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Baby baptizing

tabbyjohnsontabbyjohnson member
in April 2015 Moms
is it wrong of me to wanna wait to have my daughter baptized right after she is born? MIL thinks you can't have godparents unless your child is baptized in the Catholic Church. I'm not even cathloic and nor will I force a religion on my child till they our ready to make that relationship with God or whoever they decide to worship.
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  • tabbyjohnsontabbyjohnson member
    I didn't know that either
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  • clover28clover28 member
    Are you for real with this?
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  • juliaandpatrickjuliaandpatrick member
    The norm is to wait 3-6 months, but I was baptized twice, in two different religions (baptisms don't just take place in Catholic Churches but most branches of Christianity) once as an infant and then again around 8, and am not religious today.
    I feel like the parents who aren't religious and baptize their babies are just looking for money for the child (probably not the case but just my take on it).
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  • taramantertaramanter member
    My daughter was baptised at age 8 when she decided she wanted to be... My family didn't all agree with not doing it as an infant but it wasn't up to them.
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  • dbsbaby2015dbsbaby2015 member
    I was not baptized as a child but my husband's mother is very much involved and led by her Catholic faith. If we do baptize our tiny human as a young child, it would only be out of reflect for her. I personally believe it should be something a person decides for themselves, but the fact that it is so near and dear to her heart would persuade me to consider doing it when it's traditionally done in the Catholic Church.
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  • tabbyjohnsontabbyjohnson member
    No, I grew up in a Methodist church and her father grew up in the Catholic Church and his mother is forcing for our daughter to be baptized and to grow up in the Catholic Church. Her father hasn't been involved with the Catholic Church since he was a little boy. I don't wanna make her upset but yet Id rather my daughter make the decision to have a religion or not
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  • Pix3llePix3lle member

    tabbyjohnson said:
    No, I grew up in a Methodist church and her father grew up in the Catholic Church and his mother is forcing for our daughter to be baptized and to grow up in the Catholic Church. Her father hasn't been involved with the Catholic Church since he was a little boy. I don't wanna make her upset but yet Id rather my daughter make the decision to have a religion or not
    His mother can't "force" you to baptise her in a certain church (or baptise her at all), nor can she force you to take her to that church.
    I don't know the procedure but i'm pretty sure there would be forms that would need YOUR signature. If not, what is she going to do? kidnapp her in the middle of the night to baptise her!?

    What is your SO's opinion? (apologies if it's been posted and i missed it)

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  • tabbyjohnsontabbyjohnson member
    @Pix3lle‌ MIL doesn't even practice her own religion anymore and now all of sudden is such a holy person.

    My opinion is if me and him both agree she will be baptized in the church of our choosing but, at this point I could care less what MIL has to say.

    She's a MIL who constantly calls out baby her baby so she will make the decisions for her. When in all reality she's not my daughters mom she's her grandma
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  • Pix3llePix3lle member
    @tabbyjohnson
    She sounds like she's being a real pain in the behind!

    Well if she wont listen to that reasonable point i think the only thing you can do is to either make it perfectly clear that she is your daughter and you may or may not baptise her and it is really not your MIL's place to decide anything for you. 

    Best of luck with it.
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  • mrsmeyer419mrsmeyer419 member
    Both my parents were craddle Catholics and all my brothers and sisters and I are as well. I will be baptizing Gabriella around 6 months. However daddy isn't at all religious and his father thinks it's wrong to baptize an infant, that I should wait until she's older. But it isn't his child lol so I personally don't care what he thinks. All tht matters is her daddy and I agreed on doing it as a infant. Don't let grandparents away your decision
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