Common name debacle

Tarebear17 · February 2015

Hi everyone. I will be a FTM and my husband and I are trying to pick our baby girl's name. Many months ago I told my husband a list of names that were possible Names I was considering. He immediately rejected all of them except for one and has now been attached to that name ever since. I do really like the name but it is sort of common. I am not usually a big fan of common names being a teacher. Plus a good friend told me that I shouldn't choose common names because they're boring. So now I'm don't know what to do. Again, I like the name my husband chose but I could like other more unique names too. Advice?

frownyface · February 2015

Find a name you both like equally.

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Tarebear17 · February 2015

Thanks erinkaym, that is helpful advice. No, it's not Madison. I'm from Wisconsin and definitely wouldn't name her after our capital! The name we like is pretty classic and I feel like I don't hear of it often around where I live. Choosing one name is sure hard. I'm not mad at my husband for getting stuck on the name. He was just giving his honest response. I guess I always thought I'd choose something really different. My friend's comment about common names being born get got in my head more simply because I am liking a common name. It felt like sort of an insult. Thanks again.

_JRG_ · February 2015

Teaching makes naming a baby really hard! What name are you considering?

Tarebear17 · February 2015

I would say the name but I feel like I did better not just yet. I've got a friend who trolls The Bump and may be looking for a name idea of her own soon. That probably seems way overly cautious, sorry. I would private message you if I could.

Lida1182 · February 2015

Name your baby what you truly love with help from hubby only, getting friends/family involved makes it so much harder. My H is a sport fanatic, DS is named Tyrus (Ty) after Ty Cobb- baseball player and DS2 will be Maddux after Gregg Maddux. People will criticize the names and we just don't care. Who knows, you may pick a name and when baby is born and you see him/her you might completely change your name. Good luck

juliaandpatrick · February 2015

Don't change your opinion on a name based on others' reactions. I understand not wanting a common name as I have vetoed most names my husband suggested because of it (Emma and Madison were both on his list). I told him I don't want our child to have to go by his/her last name throughout the school years, which he totally understood and was fine with. I don't want our child to be lost in the Amandas, Nicoles, Christophers, Michaels of his/her generation.
But as @erinkaym‌ said, nothing about your child will be boring to you. Go with what you feel is right and what you and your husband agree on. You are the ones who will be living with your daughter and her name after all!

LindsayG86 · February 2015

This happened to my SO and I. I prefer new and different (Hadley, Kennedy, Delaney, Harper, etc) while he really only likes classic names. The one name that was on my list that he could get on board with was Ava. I like Ava, but I hate that it has been in the top ten list for the last 5 or so years. However, when you actually look at how many babies were named Ava in the state of NY, it turns out to be like .01% of the population that have that name, so it made me feel better about settling on it. Our family all love it and have been calling her Ava now since around 20 weeks and it has pretty much stuck. Part of me wishes it was something less common, but at the same time I can't really imagine calling her anything else now.

MommaBre2007 · February 2015

My mom picked my name thinking it was not common. In my kindergarten class there were 3 other Briannas. All spelled differently too. I never felt lost in the shuffle. We all loved having the same name. Like my Mom, I chose the name Morgan thinking it was not common. I became a Preschool teacher when she was a year old and was proven wrong. Way wrong. You never know

I still love my name and I still love the name Morgan

nursemom83 · February 2015

We chose a common name. It's a name we both like. And even though it may be common, I don't know anyone with that name and none of my friends children have the same name.

Sometimes unique names become the more popular ones. My son goes to preschool with 2 Kinleys. Not a common name but a popular name on the rise.

Go with something you like, you both agree on and something your child will not hate you for eventually.

pistachio&blush · February 2015

I have a unique name with a unique spelling. Growing up I never met someone else with my name. I absolutely love my name. With the invention of the internet, google, Facebook etc., I have seen thousands of people with exact same name, unique spelling and all, and my last name. Even after I got married I can google my name and find tons of other people with my married name as well, unique spelling and all.

The point is that there really is no such thing as a unique name. There are going to be other people who have picked the same name no matter what you decide. So go with whatever you like. I don't think the fact that it is common should matter.

keifekm · February 2015

Pick a name that you and DH like and stand by it. LO could hate common names or different names (both have pros and cons). You never can tell what baby will like when they are old enough to care. All I know is that there is not one name out there that EVERYONE likes so you might as well pick one that the 2 of you like.

Also, I think it is sweet that DH calls your baby by a name. There was a thread going awhile ago where several ladies had husbands that seemed to care less about anything. The fact that he has an opinion and is showing you and baby should not go unnoticed. Not that you should feel pressure to go with the name he uses - just that it is sweet he is trying.

kjuryfl · February 2015

If you both love the name then go for it! I was one of 5 Kimberly's in 5th grade and it didn't bother me in the least.

topaz7777 · February 2015

DH and I automatically reject any name in the top 20. Good luck!

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