Miscarriage at 5 weeks :(

genie777 · February 2015

Well i lost it. it seriously is mind Fing.. I was pregnant, i had all the symptoms and now i am sitting here with severe period cramps..My HCG went down from 35 to 23 yesterday.. I am in tears.. I seriously feel for any of you that have gone through this.. it is a cruel thing to have happen.. i worry now cause i am 38 and wonder if there is a problem with my body.. how do i know? i also fell on ice at 12 dpo and can't stop blaming myself for it.. i am so stressed.. when can i even start to try again?? i just feel like a mess.. i wanna work out so bad and can't even do that.. i need to relieve this stress somehow.

2pupsnokids · February 2015

I'm so sorry. My RE told me that most early miscarriages are out of our control and NOTHING to do with anything you did. I know, everything seems to revolve around ttc and it can be heartbreaking, frustrating and stressful. I'm so sorry for your loss, but don't blame yourself. I think that the best parents are those who had to work hard to become them (my parents struggled to have kids for years, I wouldn't be around if they didn't have to wait so long) just hang in there, you have support here. Don't be hard on yourself and let yourself grieve and give yourself some slack.

TTC: 21 Months
Husband: 41
Me: 36
3 failed IUIs
changed REs
1 failed IVF (chemical pregnancy)
13 5-day frozen embryos

emsmama15 · February 2015

I'm sorry for your loss...

happyktmom · February 2015

I'm so sorry to hear this. Just know that this is not your fault. I have been told by many medical doctors as well as spiritualists that the first loss is the hardest but usually means it wasn't right. I fell on the ice when I was 32 weeks pregnant with my daughter. I was in the parking lot of the OB and immediately went back up to make sure if everything was ok. Everything was fine. This couldn't have been that, know that.
Can I suggest yoga or accupunture? It relieves stress so much and can only be good for you and your baby making.
Hugs and prayers for your stress relief!

hooligans4 · February 2015

Sorry for your loss.
Falling on ice did not cause your miscarriage.
When you have your follow up with your doctor ask them when you can start trying again.
If you want to make site all is well with you and your partner then make an apt with a RE. They will do all the proper testing.
Take care if yourself as you go through this. It sucks and it is emotional so let it all out. Don't hold it in. Cry when you need or be mad or sad. You will go through a rainbow of emotions, I know I did.
This board is very supportive so I hope you start to participate with us. I makes it easier knowing you have others to help you.

sonpetitlapin · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know the falling on the ice is not your fault or cause.

rspalding001 · February 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like others have said it's not your fault, the fall didn't cause it. Treat yourself to something nice and try to take it easy. Big hugs!!!

suziq1978 · February 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

gfgrump · February 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Not much more to add, but wanted to support what others have said. Know that it wasn't your fault. And also a nod to acupuncture or yoga or whatever else helps you let out the feelings of despair.

That is just so unfair!! Hang in there. We're here for ya.