I vented about this a bit during the weekly post, but I wanted to see if any of you other ladies are in a similar situation and how you're handling it with baby-plans.
We have four sets of parents. My two sets live about 45 minutes away, and his two sets live about five hours away. They're all very well-intentioned people who very much want to be involved with their grandson, but as with any parents, they can get extremely grating and annoying as hell, and within each set, there is one VERY pushy parent. So we get a lot of, "Well, you do that with X and X. Why not us?" So making things "fair" has always been a struggle, and I'm over it.
We've discussed our parameters for first few months but haven't told any of the parents yet. And I'm just avoiding any holiday discussions because they're already asking and driving me nuts. So my hubby is planning to tell his parents that they can visit but cannot stay with us for three months. (Both of his sets expect to stay with us anytime they're in town, which is about five times a year, because neither of my BILs here have extra bedrooms.) Both sets aren't the type of people who would be helpful with baby in any way shape or form.
And we're planning on not telling anyone until after we're out of the hospital and maybe ask for no visitors for a week, so as to avoid eight people bombarding us at the hospital and right away at home. But because of that, I do feel a little bad for my parents that they're getting shut out a bit in an effort to keep the out-of-town parents away until we're settled.
I feel like DH is going to be playing role of referee way too much during those first few weeks when I want him to be able to relax and try to settle into our new routines. Frankly, I don't give a shit about hurting any of their feelings. I'm just trying to figure out the best way to manage them and set expectations to keep our lives sane.
How are you guys handling something like this?
Re: Anyone dealing with eight grandparents-to-be?