Nervous about Announcing

Jeanne & Dustin · February 2015

Is anyone else nervous/scared to death :-/ about announcing their pregnancy?? I'm 11wks today, everything is normal, but I'm so scared as soon as we tell anyone I'll miscarry. We are telling our mothers tonight!!

megans35 · February 2015

I'm 9.4 and I was petrified to buy maternity clothes. I was sure as I bought them if miscarry so I completely understand what your saying. I even went as far as having nightmares about it.

You'll be fine!

Jeanne & Dustin · February 2015

Thanks ladies!

GeorgiaDottie · February 2015

I too am very nervous as I had 2 miscarriages early in 2 previous pregnancies. We've seen the heartbeat 3 times already and yet we still haven't told our families. We don't plan on doing any sort of social media post as we will tell those that are important to us when we see them. (I personally don't need 500+ people on FB knowing all of my business but that's just me.)

I am 10weeks on Weds so getting more comfortable with the idea that this is my rainbow. I don't know if the stress ever goes away but the RE did tell me my chances of miscarrying now that the HB was so strong are 2% or less.

Jeanne & Dustin · February 2015

I'm sorry to hear about your previous miscarriages :-(
This is my first pregnancy, but seeing friends and family go through a miscarriage and having to tell ppl scared me into keeping this between the hubby and I as long as possible! We are only telling our parents this week and close family and friends around wk 13/14, not sure how I feel about putting it on FB yet.
Good luck to you!!

rablissful · February 2015

People have said in other posts that waiting to tell makes them feel like they are waiting for their baby to die. We told our families right away because we were too excited, but also because if anything were to happen we'd need support. We're waiting to tell the social media etc though. In the end it's your choice. Miscarriages can unfortunately happen any time in pregnancy for no reason, but like pp has said, once you hear the heartbeat it's down to a 2% chance. My advise is to not let that stress you out because there's nothing you can do to prevent it. There is no need to take on that added stress. Today you are pregnant and you will continue to be pregnant until your doctor tells you otherwise. That deserves to be celebrated, not hidden.

cjstats87 · February 2015

We told my parents and siblings as soon as we had a pos test bc we had a vaca set for the week before I'd be due!!! Had to change that ASAP!!! We told mil and fil after our first apt and friends and family yesterday at our DS Bday party! 9w along and the "blump" was bad!! I've had to wear maternity pant for the last 2 weeks! Yikes! #3 and bloated like CRAZY makes you look huge!!

WheresTheGlow · February 2015

We announced to everyone on Thursday, I was 12 weeks exactly, and completely nervous. But we received so many well wishes, support, and love that it felt right. And at the nucal? scan the doctor told me the risk of a miscarriage went down dramatically. Enjoy each precious moment and announce when it feels right

megans35 · February 2015

I'm waiting until my 11 week scan to announce to work. ...I think. My boss knows some I take lunch breaks to run to the dr, sometimes they run over. The reason I haven't announced is because I don't know how. I hate being center of attention.

GingerPop79 · February 2015

I totally get it. I had found out I was pregnant last summer and announce right away because I was so excited. I ended up miscarrying in Seotember and I received so much support, love, and kind messages between family, friends, and social media. It was amazing and so helpful. When I found out I was pregnant again in January my SO and I decided to wait to announce until we had been to a couple of midwife appointment. Honestly it's driving me crazy because I'm so ready for everyone to know! This coming weekend I will finally be telling my family. You really have to go with what feels right to you.

jennifer26 · February 2015

This is my third child and I'm still nervous about telling people!

twinamato · February 2015

I am 8w5d today and everyone knows. We just couldn't stop telling people. Maybe because this is my first pregnancy? I told my parents (both his and mine) the day after we found out, along with our siblings! Then we told close friends as we saw them in person... and then, a few days ago, we made a social media announcement. Once we had the healthy ultrasound we felt it was ok to announce!

GeorgiaDottie · February 2015

@Jeanne I guess here's how I feel about it now that I've thought a bit more about it since writing my response. I am always going to be terrified, I dont know if that will go away until that baby is in my arms. But at the same time I can't spend the next 30 weeks being scared. Today I am pregnant and tomorrow I will be pregnant. I think once we are past 12 weeks we'll start to tell a few close friends, those people who will be there should I need them to hold my hand. Does that make sense? It is sort of fun having this little secret though. A few weeks ago I went to a baby shower and everyone was asking the mama to be how she was feeling and she was talking about how sick she had been at the beginning, and how exhausted. I just smiled because I knew exactly what she was feeling.

Jeanne & Dustin · February 2015

Thank you, this is all so helpful! It has been kind of fun having this big secret between my husband and I, but at the same time we've been so excited to announce the good news! I definitely don't want it to seem like I'm waiting for my baby to die, I wish no one ever has to suffer through a miscarriage! I just don't want to go through having to tell ppl if I did. My mom miscarried before she was pregnant with me and was so excited she told everyone and said telling everyone she lost the baby was the hardest thing she's ever had to do, so I'm just nervous! Y'all are right though, the baby is here right now and I'm enjoying every second of it

I can't wait to hold her or him. I guess worrying about the safety of my child is something that will always be there and I better get used to it now!!
Thanks!!

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