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Possibly pregnant only 3 months after stillbirth.. scared out of my mind!! Please help :(

jenaabugjenaabug member
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I am 20 years old, and had a stillbirth in November of 2014.. it was my first pregnancy and it was a baby girl. I lost her at 22 weeks, and the doctors had no explanation whatsoever. I was not on birth control this month, and have had unprotected sex all this month. We are ready to conceive again, but if I did get pregnant this month, I will be anxious the whole pregnancy because I don't want the same thing to happen again. After the stillbirth, we spent the next two months doing every test possible and there was literally nothing wrong with me or the baby :/ Although I am glad that nothing is wrong with me, it is terrifying to know there is nothing I can do to prevent it next time. Any advice would be appreciated at this point. I can't take a test for ten more days so I have no idea if I am pregnant or not this month.. but we tried, and I think I have a good chance of being pregnant. 
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Re: Possibly pregnant only 3 months after stillbirth.. scared out of my mind!! Please help :(

  • TheBorg7of9TheBorg7of9 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. If you had good timing, you have about a 20% chance to conceive each cycle. So don't be too discouraged if it's not your month. There is a loss board on this site and also on the dark side which you might want to check out.
    My TTC History:
    2009: missed miscarriage #1 at 9 weeks (trisomy 16)
    2010: Infertility
    2011: Diagnosis and treatment (low sperm count, anastrozole for DH, clomid for me + IUI)
    2012: Baby #1
    2014: Baby #2
    October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
    March 2016 BFP#5, due November 2016.

    My Charts since 2009

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  • KonaCoffeeBeanKonaCoffeeBean member
    A stillbirth at 22 weeks is an absolutely devastating loss. You might try some grief counseling for a little while. Good luck with a TTC.
    Coffee Bean Born 6/13/15.
    2nd round exp 8/20/18.
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  • happylife7happylife7 member
    So sorry for your loss. I would definitely check out the TTCAL board as there will be more people with similar experiences. Best wishes for you for a happy and healthy momma and baby in your future. Just keep in mind that no two pregnancies are alike and your first little blessing was just too perfect to live here on earth. Hugs to you!
    Married: 6.28.14
    TTC #1: 2.1.15
    BFP: 2.23.15 EDD: 11.6.15  

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  • lifeislove87lifeislove87 member
    I'm sorry for your loss. How you are feeling is completely normal. Like other posters have said, even with the best timing your chance of pregnancy is 20% every cycle. From what you wrote it seems like you are still in the grieving process. Loss of pregnancy is devastating and the grief can be overwhelming. If you are not seeing someone perhaps you could look into talking to a counsellor. They aren't for everyone but there are some that specialize in grief that can be helpful now and when you get pregnant again. They can't erase the fear and anxiety but can give you strategies to manage it.
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  • wildbakerwildbaker member
    I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • emalemal member
    You may be a candidate for progesterone shots. Talk to your OBGYN about them, they can aid in the prevention of preterm labor. GL
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  • DMGKDMGK member
    I had a stillbirth at 38 weeks. I understand completely about the fear.
    I send warm wishes for a healthy pregnancy.
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  • jenaabugjenaabug member
    Thank you all. I am just hoping I have a positive. I am ready to try again and be pregnant again. No matter how long I may decided to wait, I will ALWAYS have a fear in the back of my mind.. it will be there as long as I live, but I am ready to try. 
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  • jenaabugjenaabug member
    And can anyone direct me to those other boards? I just started using my account the other day when I made this post.. and I am not sure how to get onto any other boards.
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  • happylife7happylife7 member
    No matter if you are mobile or on a desktop computer, there will be a community tab you can click (desktop it will be top right, mobile app it will be bottom in middle. That will show you categories of boards and all of the individual boards in each category.
    Married: 6.28.14
    TTC #1: 2.1.15
    BFP: 2.23.15 EDD: 11.6.15  

        Pregnancy Ticker
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  • jenaabugjenaabug member
    I found it. Thank you all ♥
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  • Elizabel714Elizabel714 member
    I was in the same page as you as well only that I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. It was horrible and dont want to imagine how it was at 22 weeks for you! Sorry for your loss. I always say things happen for a reason! And now I think I may be pregnant again :) we will see :) Best of luck for you!
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  • jessnjuan07jessnjuan07 member
    I'm so very sorry for your loss. Blessings to you and your family.
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