baby are sick.

babygroves · January 2009

Oh...and she said she is DONE with him. She has been with him for 6 years and can't believe what he has done to her. Acting like he wanted to get married and have more kids has even hurt her more. She DESERVES better and CAN DO better. I'm kind of glad. I just hope she really leaves him and gets her own place this time.

fire0513fly · January 2009

If there is going to be custody issues, the last thing she wants is a well check in her file, saying something like she was possibley suicidal.

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