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Single mom

megs3132megs3132 member
in September 2015 Moms
im pregnant with my first child at 34. I've had a lot of harsh criticism from friends about my irresponsibility of getting pregnant and bringing a child into the world without a father. It does sound lovely to have someone by my side to share in all the joys that will come, but it's simply not the case. I just can't imagine not giving this child a chance at life because I don't have a "perfect" situation. I can't be the only person that got pregnant by accident and had a child alone...
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  • Jbuettner01Jbuettner01 member
    I have a 6 year old and I am 2 months right now and neither father will be I'm their lives. I was in a relationship with the first but I am not getting married because I am pregnant. There is nothing wrong! The situation might not be ideal but I would not change it for the world! Good luck!!!!
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  • smorgandorphersmorgandorpher member
    I'm almost 30 and I'm pregnant with my first child. The father is in the picture but we aren't together. My family are overjoyed, I have a good job and will be able to support this baby and bring it up in a loving home by myself
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  • snikaisnikai member
    I was a single mom for over a decade. There are those negative people out there, but for the most part I found people that were supportive and understanding, so perhaps its just the people you are spending time with.
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  • msmee1224msmee1224 member
    I was married and still a single parent...my ex husband was a scumb bag to me everytime i would get pregnant. The important thing is that you are happy and you and baby are healthy good luck ☺
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  • PlainJane8350PlainJane8350 member
    You're 34, not 16, that's hardly irresponsible. If you want children, then you should have them! My aunt waited for Mr. Right and by the time she got married she was too old to have children. I'm sorry, but it looks like you may have to ask those "friends" to keep their judgements... I mean, opinions to themselves until they can get on board and be supportive. Don't let them steal this joy from you, I'm sure you think about it enough yourself. Excited for you!
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  • manu246manu246 member
    Don't listen to anyone who feels like they need to judge you.  I really admire anyone that has the strength to go through this by themselves.  As long as you feel you can provide for your child and give them all the love and support they need, that's all you need. Everyone else should keep their negativity to themselves. 
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  • brandeyrnbrandeyrn member
    Sweetie I'm right there with you. Often times we don't get to pick and choose everything in our lives. Give your baby the ultimate gift of life. Forget what other people say or feel. When you have your child it will not be easy BUT it will be worth it. The love you will have for your precious baby is like none other. Congratulations Momma!
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  • megs3132megs3132 member
    Thank you for the support.
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  • excited2bmommy09excited2bmommy09 member
    I've seen more kids turn out unhappy and messed up that come from homes with mom and dad together than I have with a single parent. Just because parents are together in the socially acceptable situation does not mean its happy or healthy. Ignore your friends, life is not full of lovely cookie cutter situations and we do the best we can. You are going to be a great mom and that is all your baby needs :)  
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  • indogbeersiveonlyhadoneindogbeersiveonlyhadone member
    My mom had me when she was very young and my father was and has never been in the picture. You can raise this child perfectly well on your own, and don't let anyone try to put some crap in your head that just because you're single that you can't. There are plenty of women (as you've read in this thread) that have or are about to raise children on their own and I'm sure like my single mother, they are wonderful parents.
    You go girl!!! Much love and respect for ya!
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