Newborn Support

kristenrizzo1 · February 2015

I gave birth to my son Friday and came home Sunday. Today I unpacked everything from the hospital and can't find the hat that they put on him after he was born. For some reason I had a breakdown and just cried. Does everyone save these? Is it a big deal if I don't have his?

I'm trying to gauge of it's hormones and it's not something everyone finds important or if I should tear the house apart again looking.

tropicbreeze · February 2015

The first two weeks are really hard emotionally. Just breathe and know you are doing a great job. As for the hat, my parents brought ours home so our dogs could smell it and my mom's dog who is a notorious cotton eater tore it to pieces. We have pictures of him in it and more importantly we have him so I tried not to get too upset about it.
Hang in there momma!

armm · February 2015

@kristenrizzo1‌ I understand where you're coming from. I did bring my lo's hat home, and I'm sorry to hear you can't find yours. Don't fret though. Like @tropicbreeze‌ said, you have your little one and that's all that matters. I'm on the same boat with regard to hormones. Hang in there!

cinnamonstick12 · February 2015

When my daughter was born three years ago we saved everything from the hospital. The hat, hospital bracelets, the paper scrubs my husband wore during the c-section. It seemed important at the time. Completely forgot about them until I cleaned out the closet in the nursery to get ready for this baby. I'll probably keep the bracelets, but everything else can go. After you get through the just gave birth hormone waves and sleep deprivation, it will likely seem less important. I recommend against frantically searching the house for it and napping or cuddling your LO instead. If it is there, it will turn up eventually.

LoriMarie1121 · February 2015

In the grand scheme of everything the hat is not that big of a deal. You have your son and I'm sure pictures of him in it. Yes, it's nice to have but don't beat yourself up over it. I completely understand about the hormones. I've cried numerous times already. It can only get better for all of us.

Mandig990 · February 2015

My daughter was born the day before your baby so we are literally in the same boat. I cried all night because she could latch on anymore when I tried to nurse then I cried all night when I came home because nobody vacuumed my room and the dogs wouldn't stop barking. It's really difficult but we can all lean on each other

WA1215 · February 2015

Ugh, I feel you! Our baby girl was born after I labored then they decided I had to have a c section. They put a hat on her and I saw her, got to kiss her cheek then they took her to nicu for 6 hours. When they finally brought her to my room, the hat was gone. They didn't save it for me.

I'm sad about it still, but I had a bigger melt down worrying about if her and I had a photo of our first time together after nicu. ((Hugs))

Grapes13 · February 2015

I agree with what all the PP have said. This is a hard time, a special time, and an emotional time. I'm a FTM and when we left the hospital the first night we stayed at the DH's parents due to weather. That night a few people in the family stopped by to visit, and they were holding the baby. I probably went an hour with other people holding him. Then my MIL told me to take a nap and she would watch him. I went back to the room and balled my eyes out. When my husband came in about 10 minutes later he asked what was wrong and all I could say was that I was so anxious being so far away from the baby! I mean it was the furthest he had been from me since his existance! And I told him I just missed him so much. I knew it was irrational but the DH didn't think so, he just went and took the baby from everyone and brought him to me. Then he told everyone we needed alone time- just the three of us. I still cried for a good 20 minutes while holding him. Sleep deprecation, hormones, and this new responsibility of being a parent is all hard and scary. But so rewarding. Keep your chin up and know you are not the only one experiencing these things!

blinkchick765 · February 2015

I am so overwhelmed with the same things. I feel like when I lay down to finally try and sleep I worry about everything and can't sleep. I was so tired of being pregnant by the end but now I find myself missing it because at least then I didn't feel like I was totally failing my baby.

anxiousmommy85 · February 2015

It's overwhelming. I get this way and this is my 3rd baby. I tend to remind myself that they're more resilient than they look and, in most cases, will tell you if they need something. Once the postpartum hormones start to level out, this mantra helps me a ton.

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