no more hanky panky??

lopezroke · February 2015

Is anyone else having a depleted sex life? This is my second and with the first my husband and i had sex maybe a handful of times but we were having many other issues so i thought it was that. But now with this second im seeing the same pattern minus the problems and i tried sparking interest with some naughty pictures and he was weird about it. Didnt spark interest like i thought. Anyone else going through this?

missmandah · February 2015

Since the night we made this baby I can count on one hand how many times we have had sex. I have zero interest in it. Before I was pregnant we were very very very active.

pregat40 · February 2015

I lose libido when pregnant too. No Bueno.

hrossi253 · February 2015

My husband has been trying to bribe me with new purses to get some. I just have zero sex drive. It's really bad and I feel terrible for him, but it's just not fun. I hope that the second trimester gets better for sure!

az1027 · February 2015

I get nauseous when we have sex

bellaluna981 · February 2015

I'm on a medical restriction, so even if I was interested, I still couldn't. Some guys get weird about sex during pregnancy, so maybe talk about it? As long as there is no medical issues, assure him it's safe. That's usually the hang up.

adtaylor2015 · February 2015

My sex drive always increases during pregnancy, even though it's high to begin with. I would definitely talk to him and find out what's wrong.

puddinpop95 · February 2015

My husband had to hear from the doctor herself that it was safe. Guys get weird about it. Understandable I guess. I haven't had any interest but if I'm not feeling sick, i try to at least act interested for his sake haha

bumptink · February 2015

My drive has been super lacking. I've pretty much been doing to to give him a favor since I've been pregnant but that just makes it no fun for him. He did text me the other night after I had fallen asleep before him and said, "Wake me up naked..."
That was the trick! Knowing he wanted me so bad really turned me on and we had the best sex that we've had in a couple of months!
I'm usually the one with the super high drive (like I could do it every day, twice a day most days...) so I'm hoping it goes back to normal soon!

twinamato · February 2015

My own sex drive has almost vanished. My boyfriend is not too happy about it and is even taking it personally but I can't help it. When it would be time to get busy I am sooooo tired and just want to go to sleep!! I wish he knew I am not just using the pregnancy as an excuse (cause that is what I believe he thinks!!!).

va74momof2 · February 2015

After the past MCs, he wouldn't touch me until Dr. said everything was good (8 week appt). About 6 weeks, I started feeling bad all the time, so I didn't even think about it. I am 10 weeks tomorrow and now feel better about 3/4 of the time...enough to notice that I am missing sex! I tried to spark interest this week and he got mad at me and said he was tired. I know he is because he has been working and going back to school...but I really think it is more about the baby. I think he is still freaked out about doing something to hurt the baby. I'm hoping in a couple more weeks that he will be in the mood...otherwise, I may just do something naughty and make him watch!

nikkidavis421 · February 2015

My hubby and I have no issues in the bedroom (pregnant or not) but my sister and her hubby refused to have sex both times that she was pregnant and she didn't have any medical issues. We just could not wrap our heads around that when we found that out..lol

Melzig76 · February 2015

We have a few time since our BFP, but I'm so tired I literally lay down and fall asleep. Normally for me in the 2nd & 3rd tri we will get back to normal.

tigerfish227 · February 2015

I'm finally starting to get mine back at week 10. I was so exhausted and nauseas the last month or so that I just had no interest but starting to feel better and OMG it has been amazing!! The last couple times we have done the deed it has been so intense. Even he has said it has been better. What was funny was today when he told our little Guppy not to pay attention to what was going to happen. Haha! I told him don't worry baby's eyes are still closed at this point.

KMJames15 · February 2015

My BF doesn't really understand that I'm just not feeling it like I usually do. He has me send him naughty pics for him to pleasure himself w/!! I was thinking maybe watching a porn before may do the trick but who knows. I just wanna lay on my couch and watch Redbox

jennifer26 · February 2015

az1027 said:
I get nauseous when we have sex

Ugh me too. I don't want anyone or anything touching me!

lopezroke · February 2015

I have had a slight decrease in the normal sex drive but ive always been the one with a higher sex drive and hes just being so weird. I think it is the baby but i hope he come around. Maybe i will take him to my next appt at the Dr so he can hear from a professional that its ok. Because this is really going to be frustrating if he wont put out for the next 30 weeks

morgy_bee · February 2015

My sex drive always waivers during pregnancy with the peak in the 2nd trimester. First trimester is rough....

shelbydd · February 2015

We're still having sex but it's definitely not as frequent as it was before. We went from 2-3 times a week to maybe 1. I think a lot of it has to do with the fatigue, though. I don't have the energy to do much of anything, sex included.

bechickie · February 2015

I haven't had sex this year

indogbeersiveonlyhadone · February 2015

I had zero sex drive since I found out I was pregnant and I had zero sensation down there if we did have sex which totally turned me off even more. Then the OB told me because I went to medium risk no sex till after the first tri which I could have cared less about, DH of course demanded a second opinion LOL. However I'm 13w (tomorrow) and have found I'm not only getting my sex drive back, but I also got sensation back which is totally awesome!!! So DH and I are back in track. Not as much as before I was pregnant, we were very very active before but we are having sex more.
I think the first tri is filled with us just being consumed by feeling like a shit sandwich that wantin anything dealin with sex or even anything dealing with a lot of motion turns us off. But, keep your hope because in the tail end of the first tri and I to the second tri hopefully you'll get your sex drive back.

kfbalaor · February 2015

Oh yes... Hubby and I talked about this ahead of time too just so we could understand each other's frame of mind. I haven't had a depleted libido. It had been bouncing off the walls! However, between the stress of his work and the strangeness of our little someone in there, he's more likely to turn down sex. Sometimes when he's being sweet like rubbing my arm or something, I do have to tell him off because it riles me up and I know he doesn't want to have sex. It's frustrating for sure but I just have to be patient and understanding of him

3girlsandababy · February 2015

Hang in there - although we are riding the hormone roller coaster, they feed off of us. I know that my husband needed to know he was not hurting the baby, too. My interest fluctuates with the time of gestation!! Right now we are smooth sailing - but we both expect to find intimacy in other ways when needed. I suggest talking to him- letting him know how much you love him and the importance of feeling as beautiful today you did a few months ago- good luck!

LoveDarlingRose · February 2015

We've Been very active even before this pregnancy,But now my drive is extremely high. I wanna have sex every time were alone. The Orgasms are Blissful. I've felt nauseated afterwards tho a time Or two,that's The only down Fall so far. The nausea is like a stalker waiting around every corner.

wilcoxev · February 2015

I have zero sex drive so far in this pregnancy 12 weeks. Like legit I could probably go months without it and be perfectly happy. The hubby still wants it though. I make sure we do it at least once a week though. We went on vacation last week and did it 3 times so I was proud of myself lol. I don't feel nauseous anymore , I just have no desire, I don't even really like to be touched at this point.

Mufflerlove · February 2015

My poor husband. I had zero sex drive while Pregnant or nursing then as soon as it came back we got pregnant immediately haha

indogbeersiveonlyhadone · February 2015

Mufflerlove said:

My poor husband. I had zero sex drive while Pregnant or nursing then as soon as it came back we got pregnant immediately haha

This just happened to my cousin!!! She just had a baby Sep 1, 2014 and now she is due with child #2 Sep 7, 2015! She said just as she was getting a little sex drive back she ended up pregnant. All of our Poor husbands LOL

Mine said to me the other day in the saddest voice I have ever heard "You know baby... I just get so... so...sex deprived lately.. I'm just so sad" hahahahaha

tinamarie1021 · February 2015

Same here @twinamato‌ smh

WheresTheGlow · February 2015

My drive went up, my husband went away completely. I've told him it would be fine but he's completely weirded out and said he doesn't mind waiting. Porn is a lifesaver, for both of us LoL

insomniack17 · February 2015

How interesting. Hubby and I haven't skipped a beat when it comes to the bedroom. Only time we had a set back was when I had my first child and the doctor told us to not do anything for 3 months until I healed from my stitches. Even now with this pregnancy we still find ways to please each other and find new ways to keep each other satisfied. He just doesn't seem at all bothered that there is a growing human inside me. Bigger belly...new positions. It can be fun if you don't over think it. As far as nausea, I guess mine hasn't been too extreme to not want to do anything.

smiversen · February 2015

My SO was so excited because everybody says you have sex so much more when you're pregnant. Definitely hasn't been the case with us! He's finally getting somewhat used to it though... Poor guy. Lol

excited2bmommy09 · February 2015

It's interesting to read all these different stories. My SO has been away 6 of the 10 weeks I've been pregnant so sadly we haven't had much opportunity to have sex. But I do find myself thinking about it ALL THE TIME! I'm not sure if its because he is away and I miss him or hormones or what, but its crazy! He comes home in a week and a half and I cant hardly wait to jump him lol

apayne0731 · February 2015

With our first we had sex about 4 times.

Now that he knows that it is ok, we have been doing the deed just as much as before, even though most of the time I am taking one for the team. Some positions are starting to be uncomfortable and I can't stop thinking about how bad I have to pee.

cmehlhof · February 2015

Same here

beansideirae · February 2015

my hubby wasn't interested in sex for a while, he said he just wasn't feeling it but I think he was worried about the baby (we had a loss recently). but as we're approaching the end of first tri and everything seems ok, he's regaining interest...unfortunately I have no drive and am super tired!! but I'm trying to make some effort. poor guy, haha.

jessbruxanova · February 2015

Hanky panky is just so exhausting right now.

JosefinK · February 2015

bechickie said:
I haven't had sex this year

We haven't since day of conception, which I believe was January 4... I feel really bad about it but I just can't bring myself to it. Luckily I think OH is scared that I'll bleed (scared something will go wrong) so we've decided to wait until I'm out of the first trimester. It's taken a bit of pressure off at least...But I seriously hope I get my mojo back!

Knottie00400192 · February 2015

Don't feel bad, my sex drive is gone right now. I've even lost the urge to wax down there, resulting to shaving when I feel like it. Sorry. But yeah I just don't feel sexy and I am back to feeling sick all over again. I'm just ready to feel normal and horny LOL

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